Lack of sensation with her

LegacyUser

A girl Ive been with a few times has a huge preference for her clit over her vagina. She says she gets little or no stimulation from penetration down there or anything else used (fingers etc). However her clit does the job perfectly and she prefers everything to be focused there and it's always foreplay. So much so, that shes lost interest in penetrative sex because its just me who orgasms and she never gets close, no matter how slow I take it. She just says shes never come close to orgasm from anything in her vagina. Ive ruled out it being anything to do with me because she says it's always been that way. Any girls shed any experiences on this?

togster

Im not a girl but i have been with some girls like this before. I found spending lots of time on foreplay the trick prior to penetrative sex. Then adopt a position where you/her can stimulate the clitoris during sex. During sex .... "withdraw" and concentrate on giving just clitoral stimulation for a period of time and gradually shorten this time.Seems to work.
Good luck.
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Marksie

it is common for some women to not reach orgasm through penetrative s*x alone.

Try stimulation of the whole area at the same time. or allow her to do so. Also think about positions which will increase sensation or , for example, stimulate the g-spot.

Somtimes a highly aroused state will lead to excess lubrication..i./e she gets too wet with excitment.

Also, i suggest Kegel exercises which she (and you ) can use to tighten and condition muscles, so she can grip. by squeezing during intercoiurse she can greatly increase sensation. If you do the same, yu can greatly prolonge an enhance lovemaKing (PC control)

ntlbell

Depending on what book/website you read apparently only 1 in 4 women can climax via penetration.

i don't see why it's bothering you so much ?

flick the prawn get her sorted...then jump on and sort yourself?

WellyJ

ntlbell wrote:

Depending on what book/website you read apparently only 1 in 4 women can climax via penetration.

i don't see why it's bothering you so much ?

flick the prawn get her sorted...then jump on and sort yourself?

Probably because as he said, she doesnt seem at all interested in intercourse.

It would be hard to enjoy it when you know she would prefer to be going asleep or whatever

logic

I'm not a girl but at the end of the day its down to personal preference. Everyone is different. You do what she likes and in turn she should do what you like.

Caliden

Why not try penetrative sex while you rub her clit with your fingers? Find the position than you think is easiest to do this and give it a go. I had an ex who was the same way but by doing this both of us got off during penetrative sex (it was mainly the clit stimulation for her that caused her to orgasm)

spurious

The vaginal walls have very few nerve endings ...can you imagine what it would be like in childbirth if it had? It is rarely a source of pleasure when stimulated in isolation.

The clitoris is the key to women's pleasure. Vaginal intercourse will give women pleasure only where the clitoris (or the G-Spot, which is technically part of the same structure, coming into play when the clitoris is enlarged) is stimulated. During stimulation of the clitoris a woman often feels a desire to have something in her vagina, probably as a result of the GSpot swelling. Many women while masturbating will only use clitoral stimulation but just before orgasm will insert a vibrator or dildo.

The more stimulated her clitoris is, the more her G Spot will enlarge and the more likely she is to get any great pleasure from something in her vagina.

It's all a question of taking time and trying different positions, techniques etc. Good luck.

spinandscribble

well i prefer penetrative sex so i cant be of much help except that i think you should stimulate the clit just before she comes then enter and continue to stimulate.

however its difficult on you as you probably prefer penetrative sex. theres a lot of positions where either one of you can touch the clit.

theres also that durex cock ring that vibrates the clit while having sex, try that?

Wibbs

Marksie wrote:

Also, i suggest Kegel exercises which she (and you ) can use to tighten and condition muscles, so she can grip. by squeezing during intercoiurse she can greatly increase sensation. If you do the same, yu can greatly prolonge an enhance lovemaKing (PC control)

This is good advice. The tighter the grip the more likely that g spot stimulation will occur. It's one of the reasons you hear from women that size(girth mainly) matters. If she is more toned in those muscles she can grip far more tightly and increase her and his pleasure regardless of the penis size. Different positions will also increase the chances of better stimulation. More for the sexuality forum though

While it is true that a lot of women don't reach orgasm through intercourse, when technique and tone is brought into it more women are more likely to reach orgasm or simply enjoy it more. It stands to reason really. Nature wants both to enjoy intercourse as foreplay alone isn't very good at reproducing the species.:D If you also take the point that a woman is more likely to get pregnant from an orgasm during intercourse than intercourse alone it's all the more obvious.

As spurious wrote;

spurious wrote:

During stimulation of the clitoris a woman often feels a desire to have something in her vagina, probably as a result of the GSpot swelling

It's even simpler than g spot swelling. That's a symptom as it were, not the cause. Nature wants her to have intercourse for reproduction. An orgasm during penetration increases her chances and is rewarded by higher pleasure.

ladylorenzo

I'm noticing that there arent many girls contributing to this thread!!The simple fact of the matter is that we girls dont generally orgasm during intercourse..muc as we may like to let you boys think we do!If it's clitoral stimulation that does it for her, then if this relationship is going to go anywhere, that's what you need to concentrate on. Plenty of foreplay and try to make her orgasm..then give her a short time to recover, caress her, kiss her and then start trying to arouse her again. At this stage, she should be in the mood for penetrative sex and she should really enjoy it!(Emphasis on 'should').
I agree that certain positions definitely help to make the penetrative sex more enjoyable (her on top so that you can stimulate her being amongst our favourites!) but if, as OP has said, she really is not interested in intercourse, then you're in trouble my friend. TBH, I would be similar to the girl in question but there is no way I would expect a guy to spend time pleasuring me without then returning the favour whether it be through penetrative sex or otherwise. I've rarely met girls who have no interest in penetrative though..maybe you just have to make the penetrative part more interesting..Practice the exercises to strengthen the PC muscle and dont be afraid to keep it short and sweet...it's a myth that we all like it to go on for hours!
Anyway, that's my wee piece of wisdom. Good luck and dont give up...if you care enough to look for advice on this matter, then you care enough to be a good lover so it'll work out. LL

LegacyUser

OP maybe you shouldn't try to take it slow with your girlfriend while having penetrative sex. If she gets no pleasure out of it then you'll just be boring her and tbh noone likes to be that bored. If you're getting her off then it's only fair that helps you orgasm too.
As said above, a lot of women don't orgasm from penetrative sex and a lot of women never ever orgasm.