looking for tips

LegacyUser

I quite like a security guard where I work, my shift alternates every month so I only see him every second month on Saturdays, any tips on how I could actually get talking to him and get to know him? I only see him on my breaks and when Im going home, and I dont want it to seem obvious that I like him (yet!) Haven't even worked up the courage to say a simple "Hi!" either!

Anthony_1980

get the bull by the horns

what can he say ??? No

thats it , would u get embarrased if ur local shop didnt have ur fav crisps ??

u wont get anywhere unless u just do it , or all u know he might say yes and then u'll say , why didnt i do this sooner

maybe write ur number on paper and just give him it

never know unless u do it


hope all works out well for ye if not im free and good looking

~Rick~

I think on a basic note, as the person above me has stated, usually you just do it.

Its more a matter of setting your feet in motion towards his direction...that's usually the hardest part since most people like to keep their distance.

Perhaps when you're walking by him one day, just say something like 'hi, i'm (insert name here) and i apologize for not introducing myself sooner, but it seems like i'm always busy and i bet you are too...' usually then, he'll say his name and you can always ask how he is today.

Most conversations you want to start off with the asking questions that are not just yes/no questions. If they are open ended ones, then you can relate to things he's saying and usually it gives more into the conversation. Plus, it gives something for both of you to talk about the next time you see each other.

You can ask him how work's going, how often he works...just the normal basic stuff...it doesnt have to be anything as far as 'what movies do you like...' (that can be a second or third conversation)...

You cant really reherse anything you're going to say to him, but this kinda gives you an idea for things to say to him.

good luck

LegacyUser

don't listen to Ricks advice, it's way too formal and OTT in my opinion...

Your nervous so that approach would not be the best for you, I reckon you should write your mobile down and give it to him or else when you see him having lunch, go over and sit with him and just chit chat and then Rick's open ended questions can come into play...

LegacyUser

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cheesedude wrote:

Your nervous so that approach would not be the best for you, I reckon you should write your mobile down.

Yeah was thinking of that but i would die if i did that and then he never texted, i mean, i then would have to see him most saturdays and i wud be just embarrassed, i am leaving in september so i could do that then i suppose lol. but yeah maybe ill say hi next saturday '

sweet-rasmus

do not just write out your mobile and give it to him! start off as suggested; "hi". weather, news, a random question... anything. just start the ball rolling. next time you can say a little more. be brave!

just go over and chat!!! do it!

Bottle_of_Smoke

ask him something relating to the job, then how long are you working here, where you from etc etc

CaroleLynch

Start by saying hello to him and then in time ask how his weekend went etc.. saying hello to someone is very easy.. Making the first move can be a bit terrifying, but you'll be surprised how the person reacts. It's never bad!

Go for it, you'll be fine!

Let us know how you get on!!

manti452

If they are anything like the guards where I work.. try "forgetting" your badge etc as a means to have a reason to chat to them. I've always found having a reason makes me more relaxed and you can chat a bit to them, drop a joke in.. and then it's easier to say hi Next time around.. go from there?

LegacyUser

'Arrange to leave something behind in your office so you absolutely have to go in and get it... on a Saturday of course. Forget your swipe card/key if you're supposed to have one... he will have to let you in. Be ultra pleasant without ripping your blouse off... and smile. Smiling works. Seriously. Amazing how people lose sight of that... Don't let the smile dissappear.'