Following up a guy

LegacyUser

Hi all, i was just hoping t get a bit of advice on what to do. I met a guy about 3 weeks ago at a party a friend took me to. It was a 10 year reunion for her school and I had a great night. One guy there (lets call him Bob) was really cute, ticked all the boxes for me physically, and we ended up chatting for ages. We had loads in common and I really enjoyed the time I spent with him.We just really clicked and I've been thinking about him quite a bit since.

I discovered during the conversation he was mooving to Africa for the summer to work on charity projects (he returned to college to study pharmacology (SP?)) This means he'll be gone from Ireland untill some time at the end of Sept.

I asked my friend about him after and he is def single, what I was wondering was if it would be too wierd to ask for his email and try to persue him? Or should I wait till he's back and try to engineer a meet up with a group, or should I cop myself on and forget about him.....

I;ve just been single so so long cause I just can't meet people I enjoy talking to and also find even a little attractive, and this guy is so lovely.....

LegacyUser

'Get his email address and email him, or phone number and ring him!'

MikeHoncho

No harm in getting his email or better yet get him yours and say you would love if he kept you updated as to what he gets up to in Africa. That wouldnt seem to pushy and will let him know that you have an interest in him and what he is doing.

funkrooney

ha ha ha DO IT!!!!

Its as simple as this, if you got on, he liked you, otherwise he would'nt of stayed chatting for ages..... He is gonna be away for a few months, that is nothing, just get his number, and give him a cheeky calll or text, being upfront...... Had a great time, thought you were lovely exactly what you said in your post, then say I would love to meet up for a drink when you get back??

The manufactured situations are so easy to spot, and I think sill cos they add to the pressure, cos your friend will be onlooking, best intentions I'm sure but still adds to it,

trust me do it, I met a girl that did exactly that and I was so flattered and charmed by the situation and had been kicking myself I had not gotten her number......

DO IT!!!

Spud83

MikeHoncho wrote:

No harm in getting his email or better yet get him yours and say you would love if he kept you updated as to what he gets up to in Africa. That wouldnt seem to pushy and will let him know that you have an interest in him and what he is doing.

Sounds like the perfect idea to me. Give him a quick email and say he really enjoyed chatting to him that night and that you would be really interested in how he gets on in Africa. Then just see what happens from there.

The_B_Man

if hes a friend of a friend, the that friend to email him and mention u in the email. then go from there. maybe get ur friend to ask him can she give you his email address.

to be honest, the best thing is to wait til after september tho. any contact before hand would jsut be to stop him from forgetting you and moving on.

aidan24326

Go for it. Wait til September and he might have all but forgotten about you.

Get his email address from the friend and drop him a mail. Doesn't have to be anything too pushy, just that you enjoyed his company, ask him about Africa etc. You know yourself. See what happens from there. Or even do like B Man said and get the friend to mention you, can she pass on email address etc.

If you continue to have a rapport through emails/(maybe phone) then meeting up when he comes back will certainly be an option. If I was him I'd be flattered you had made the effort to contact me. You've nothing to lose.

BaZmO*

The_B_Man wrote:

if hes a friend of a friend, the that friend to email him and mention u in the email. then go from there. maybe get ur friend to ask him can she give you his email address.

Happened to me recently. Met a friend of a friend on a night out and then on the Monday got an email from my friend asking if it was ok to give my number to the girl. I said no problem and was quite flattered actually.

Went out on a date and had a nice time but nothing long term came of it although I was really impressed with her for having to cahunas to ask for my number in the first place.

You should definitely go for it if you think there was a spark, you'll only regret it if you don't. And if you don't do it before he goes away he could end up meeting someone while he's away.

LegacyUser

'I was out with some friends a few weeks back. Usual gang there and some girls who were friendly with a girl in my group of friends. Knew most of them but got chatting to one girl who I hadn't met before. Got on good, enjoyed talking to her, etc. Was on the verge of asking her if she wanted to meet up but chickened out. Just as I was about to leave she came up and asked if she could get my email, that she'd like to stay in touch. Whipped out the ol business card (slick eh?) and off I went.

Got an email on the Monday, I thought that if she was brave enough to ask for my contact details I was brave enough to ask her out for a drink. Date number 7 tomorrow

So don't be afraid to make the first move, us guys don't run screaming! At worst you just get a few friendly emails and at best you get a date Good luck!

(Just don't be OTT, play it slow and gentle)'

LegacyUser

'go on, do it!'