Anger control

LegacyUser

Hey, just wonderin if anyone has had the same problem and how you deal with it.

I'm 22, female and I snap at people all the time, usually the ones closest to me. Boyfriend, parents, friends and also sometimes strangers and I need to stop doing it but sometimes I just lash out with the first thing that comes into my head. I know I have to think before I speak, but I've tried it before and it usually wears off and I'm back at it again. A few of my relationships have become strained because of it.
It's probably over the last year it's become this bad but I also get angry easily enough. And if I get really angry i'd punch the wall or something close, that's if I'm really angry, which doesn't happen that often. I don't know what it is. I try to be a good person but then when I hear something I don't like the sound of I just snap. I feel really awful about this. I'm hot tempered I suppose you could say, or highly strung, maybe have a bad attitude. I don't know. I hate it and always feel terrible afterwards.

Can anyone relate to this??

jellie

Is there something bothering you? or stressing you? you sound like youre a bit highly strung, if you know what i mean. just sounds like there might be something going on in the background.

LegacyUser

I'm 23, male and have the same problem. I am extremely irritable and it has ruined two relationships in the past. I get angry and wound up around people and I say horrible things and then afterwards I feel so horrible about it and apologise and promise to myself that I won't get worked up again. It never works though and I am destined to be by myself i suppose

ntlbell

For both of you I would get in touch with a counsellor they're are plenty of good ones that specialise in anger managment.

Lots of people maybe able to relate to your situtation but will more than likley have different reasons.

If you can try and work out why you get angry there is nothing wrong with getting angry everyone does, you just need to try and learn to channel it in better but this happens usually automatically when you deal with whatever is causing the deep down issue in the first place

Aishling

You are describing how I was a few years ago. I changed the Pill that I was on and an unexpected side effect was that the savage moods disappeared. If you are taking the pill google the brand and see what others say.

Good luck.

AnonoBoy

I agree with what Aishling said. The pill can have a huge effect on moods like that. I've seen girls who are always acted like immature angry selfish people change for the better when they finally talked to their doctor and changed the pill they were on.

So. Talk to your doctor. Tell him/her the problem and ask whether they think trying another pill would help and also what pill they would recommend.

Dr_Teeth

I'd beware of anyone who says they're an anger management consultant, especially ones on the internet. Talk to your doctor and have them refer you.

Here's an interesting episode from Penn & Teller's series on this subject:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDmragIk_U0

Charlies Angel

Defo talk to your doc if you are on the pill. Mine was discontinued so had to go on another..stuck it out for 4 months but it was a nightmare, narky irritable etc..for no apparent reason..Changed now to a different pill and back to happy me again!! Make an appointment now!!

ntlbell

Dr_Teeth wrote:

I'd beware of anyone who says they're an anger management consultant, especially ones on the internet. Talk to your doctor and have them refer you.

Here's an interesting episode from Penn & Teller's series on this subject:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDmragIk_U0

I wasn't referring to an anger managment 'consultant' more counsellor's that have a lot of exp in dealing with the issue.