Love to let go and forget

coco

Im 23 and I fell in love last year with somebody who didnt love me but left me with one hell of a mess! Thing happened of which I dont want to go into but! I still love him I dream of him everynight I have tried every single method of forgetting him but I cant! I left my job I moved and its still didnt make it any better. I havent spoken to him in months I still remember his mobile number but I dont ring or txt. He made me laugh and he gave me confidence in myself and I love him very much. I even tried meeting somebody else, but my sister informed me that the people Im meeting look like him. Its a nightmare and I cant get him out!

I started a new job and there this guy I like and I made sure that it didnt look like my x and well Im afraid the same thing is going to happen. Hes not going to like me either.

The good thing is Ive lost a stone in weight, Ive gained a job, Im able to pay my debts my life is going well but unfortunitly I wish I could get my x out my head. Please help!

LegacyUser

'Hey sweetie, i've been in the same situation with a close friend, and i know it's so hard. It's great that you aren't texting or calling him..you need to give yourself space from the situation.The only thing i can think of is to not fight what you are feeling or try to push it away.
Feelings that are that strong will always resurface no matter how hard we fight them.
Accept them and in time they will fade, but continue the path you are on.. I admire you for picking yourself up and achieving so much!'

coco

Thank you,
Its hard and I find that the only thing thats kinda getting my mind off him is losing weight and gaining more confidence in myself. I feel like a fool though for still caring so much about him! I miss him so much.

LegacyUser

'what age are u coco? u may love him but ye split for a reason'

coco

Im 23 and he just didnt feel the same for me.

LegacyUser

'So what makes u think he's changed? how long were ye going out?'

Elessar

I am in a very similar situation. Except it's been 5 years for me. Still cant get the person out of my head. From my experience it gets slightly easier with time, but I still think of this person weekly, sometimes daily...wondering what might have been. I don't think you can ever really get over something like this.

coco

I want him to go out my head I think of him nearly everyday and it does easy with time, but how long! And wat do I do like Oh I dont know its driving me nuts!

biko

Well, you know it's not going to happen with him so there is just one thing to do - move on, lay awake at night, cry sometimes, get drunk, etc etc

The thoughts of him will diminish over time but it probably won't happen in the next 2 weeks.

Sorry, there is no wonder drug to forget exes. Chalk it down to life experience.

coco

Its been nearly 6 months! since I saw him last.

LegacyUser

I'm in d same boat, girlfriend dumped me nearly a year ago, still not over it and doubt i ever will be properly. i see her from time to time but not with few months now, its just hard but it eases everyday

Miss Fluff

It'll get to the stage where you don't give him a second thought. Until that happened to your best to enjoy life to the fool, You've come a long way by finding a new job/losing weight etc etc so make time for your friends and go out and let your hair done, you don't need to get a replacement for him asap, enjoy being 23 and foot-loose and fancy free!