Perfect relationship?

Femelade

Is there such a thing?
Can anyone here say that they have the perfect relationship?

I think i dream of this fairy tale ending for my life "and they lived happily ever after"..but do they?

Does prince charming always stay as charming as he was when they first met? Does the princess keep up the effort at looking so good, always perfect and gorgeous...?

Do they get pissed off with eachother when they see that maybe the princess doesnt look so good at 8am after a night out on the batter, with panda eyes and all that....or that prince charming just doesnt use his brain sometimes and cant predict what the princess wants and needs from the relationship...?

Do you have the perfect relationship..or know someone who has?

Tar.Aldarion

I think mine is perfect, apart from she doesn't like me playing poker and sometimes has her hair up.
So if that is all I have to complain about it's going well.

whiskeyman

It's perfect to me anyway. She loves me, I love her, and we have so much fun together, can talk about anything and can trust one another. Yeah, there's little things, but that's all part of being in a relationship.
It doesn't have to be 'perfect' in the normal conformity sense.
Anyway, nobodys perfect...

(and it'd be so boring if we all were)

Dragan

I think expecting perfection from someone else is a bit rubbish to be honest. No one is perfect, and it is not fair to expect someone to mould themselves to an image of what you feel is the perfect partner.

Like who you like, but the effort in and a relationship will work.

StephenC_IRL

perfect relationship, me and a rich girl with a sex addiction that i only have to see 2 or 3 times a week


but in all reality, people arent perfect, but if they were itd be horrible, the same sex all the time, everyone would have the perfect morals, it would be horrible, everyone would be so boring

Dublin1983

StephenC_IRL wrote:

perfect relationship, me and a rich girl with a sex addiction that i only have to see 2 or 3 times a week


but in all reality, people arent perfect, but if they were itd be horrible, the same sex all the time, everyone would have the perfect morals, it would be horrible, everyone would be so boring[/QU

it would be like THE TRUMAN SHOW

connundrum

Dragan wrote:

I think expecting perfection from someone else is a bit rubbish to be honest. No one is perfect, and it is not fair to expect someone to mould themselves to an image of what you feel is the perfect partner.

QFT!

Once you realise that your bf/gf is a person, who will make mistakes and who will piss you off, you'll be ok.

I think that I have the perfect relationship, but then again don't we all. People often wonder how we get on so well and why we rarely fight etc - and it all comes down to communication (as ghey as it sounds). We talk about 4-5 times a day, maybe more. We talk about everything and anything, and most importantly I guess, we talk about what bothers us.

I have friends who expect their bf/gf to fit a mould of what they perceive the perfect partner to be, these relationships usually end in tears.

humanji

Nobody can really tell if they have the perfect relationship, only that it seems perfect at that moment in time. Things have a tendency to change.

Femelade

well yeah, i'd liek to think that the relationship i am in is fairly perfect.
i love my boyfriend to bits and i know he loves me too, we rarely have fights and when we do they are small fights that are resolved fairly quickly through talking about it.
i hate to sleep on an argument, something that didnt bother him before, but i guess thats how things were done in previous relationships he was in. but once he saw how easily things can be resolved so quickly through communication, he changed his mind on that.

His procrastinates ALOT, which bugs me as i am a planner, i like to plan things in advance whereas he would change plans atthe drop of a hat without telling me...but i guess if thats the only thing that bothers me then i've got it good.

me? i am the perfect girlfriend..!

LegacyUser

Make me feel comfortable and that will pretty much be a perfect relationship in my eyes!

Make me feel uncomfortable as a result of your actions and you will pretty much lose me...one way or another. And I'm not talking about doing the dirt. I'm talking about actions in general.

Words can't express your love, you gotta prove it...

So if you love me, why would you hang out with someone who I hate and tried to hurt me? That's just a hypothetical example...

Anti

IF there was such a thing as a perfect relationship what would we have to look forward to working on? I think the closest thing to it is a relationship with compromise and understanding!

Ph3n0m

If you are trying to make your relationship "perfect", then you are trying too hard.

Relationships are easy...its the rest that's difficult

scojones

Femmy wrote:

Is there such a thing?
Can anyone here say that they have the perfect relationship?

I think i dream of this fairy tale ending for my life "and they lived happily ever after"..but do they?

That never really happens though does it? I mean with relationships one of you is always going to leave the other, whether you break up or one of you die. Every relationship has a sucky ending.

seamus

The perfect relationship doesn't imply perfect people.

A good relationship is one where the two people involved are aware eachother's flaws, accept them, allow them, and perhaps even love the flaws.

