I need advice/Suggestions?

False_God

right,

This has been attacking my insides for the past few days!

My and my girlfriend have been going out for over 6 months, it started off all perfect! We were mad in love, telling eachother everyday and adding eachother to our lives! (Like our msn screen name "bla bla 's Bla bla)

We decide we will have a Honestly policy so we gave eachother our passwords to stuff like bebo and msn! Shes a very beautiful girl so guys are always adding her etc. We both have myspace but untill today I never bothered asking her for that password! (I asked once but she said she couldnt remember it and it was saved on the PC) but then she was at her friends and she was on today! So I went I take it you have the password? and she goes no this was saved ages ago, so i said if you go to tools you can get it and she started putting up a big fight like saying "No i couldnt be bother and stop making a big deal of it" So i left it!

The reason I asked for it this time was becuse since we had a little fight on saturday she seems like she doesnt love me as much and has started talking to more guys (She never did!! I havent seen her since friday before the fight) Especially on myspace seeing as I cant get her password!! I think shes like flirting with them maybe? Am I being paranoid! (She has never cheated on her ex's either)

But Im guessing seeing as I have been with her in person I havent had a chance to make up for it so maybe that could be it and bring it back up!!

Also this is my first realtionship so Im sorta new to stuff! And my main question is: Is it normal for the "excitment" to die down after a few months but still as in love? (hard to explain but i hope some understand!!

Victor

False_God wrote:

Also this is my first realtionship so Im sorta new to stuff! And my main question is: Is it normal for the "excitment" to die down after a few months but still as in love? (hard to explain but i hope some understand!!

Things become ordinary and normal and boring instead of new and exciting and sexy and stuff. Instead of dealing with her fancy underwear, you are faced with her dirty underwear (but it you are into that, I'll not judge you). You have to work at keeping the spark there.

Oh, don't fall for the "honestly policy" thing again. It gives us guys a bad rep. Now go change your password. They are private.

Jesus Wept

False_God wrote:

Am I being paranoid! (She has never cheated on her ex's either)

You're been naive, you don't know if she cheated on her ex's.

How do you know, because she told you? And you have an honesty policy? Or you know some of them, and they told you? How would they know?

The idea when cheating is not to get caught. I'm not saying she has cheated on you or anyone, but you don't know.

False_God wrote:

My and my girlfriend have been going out for over 6 months, it started off all perfect! We were mad in love, telling eachother everyday and adding eachother to our lives! (Like our msn screen name "bla bla 's Bla bla)

This sounds like puppy love. When you start out telling each other you love each other so quickly and often, the 'love' often ends just as suddenly, as it's not real.


With all that said, I wish you the best of luck.

DD

hey, its obvious shes hiding smth, 6 months are not that long...
how old are you?

Attol

That's a bit creepy isn't it? Do you not have any space for yourself? It's just MySpace. If you don't trust each other enough to have your own Bebo and email then don't there seem to be further issues? Trust is needed in any relationship.

Red Alert

Do not give out your password to anyone no matter how much you love them. Period.

jellie

your 'honesty policy' sounds a bit more like an 'i-dont-trust-you-so-gimme-ur-password-so-i-can-check-up-on-you policy'. why do you need her email & bebo passwords? my bf has given me his passwords from time to time check something for him if hes not at the computer but if he asked me what they are now i wouldnt have a clue cause i just use them & forget them, ive no interest in checking who hes emailing because i trust him.

Also, you dont fall out of love with someone in 5 days. if she really loved you on friday she would still love you now, just maybe angry/annoyed/whatever with you.

False_God

The-Rigger wrote:

You're been naive, you don't know if she cheated on her ex's.

How do you know, because she told you? And you have an honesty policy? Or you know some of them, and they told you? How would they know?

The idea when cheating is not to get caught. I'm not saying she has cheated on you or anyone, but you don't know.

Ya she told me and I know 1-2 of her ex's!

But I would take her word for it!

the-rigger wrote:

This sounds like puppy love. When you start out telling each other you love each other so quickly and often, the 'love' often ends just as suddenly, as it's not real.


With all that said, I wish you the best of luck.

Well at the start we told eachother alot but we dont too much now! because we know we both love eachother and thats their no need to tell eachother every hour!

Attol wrote:

That's a bit creepy isn't it? Do you not have any space for yourself? It's just MySpace. If you don't trust each other enough to have your own Bebo and email then don't there seem to be further issues? Trust is needed in any relationship.

I like it tbh! I have my own space! Like I dont see her everyday! more so gaps of like 3-4 days so that gives me enough space imo!
And of course I trust her! Im just a jealous guy (I hate it) and hate seeing other guys talking to her, but I just dont bother saying it to her because it would create unwanted drama and I trust her fully so I just keep it to myself!

Red Alert wrote:

Do not give out your password to anyone no matter how much you love them. Period.

I know your prolly right! but Im just wondering why not?

sar84 wrote:

your 'honesty policy' sounds a bit more like an 'i-dont-trust-you-so-gimme-ur-password-so-i-can-check-up-on-you policy'. why do you need her email & bebo passwords? my bf has given me his passwords from time to time check something for him if hes not at the computer but if he asked me what they are now i wouldnt have a clue cause i just use them & forget them, ive no interest in checking who hes emailing because i trust him.

Also, you dont fall out of love with someone in 5 days. if she really loved you on friday she would still love you now, just maybe angry/annoyed/whatever with you.

Ya your right I guess, but Im not bothered because I have nothing to hide and I dont think she does! I just ger weird now and again I guess!

Ya she was annoyed with me so that was prolly it!!



Thanks guys for the advice! Reading the replies given here and in the "Should I dump her" thread have made me realise Im lucky to have her and that I do trust her with all my heart!!
Thanks!!