Long term lost

Berbatov

Hi All,

Been a few years since I've been on here - almost two to be exact, new username and all.

Anyways, here's my thing. I split up with my ex (kind of mutually) almost exactly two years ago, was tough at the start but got over it after a while.

Here's the thing though, about this time last year and now again this year I get what could almost be described as depression - mood swings, reminiscent, down etc.

Now for the most part I'm very happy person and fcuk all ever bothers me, just go with the flow. And this personality transplant that I go through at this time of year really gets to me. I can put 2 + 2 together and figure what and why - but how come this still gets to me and how come only this time of year???

Carrigart Exile

Berbatov wrote:

Hi All,

Been a few years since I've been on here - almost two to be exact, new username and all.

Anyways, here's my thing. I split up with my ex (kind of mutually) almost exactly two years ago, was tough at the start but got over it after a while.

Here's the thing though, about this time last year and now again this year I get what could almost be described as depression - mood swings, reminiscent, down etc.

Now for the most part I'm very happy person and fcuk all ever bothers me, just go with the flow. And this personality transplant that I go through at this time of year really gets to me. I can put 2 + 2 together and figure what and why - but how come this still gets to me and how come only this time of year???

I think people we loved always leave an imprint on us and no matter how the relationship ended there is always a time when we feel 'loss' for that person.

Maple

its the whole "anniversary" thing. subconsciously we remember important dates of the past and our emotions react accordingly. it will get easier with time, just take the time to get annoyed/upset, allow yourself to grieve for the loss of your relationship and the hopes and dreams attached to it. But only allow yourself so much time, keep it in your head that you're going to be sad for maybe an hour and really wallow in the sadness but then once the hour is up get out and do something.

its just the anniversary thing and sometimes it doesn't matter that our head tells us it was for the best, our heart will still hurt.

i have an exboyfriend who i met at christmas, we split up after nearly a decade of to-ing and fro-ing in our relationship. even though my head could rationalise that it was for the best and that i wanted things he couldn't give me, every christmas i would find myself getting caught up in memories. it got easier with time.

Berbatov

Thanks, appreciate it! Suppose I do really know that's the source of it - just seems weird to me that it's really only this time of year, anniversary, Xmas etc., don't get to me at all. Guess it was just a traumatic time and that has left it's imprint on me somewhere. Thanks again