A relationship where the woman needs to look pretty all the time, and the man needs to keep his woman happy all the time isn't a relationship at all. It's co-dependency. It's something out of the 1800's.

ShowUsYourXbox

Mines perfect. She's tanned and has a great ass.

Anti

blow up dolls dont count showusyorxbox

biko

I know a couple that always seem to have time for each other and never bitch about each other, at least not to us. I guess that is as close as you can get.

ShowUsYourXbox

Anti wrote:

blow up dolls dont count showusyorxbox

Why would you talk about your sister like that?

Caliden

ShowUsYourXbox wrote:

Why would you talk about your sister like that?

Thank god you didn't say 'yorema' or I would instantly dislike you.

layke

I had it when I was younger, then we kinda outgrew each other and moved apart. But when I think back man I just can't find another girl thjat clicked with me like her. It's weird, 5 years on I still can't get her out of my head.

The new GF is kind caring and we get along well but we argue a lot more then any other partner i've had. I think it's down the cultural barrier though.

missmatty

I know about 5 or 6 long-term couples that seem really happy and well suited. That includes my parents and included one set of grandparents, so although that makes me very lucky there's a bit of a hard act to follow! I've not been that lucky yet but shure you never know eh.

Pighead

seamus wrote:

A relationship where the woman needs to look pretty all the time, and the man needs to keep his woman happy all the time isn't a relationship at all. It's co-dependency. It's something out of the 1800's.

Well if thats the case you can call me Sir Isaac Pighead. Relationships are 100% about chicks looking good for their man.

If Miss Piggy was getting ready to meet me for a date but noticed she had a huge spot on her nose I'd expect her to ring in sick.

my parents .. from what i can see but then again i may be wrong

CathyMoran

seamus wrote:

The perfect relationship doesn't imply perfect people.

A good relationship is one where the two people involved are aware eachother's flaws, accept them, allow them, and perhaps even love the flaws.

My relationship with Shane started off very rocky but I think that we have as close to a perfect relationship as you can have. I agree with Seamus's statement above.

Shane and I have been through a lot together, he knows when I am upset, he has been supportive of me through very serious illness - in turn we just make one another happy, we make one another laugh, talk a lot and fancy one another.

exCrumlinBoyo

Femmy wrote:

or that prince charming just doesnt use his brain sometimes and cant predict what the princess wants and needs from the relationship...?

Theres the problem right there... Men have to be able to read wimmens minds in order for the relationship to be perfect!!???

On one had you have the single people moaning that they cant get a date or a ride and then you have the people in relation****s who do nothing by moan about their other half. Sure just look in PI for exactly what I have said.

Human beings by nature are not happy with what they have. We think we know what will make us happy but when we get it, we realize its not all cracked up as we once thought again PI is a prime example of this.

There is no such thing as the perfect relationship but people can be happy together, the key is, don't cheat and being able to work out the issues you do have with each other in a compromising manner. You also have to be able to let go and forget about any issues that may have happened in the past. Women find it very hard to do that.

I have been married 5 years with the missus 7 and we have our ups and downs but we are a team.

ejmaztec

Unfortunately, the initial perfection doesn't last long. Marriage, kids, families, trauma, more trauma, then some. When you can take no more, you find yourself walking through the woods at 2 in the morning, carrying a spade and some bulging bin-bags. Cheaper than a divorce settlement, providing you've got a water-tight alibi.

misswex

seamus wrote:

The perfect relationship doesn't imply perfect people.

A good relationship is one where the two people involved are aware eachother's flaws, accept them, allow them, and perhaps even love the flaws.

A relationship where the woman needs to look pretty all the time, and the man needs to keep his woman happy all the time isn't a relationship at all. It's co-dependency. It's something out of the 1800's.

Seamus has just summed it up perfectly!!

Black Swan

Listen to a song by P!nk called "Go Away (Come Back)" for insight to this question.

jester77

My realationship with beer would be as near to perfect as I could get. It's always there, refreshing, goes down easy and never complains

Mrs_Doyle

A perfect relationship doesn't contain Prince Charmings or fairy tale endings.

It contains 2 people, genuine people, with genuine feelings for one another, who realise that the other is human, and therefore prone to human errors.

They know there will be days when they bicker about nothing, and days when they fall out over something major, but ultimately, they are aware of the bigger picture, and that once they truly love one another, none of the other stuff really matters.

ergonomics

I like to think myself and my boyfriend have a pretty perfect relationship. We get along brilliantly and make each other laugh. We're constantly saying the same thing at the same time as each other. We share the same interests and opinions but at the same time we differ greatly. When it comes to difference's of opinions we can debate against each other until the cows come home but we still respect that we don't always think the same. We argue and sort it out within minutes. Since I've known him he's given me loads of confidence and has got me trying loads of new things. I used to be afraid of everything but I'm not half as afraid as I used to be.

