robbies head is wrecked!

LegacyUser

ah this is probably a rant more than anything...

Im one of those fellas who got burnt a year or two ago and decided after feelin sorry for himself for a month or more to take a rest from the whole dating scene.
Those 2 years later Ive looked back and have had a few "conquests" (for want of a better word) but hasnt been happy
or arsed findin happiness (like someone i really like). I always thought it was "once bitten twice shy" syndrom, and that I wasnt
given anyone a chance but now Im not so sure.

Theres this gorgeous girl textin me, but she's a bit too much wit d constant texts and emails. Then there is this girl in work, who isnt the greatest looker but is the nicest person (and I really mean that!) ive ever met. She's always sendin me messages and chattin in work, and even though I hate admitting it Im fallin for her like mad.

I know there is lots of thinks wrong with this like:

* she's with someone yet she's constantly flirting

* a work mate is just a big no no

* I cant understand why I dont want to just give the other girl (the gorgeous one) and good seein to (again, for want of better words!!)

its wreckin' ma head!

Wibbs

Robbie Savage wrote:

I know there is lots of thinks wrong with this like:

* she's with someone yet she's constantly flirting

* a work mate is just a big no no

Forget work mate for a second. She's with someone else so she's off limits until she's not. End of really.

Maple

stay away from your work mate, she's with someone. would be a massive headache for you. if she ends her relationship then you can think about getting with her but until then stay the hell away.

give the eager girl a chance. you might have a great time. give it one date and if it works great but if it doesn't then at least you know and you can tell her that you won't be pursuing a relationship with her.

Spud83

Cant remember the exact quote but its something like this...

"Oh No, two girls like me, my gold slippers are too tight, and my wallet is too small for my fifties"

Gerilee

Maybe it's a case of forbidden fruit syndrome. The girl that's handing herself to you on a plate is no challenge, you can basically take it or leave it, and the girl you're not supposed to go for has an obstacle in the way, and is therefore more enticing.... Maybe.

Or maybe not. Have you imagined a scenario where she ditches her boyfriend and comes running into your arms - would she be as desirable then? Or would the initial forbidden attraction thing soon wear off?

LegacyUser

'Im lettin this whole thing get to me awful bad. Constantly thinkin. Its not a case "oh look at me two girls like me". Nothing like that at all.Im not overally goodlooking or a great catch by any means. The girl thats doin the chasing is a little scary, and even tho shes nice lookin she doesnt appeal to me.
Im tryin my hardest with the other girl in work, tryin not to fall for her but it aint workin. I said to myself not to make a big deal of it,that im readin into things to much and that i should just enjoy our friendship. I just cant stop thinkin about her.
Ive been tru big breakup before like alot of people have, and the last thing I needed right now was to fall for someone whos unavailable, yet seems the nicest person Ive ever met in my life.'

LegacyUser

'If she flirts with you while she's with someone else, she'll flirt with someone else if she gets with you.

Tread carefully.'

Melski

Robbie Savage wrote:

'Im lettin this whole thing get to me awful bad. Constantly thinkin. Its not a case "oh look at me two girls like me". Nothing like that at all.Im not overally goodlooking or a great catch by any means. The girl thats doin the chasing is a little scary, and even tho shes nice lookin she doesnt appeal to me.
Im tryin my hardest with the other girl in work, tryin not to fall for her but it aint workin. I said to myself not to make a big deal of it,that im readin into things to much and that i should just enjoy our friendship. I just cant stop thinkin about her.
Ive been tru big breakup before like alot of people have, and the last thing I needed right now was to fall for someone whos unavailable, yet seems the nicest person Ive ever met in my life.'

It doesn't sound like you're particularly keen on the one who is 'a little scary'. If you're scared of her, why are you replying to the texts?

As for the work girl, she may just think that she can have a flirty/light hearted conversation with you and you may be reading too much into it. We girls are strange creatures - she could just genuinely like you as a person, but not as boyfriend material.

Having said that, whilst I've been the 'once bitten twice shy' type before, you can't keep it up for too long. If you chase someone who is taken, it'll only end in tears - for everyone.

MojoMaker

Because it's a massive ego boost for the poster. Likewise telling us.

Forget both of them, for different reasons. They are not meant to be.

biko

Stay off the dating scene a while longer. You are clearly not ready for serious commitment yet, Robbie Savage

LegacyUser

Yeah, I know you are right. It is a bit of confidence booster a nice lookin girl texting you, and Im proud that Id rather the other girl who's personality really shines through even though shes taken.

The best is probably to forget both like what was mentioned above.

thanks all for reading this