Girlfriend Material!!!

LegacyUser

Ok this is just a quick question. I was sitting in the canteen in work the other day and we were talking about relationships and that sort of stuff, when one of the lads turned to me and out of the blue was like well your not girlfriend material! And all the other guys agreed they could'nt give me an explanation why they thought that they just said i was'nt!! Wat does that mean! And before you ask im not sum big slut who has an endless list of guys so i just dont understand. Anyone able to help me??

Wibbs

Maybe they see you as "one of the lads" a mate. TBH That would make you more girlfriend material in my eyes. It's not down to looks either. I know one woman who is very pretty, but I always saw her as a mate, out of the circumstances of how we met. If I went back in time I would probably have tried to get closer to her. I was young and dumb then though.:D

boffin

Just a suggestion but going by the username you picked I'm guessing you might be seen by your male colleagues as one of the lads!! hence not girlfriend material!! Could that be it??

biko

pix please
Oh, and ask you IRL friends. They know you better that we do.

jellie

Are you a tomboy at all?

It depends on the men. Some men like girly girls, hence a tomboy wouldnt be gf material for them. Yet other men mightnt like girly girls at all & prefer tomboys.

Or maybe youre just not their type.

Of course im not a man so have no idea really..

ntlbell

I find it very strange that this was said in front of your face by work mate's it's very odd.

Jumpy

Yes for me a girly-girl is a requirement for girlfriend material.
Someone who acts like the lads would be too difficult to picture in a relationship.
Although some people like it.

You are not their girlfriend material. It doesnt mean you arent somebodys.

Although my advice on women is probably not the best. I find the ginger one from Girls Aloud the hottest thing on the planet for instance.

LegacyUser

Jumpy that is just plain wrong!!!!!

OP, your seen as a bloke which is why you are not girlfriend material.

Jumpy

It is my secret shame.

OP never ask your mates stuff like that, you will never get a real answer.

Marksie

OP: could you give us some more information as the why this was said?

If not, it was just an off teh cuff remark, thoughtless and probably stupid

The Corinthian

Maybe they see you as one of the lads?

Maybe they just don't want to mix their business and personal lives?

Maybe you're ugly?

Given they wouldn't give you a reason, they either are setting boundaries, don't want to hurt your feelings and / or simply can't verbalize it. Whichever it is we can't tell you which, TBH.

eurotrotter

they must see u as one of the lads
since they came out and said it to u, they must feel like ur one of them, a lad.
they see u as a friend, nothing more.

muppetkiller

Yip your seen as just one of the lads...but don't worry I guarantee one of them still ancies you (Unless you actually look male too ) lol.
Do you have many male friends ? would you have way more male than female ?

cheeky_guy

OP they were joking with ya!! One of them problady said it for the laugh and when you reacted they all kept it going. It could be that they all actually fancy ya...

CliffHuxtabel

Are you one of the lads fullstop?

al_g

The Corinthian wrote:

Maybe they see you as one of the lads?

Maybe they just don't want to mix their business and personal lives?

Maybe you're ugly?

Given they wouldn't give you a reason, they either are setting boundaries, don't want to hurt your feelings and / or simply can't verbalize it. Whichever it is we can't tell you which, TBH.

what kind of logic is that if she is "ugly" they dont want to hurt her feelings u utter twat

The Corinthian

al_g wrote:

what kind of logic is that if she is "ugly" they dont want to hurt her feelings u utter twat

If the reason was that they didn't find her attractive or found her ugly then the fact that they then 'couldn't give her an explanation why' would most likely be to spare her feelings. The main point I was putting forward was that the reason could be anything - my and anyone else's guess are all just guesses.

Hope this clears up the confusion. If you still have difficulty comprehending these points, feel free to ask a grown-up at home.

Beruthiel

al_g wrote:

u utter twat

I will not tolerate personal abuse, read the Charter of this forum before I ban you.
Consider this your warning.
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Dr_Teeth

I'd say it's either:

A) They don't think you're attractive.

They all really fancy you but want to cover it up since you work together.

LegacyUser

Ok well for starters im not one of the lads at all, ok i have a laugh with them but im defo more of a girly girl thats what i dont get, i'd understand if i was a big minger aswell but im not(not bein big headed or anything but im not)!! And it was just said so randomly and then when i asked my friends at home they cudn't explain it too me either its quite annoying TBH!!!

LegacyUser

Ok well i can tell ya im not one of the lads...i have a laugh with them and get on very well with them but i get on equally well with the girls!! I am more of a girly girl if u met me you'd never call me a tomboy!! Oh as for my user name it was the first thing that came out of my head!! I just thought it was such a random thing to say to me and when i asked my friends at home they didn't understand either, thats why i wanted a guys perspective on it to see if theres any reason sumone would randomly say that to ya!!BTW im not a minger!!

MojoMaker

Maybe you come across as being a bit flighty, or appear a bit of a princess? Neither of which really attract guys into relationships.

WindSock

Maybe he fancies you. Do you fancy him? If you don't, who cares.