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  • 20-06-2007 8:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have a slight problem (or is it a dilemma?) that I would appreciate some input on.

    There is a girl in work who I am attracted to (it doesn't get any more original I'm afraid). I'm certain the attraction is reciprocated. The problem is that her spoken English isn't the greatest. At a rough estimate I would say that I understand her about 80% of the time. She, however, seems to understand me a little better than I would her. And therein lies my dilemma. Is there any point in embarking on anything if the communication isn't the greatest? After all, communication is key to any relationship, no?

    We have only known each other about a month, but in that time we would see each other every day, and I would guess that we are alone and chatting for a sustained hour/ hour and a half in any given day. Even with the 20% confused communication there is no problem - I just accept it, and I'm sure she does, too. But I am concerned with the possibility that if anything where to happen relationship wise this may develop into a problem.

    Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated. Especially if born from experience!


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  • #2
    Victor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,574 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    Her English will improve.

    Not all communication is verbal.


  • #3
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    Look at it this way - she's going to need someone to talk to regularly to help her improve.

    Don't let this get in the way of starting a relationship if you feel that it could really work. The language barrier will sort itself out after a while.


  • #4
    G&T
    Closed Accounts Posts: 303 ✭✭G&T


    Victor wrote:
    Her English will improve.

    Not all communication is verbal.

    +1

    It will only be a problem if you loose patience.


  • #5
    hullaballoo
    Administrators, Entertainment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,773 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭hullaballoo


    Victor wrote:
    Her English will improve.

    Not all communication is verbal.
    ++

    Verbal communication accounts for about 20% of all communication. Additionally, having an intimate relationship with someone can only help you to understand each other better (even at a superficial level, without getting into emotional understanding etc.).


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