how long is to long

LegacyUser

hi, dont know if this is the right place to post this but here it goes,
Ive been seeing my gf now for 10 months and plan on moving to canada with her in a few months but there is one thing about our relationship that bothers me. Since we started seeing each other it has been a highly sexual relationship but it has always taken me an age to reach orgasm. this has happened before but not with all previous gf's and i know my present gf doesnt have a problem with reaching a climax as it usually happens about 2 or 3 times per session. I do love her dearly and am really enjoying living with her(just moved back to ireland about 3 months ago) but i dont want this small problem to grow. i am attracted to her and find our sex life very fulfilling but she has now started to doubt her own abilities no matter how much i say ive enjoyed it. Sorry if this is posted in the wrong place but i need to know if this is normal or why it might be happening. any help would be greatly appreciated.
thanks for reading

togster

Hi i know how you feel. It sounds like every mans dream but can become a problem especially if you focus on it too much. Try not climaxing for a few days prior to sex and relax man in no time you will be wishing the opposite. I now have this probelm

Marksie

Forget orgasm as a goal altogether. This is such a common issue with goal and performance oriented western ideas of s*x and S*xuality. In effect whose counting?

Your partner feels that it is her problem that you cannot reach orgasm. Try explaining that it is you who are ultimately responsible for your own orgasm, your partner is there facilitating you .

Extend the foreplay.. and makiing it the be all rather than the process to go through before you move to penetrative s*x., this heightens arousal and when you simply allow eacdh other to be and do this over a prolonged period of time... hours, you become less goal oriented and then orgasms become easier to achieve because you move beyond wanting them as an end point.

One potential thing you can do, if extended foreplay doesnt grab your attention, is to focus not on the tensness of your body which one normally associates with the genital orgasm, but quite the reverse, allow the mind and the body to completely relax. Dont worry about whether you will or not, but concetrate on the sensations as they occur.

Edit: another thing, men often equate orgasm with ejaculation, they are in fact separate. It is quite straightforward to seprate the two. Which in effect you can, at the base level, become multiorgasmic.

Also, why dont you tell and show your partner exactly where and how at any given time, encourage her and let her relax. If at some point you go off the boil, show her what to do when that happens.

TwentyOneEleven

You can do better. Go travelling!

biko

I don't see anything about you using a condom. If you do then try using one that would increase the sensation. I did a search for you