should I change Psychoanalyst???

LegacyUser

I have been seeing my counsellor on and off for five or six years, during which im sure i have gained alot and built a fulfilling life, with Uni, better family relationships, life confidence and distancing from unhealthy friends and behaviours, cannabis dependency etc, being the main successes.

However over this time the lack of fulfilling intimate relationships has been my biggest bugbear.. although i have learned to have better sex, comunicate with women on a deeper level and enjoy a couple of extremely fulfilling but short lived relationships(distance etc.), i still havent made the connection with someone to spark a long term relationship and i can sometimes get very down about it and engage myself in terrible negative speak.

My current psychoanalyst who i definitely trust, can talk candidly to and who knows me, normally operates just by guiding our conversations subtly and allowing me to come to my own realisations.

i havent spoken to her since last summer as i normally get some counsel before the college year, and this year i will be going to live abroad so i want to feel strong and secure.

Should i seek new counsel to try and overcome this last niggling area once and for all??...perhaps someone who would take a more functional approach, setting me tasks, taking me through my feelings of anxiety etc. perhaps cognitive behavioural therapy or any other suggestions???

What do you think...one who knows me and is competent but has failed to take me over that last hill or a fresh approach???

PS.i hope this is the right forum

Marksie

If you can talk to your therapist, ask her and tell her what you have said here. I am sure she will give you pertinent professional advice