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Settling?

  • 06-07-2007 7:51pm
    #1
    Lorrs33
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 690 ✭✭✭


    I've been friends with Michael for six years now. He's the funniest guy I know. Everyone's convinced he has a crush on me, but I just brush it off. Then the other night I was talking to his best friend and he told me he's convinced Michael does like me, he couldn't explain it, he just said it's the way he acts when my name is mentioned. He's sweet, funny, kind and a great friend, but I just don't feel that way for him. I'm not attracted to him. He could be perfect for me but I have my eye on someone else who will probably never feel the same. I'm beginning to wonder if I want what I can't have, coz I'm pretty sure if Michael got a girlfriend, I'd be jealous. But if I do go out with him, I can't hope that I'll eventually feel for him, that's not fair on him. And I know this sounds terrible, but I'd feel like I was settling. What's wrong with me?


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  • #2
    Libertine07
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 121 ✭✭Libertine07


    There's nothing wrong with you, you're just not attracted to this guy. You've known him a long time, so if you don't have feelings for him by now its unlikely you ever will. And you're right, going out with him in the hope that your feelings develop isn't fair on him or you.

    There are lots of nice guys out there who would make great friends, but is that enough to go out with them? You need some level of attraction otherwise whats the point?


  • #3
    sobriquet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 413 ✭✭sobriquet


    Lorrs33 wrote:
    What's wrong with me?
    Nothing. What kind of question is that, really? You fancy some bloke who apparently doesn't fancy you - big deal, happens all the time. Move on and find someone you fancy who fancies you too. Your friend Micheal? Ok, you think you'd be possessive of him (in six years knowing him, you've not found that out?), but you're thinking of getting into a relationship with him because... well, as a sort of favour to him and because nothing better has come along?

    I don't think you need to be told that it's a Bad Idea. Your friends reckon he's mad about you (the fact that they're telling you means something, in my circle at least things like that don't come up unless someone really needs to be told something), but if you don't feel anything for him, well that's the end of it, surely? If he did land a girlfriend and all of a sudden you discovered you did have feelings for him, well then that's a kettle of hornets that I don't know how to approach at all.


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