Shyness

LegacyUser

Right everybody back again unreged! Small simple problem im very shy around my gf. If i want to do sumthin i kinda need a lil guidence or a push

a lil help anyone plz

Reku

Could you ellaborate a bit please? Is she your first? Are you normally a shy person? Are you shy talking to her or only when it comes to the physical aspects of the relationship?

pwd

The more time you spend doing things with her the more comfortable you will be as long as neither of you don't try to force things or get frustrated.
You both need to be patient. Sometimes girls prefer a guy to be a bit reticent in the early days anyway, especially younger ones.

biko

You're only starting out as a young couple I take it.
No worries, as you get to know each other better and feel more secure they shyness will vanish. Give it some time.

LegacyUser

farohar wrote:

Could you ellaborate a bit please? Is she your first? Are you normally a shy person? Are you shy talking to her or only when it comes to the physical aspects of the relationship?

2nd, i can be shy yes!, physical aspects!

Marksie

What is it that makes you shy OP?

Physical attributes or mental view of self or the thoughts of intimacy?

jellie

OP your gf is probably the exact same. most girls would be nervous in some way when it comes to showing their body to a new guy.

Although im not sure if by physical you mean performance or how you look?

Why dont you talk to your gf? itll clear the air before you try anything & should help you relax a bit.

Reku

I think he means physical intamacy, in which case I wouldn't worry too much about it, pretty much everyone will feel some anxiety over showing their body to another, then throw in the whole "am I rushing things?" "does she want this too?" "will I be able to please her?", etc... and your left nervous as heck.

This is really one of those situations where it is best to talk to her about how you feel, odds are you'll find out that she is shy about it too but didn't feel up to raising the issue, also you'll at least find out if she feels it'd be rushing things & if she wants it too, perhaps even some suggestions from her of things you could do that she'd enjoy, thereby lessening any performance anxiety.
If it's just the thought of her seeing your body that worries you keep in mind that pretty much everyone has some part of their body that they feel is ugly and they'd like to change, the thing to remember here is that could she see the rest of your body when she decided she liked you? Probably not. Is she going to like you less because of seeing it? Doubt it.