What to say...

LegacyUser

Ok. Going unreg'd for this one.

We broke up 2 months ago. My fault. Nothing bad happened I was just sad all the time.
I can't believe I did this, other s$% goes wrong and I sabotage everything else. Finally realised last week that I made a huge mistake. He's the one 4 me. It was simmering under the surface for a while.
We havn't seen each other since and I don't want to upset him by just trying to fall back into his life again. I can't call him cos I wanna give him time to think you know a phone call after 2 months, well I know myself I would faint or puke. So, I need some advice: How to communicate my sorryness and stupidity. Short text, asking to meet, letter, wait till we 'bump' into each other? a bit paralysed with fear over his reaction...

Also you know this 'friends' business "Hiiii, how are you??" I can't do that stuff.

I'm think a text would be okay, we could both handle that, just don't know what to put in it.

coco

Dont do it! Txts are terrible because they can be takin so many ways and most of the time badly. Your best option is to call or email him and ask him how hes and wats he been up too lately or something! Just keep it casual then that will start off a conversation.

Believe me when I tell you txts are a bad way to communicate in regards to relationships and serious issues

Fey!

Avoid the dreaded text. Ring him and arrange to meet for lunch or something; meeting for a "coffee" relays all kinds of "I want a maybe quick but serious chat" vibes, dinner is too forward, but lunch can be to just catch up. Just let the conversation progress naturally and see how it goes; don't put yourself or him under any pressure. See how you feel at the end of it.

LegacyUser

Hi...thanks for the advice...so call him and arrange to meet. sounds so easy eh! But I will..

well thing is, I don't know if he will answer the phone. Like if I call, I can see him not picking up just cos its a few seconds to react and then well I can't start leaving missed calls on his phone like a mad woman! Texting is much easier to give him time to respond...

Hi, would be good to see you. Let me know if you're around for a coffee?

type of thing. having palpitations even typing it here. that would be giving the whole short but serious chat vibe I guess yeah? no? Sometimes I think the casualness would wreck his head even more. We know each other for a long time. But I think that was really good advice, not to put pressure on him, see how you feel after the initial meeting etc...

Thanks.

Any more posts would be welcome as well...just nervous.

Caliden

"Would you like to go for a coffee and a chat some time? Say XXXday around XXpm?

If he is a nice guy, he wont hold anything against and will go. If you're afraid he wont answer call him from your house phone or something. He can just as easily ignore a text message.
If he doesn't answer, don't go mental and call him a load of times. Try again later and failing that. send the text the following day or something.