she missed her period - scared

LegacyUser

my g/f of a couple of months still hasn't had her period. It's now around 36 days. We had a lot of s*x over the past month, and I always wore a condom, but she wasn't on the pill. There was one time I was worried, but she didn't get the morning after pill. I'm scared as hell now and am so afraid. I want to be there for her, but part of me wants to run a mile. Not from her, but just away from this siutation. We both early 20s and are just starting off in good jobs, but our lives would be turned upside town. I just moved into a rented apartment with my best 2 mates, and our young life was just so amazing. I can even bare to think how both are families will think. I've never been so scared in my life....for both of us. Has anyone been in this position? I don't know what to do. She said she'd get a test later today. I don't know what to do. I don't want to be selfish, as I know she's just as scared, but I can't help it. I keep thinking our lives will be ruined, and so will everything we have. I'm just not prepared or ready for this.

Marksie

It is no use panicking until you know for sure.

Down to the chemist NOW, pregnancy testing kit, and find out.

Oriel

scaredboy wrote:

I always wore a condom...There was one time I was worried

Why?

Kinetic^

Marksie wrote:

It is no use panicking until you know for sure.

Down to the chemist NOW, pregnancy testing kit, and find out.

Agreed. Plus they can miss them for weird reasons, them women is stranger than you think.

Awayindahils

Stress can make it worse. In that if you are all physked up for it too soon and then you're all tense and yada yada. It can get a bit delayed. Also check how long her cycle is. If it's 31 day cycle (not as uncommon as you might think) 36 days would be late, but not the full week. take the test, take some deep breaths and seriously she is likely to be far more scared for than you.

AnonoBoy

Get a test. Take it from someone who's been there - there's no point worrying and losing sleep over something that may not even be happening.

Get a test. Worry about it after that.

Maple

do a test. only then can you decide what you want to do if it is a positive result.

bugler

What everyone else said.

By the way, if I had a baby for every time my girlfriend was late, I'd er...have lots of babies. It's not uncommon.

Steyr

Anything can delay a Period, when i was with my ex we made love one night and her period was due a few days later but never arrived as we were having huge fights/ and stress and it tooks ages for her to get it so dont be too worried anything can delay it.

LegacyUser

'Give your girlfriend lots of support. This happened to myself and my gf last summer. we were only going out about two months. I was terrified. It ended up with bad news but we both made it through it. We took the morning after pill, after a condom broke and we used condoms the rest of the time and she still got pregnant. Whatever the outcome if you are good to each other you'll get through it. Its not the end of the world.'

Deadevil129

Calm yourself down and then calm her down. This is probably just making her nervous and stressed which is in turn making her period late so it's just a vicious cycle. Before I was on the pill 36 days wouldn't be late for me tbh, but if I was worried and I was consiously waiting for my period 36 days would seem like an eternity. The days last forever when you're waiting for a period so it can also make it seem like it's been longer than it has been. Pregnancy test is the only way to go. Best of luck.

Electric

Take some deep breaths and then give your gf all the support you can. She is probably terrified... I would be.

Periods can be late for loads of reasons..... stress, crossing time zones etc. Also it could be that you're gf has an irregular cycle to begin with.

Do the test and then see what happens. There is no point in freaking out about stuff that may or may not happen. Cross that bridge when you come to it.

tbh

Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.

Get the test and set your mind at ease, but know this: Even if the absolute WORST WORST WORST (in your mind) case scenario comes true, it won't kill you. It's just a different set of circumstances to get used to. Sure it's scary, but how bad can it be? If she's pregnant, she's pregnant. If she's not, she's not. Either way, this time next year, you won't be worried about this anymore, so don't stress *too* much.

Auldloon

Hope this matter works out ok and that she is not pregnant. In the case she is remember there are options. As a guy you have as much right to the choice whether you want to be a father as she does to be a mother.

Nevyn

Anyone who tires to turn this into an abortion thread or about parental rights will be banned for off topic posting.

OP get a test find out what the story is and if it is the case that she is pregnant then hopefully you can explore what ever your options are as a couple.

http://www.positiveoptions.ie/

Rb

36 days is a long time.

Start planning your future fatherhood asap!

Dave!

So did she do the test OP?

Rozabeez

Don't panic until she takes a test, early twenties isn't too young for parenthood IMO, try relax, maybe its just a late period, happens sometimes.