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Lack social skills

  • 09-06-2007 10:37am
    #1
    Esse85
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,254 ✭✭✭


    Im an only child (23), i ve never been close with my parents, so i ve always been used to my own company. Living a little inside my head at times.

    Coming from a small family, i wonder is this the reason im terribly shy when im in groups. I ve numerous friends but their all scattered. There all one-on-one friends. I ve never hung aroung in groups before. It seems so akward to me.

    I go out to a club once a week, but i just cant force myself to be social and to interact with strangers. I just have a few drinks and stay talking to whoever im with. I was at a party last week and i just stood at the side drinking while everyone else was drinking.

    I ve joined numerous clubs before, i.e. rugby, drama, and i love playing rugby but i get so uncomfortable with being around 30+ guys who are all having the craic, that i just cant open my mouth. It all seems a bit fake to me at times, (the laughing and joking around of some people).

    When it comes to attracting girls, i know alot of it is down to expressing your personality to attract them. But i just cant seem to get out of my head and not care what others think.

    How do i get over my social awkwardness?

    P.S Im glad im aware of it and i know i can change, insted of going through life with my head buried in the sand.


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  • #2
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    A lot of people feel awkward in larger groups but if you picture it this way - at any party or similar of 100+ people there are smaller 2-3 ppl groups within the big group. If you concentrate on these small groups you can still enjoy yourself.

    You can also practice by joining a public speaking group or similar. This should teach you how to speak to, and interact with, large groups of people.


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