Basically, what I think it all boils down to is that he makes me blissfully happy and thinking about him makes me smile. I can't get enough of him. Hopefully he feels the same!!

HammerHeadGym

I used to dream of having the perfect relationship, waking up next to someone with whom I was as in love with today as the first time we met.

However, as the years roll by, I would happily settle for someone I can wake up beside every day and not HATE.

And that's what relationships are. Your welcome.

Jotter

I was about to post on this thread earlier about how wonderfully perfect my relationship is when himself roared at me from downstairs that Im a f*cking eejit, theres paint eveywhere, blah blah blah. This is after I get up, feed and dress baby and paint the downstairs loo, all this done before 12pm and here was me thinking I was doing a great job!!! Needless to say I wasnt that keen to sing his praises after that episode

Theres no such thing as perfection and anyone who thinks theyre gonna get it is going to be dissappointed! If youre happy 90% of the time in your relationship then you are in the right one for you and you should appreciate the fact that youre very lucky. Perfection would be boring and noone wants to be around a couple who make everyone else want to puke with their 'arent we so perfect' attitute - if you are of the opinion that youre 100% perfect you need to be careful to hide it and hide it well

Everyone needs to make an effort in a relationship to look good at least some of the time, I had a baby a while ago and imo it was ok for me to look crap for the first few months and be a big hairy mary in my trakkie bottoms - even the husband caught on and started getting a bit of a belly and slobbing it a bit! Now though Ive started to get back to my old self and the regular wax jobs etc, and I have to say its nice to look in the mirror and think Im a ride again! Hes started biking again and is looking fit and it deffo puts the spark back when you feel good about yourself!!

ShowUsYourXbox

Well actually.. there was this ONE hooker who swallowed.

GerryRyan

Well, a year and a bit in and we haven't had a single arguement, except for the trivial things ... love her to bits.
But then again, it's only my second proper relationship, so haven't much to contrast it against ... going to be hard when we go to different colleges thought.

Red Hand

Femmy wrote:

Is there such a thing?
Can anyone here say that they have the perfect relationship?

I think i dream of this fairy tale ending for my life "and they lived happily ever after"..but do they?

Does prince charming always stay as charming as he was when they first met? Does the princess keep up the effort at looking so good, always perfect and gorgeous...?

Do they get pissed off with eachother when they see that maybe the princess doesnt look so good at 8am after a night out on the batter, with panda eyes and all that....or that prince charming just doesnt use his brain sometimes and cant predict what the princess wants and needs from the relationship...?

Do you have the perfect relationship..or know someone who has?

I guess you go through moments where you say that "this is perfect, and I wouldn't change this for anything".

Other times, you'd like things to be different...circumstance rather than the person.

But what do I know?

LegacyUser

CathyMoran wrote:

My relationship with Shane started off very rocky but I think that we have as close to a perfect relationship as you can have. I agree with Seamus's statement above.

Shane and I have been through a lot together, he knows when I am upset, he has been supportive of me through very serious illness - in turn we just make one another happy, we make one another laugh, talk a lot and fancy one another.

Does your husband Shane not mind you mentioning his name on a public forum so freely? If you were my girlfriend, I'd hate you to mention my real name on internet forums talking about me.

zuutroy

cheesedude wrote:

Does your husband Shane not mind you mentioning his name on a public forum so freely? If you were my girlfriend, I'd hate you to mention my real name on internet forums talking about me.

They both be's well known in these parts....He's got a few thousand posts here too methinks.

Mrs_Doyle

cheesedude wrote:

Does your husband Shane not mind you mentioning his name on a public forum so freely? If you were my girlfriend, I'd hate you to mention my real name on internet forums talking about me.

He uses his first initial and surname as his boards username, so I really don't think he would mind her calling him by name.
I'm fairly certain that if he did have a problem with it, Cathy Moran wouldn't do it.

The_Conductor

zuutroy wrote:

They both be's well known in these parts....He's got a few thousand posts here too methinks.

Yup- I do be well known in these here parts......
I use my real name, because I have a head like sieve and if I used an alias I'd only forget my logon......

Peyton Manning

Yes, it does exist. I have one, and I couldnt care less what other people think. You dont love someone cos theyre perfect - you love them because theyre not perfect.

Capt'n Midnight

something along the lines of "don't marry someone you can live with, marry someone you can't live without"