age difference, opinions appreciated

LegacyUser

So I work with a guy and we bacame really close, started going out with other workmates on saturday nights etc and had a couple of kisses. I know he really likes me and I like him, but the problem is he's just turned 18 and I'm 21, soon to be 22. Anyone been in a similar situation?

davyjose

I went out with a girl who was a good few years younger than me, and it wasn't a problem. I think the only problem is in your head - the only person might raise their eyebrows, but do they count?

Ruu_Old

That is hardly a big age difference, it is only a problem if you make it one. Don't worry too much about it and enjoy yourself. Who cares what others think? They aren't worth thinking about. Good luck.

doubtfir3

Not a big gap. If you were 24/25 then maybe it is an issue but that is not.

As long as you're both happy then who cares about others.

Victor

worried888 wrote:

So I work with a guy and we bacame really close, started going out with other workmates on saturday nights etc and had a couple of kisses. I know he really likes me and I like him, but the problem is he's just turned 18 and I'm 21, soon to be 22. Anyone been in a similar situation?

Personally I don't worry about what people think. I worry about what I think (that can be a lot more vicious!!! ).

I don't think its a problem, but I remember the (second?) last time I was out with a 19 year old, she would stop moaning about her school teachers = no second date.

Dudess

doubtfir3 wrote:

Not a big gap. If you were 24/25 then maybe it is an issue

I don't even think that would be an issue. If you were 30, it would be weird, but not an issue.
OP, if you were a guy, I bet you wouldn't be worried. Go for it.

Marksie

Dudess wrote:

I don't even think that would be an issue. If you were 30, it would be weird, but not an issue.
OP, if you were a guy, I bet you wouldn't be worried. Go for it.

Even then it is only an issue if you think it is. I was 21 going out with a 30 year old woman, who was also my boss. There were no problems to speak of.

tumbleweeds

It's only a problem if he turns out to be immature-happened to a friend. Otherwise go for it!

Antigone05

do go for it. i approached my now girlfriend when i was 20 and she was 25.

5 years on and it never got it the way.

azezil

I'm 8 years older than my partner, I don't give a crap, he doesn't give a crap.. tbh most of the time I forget how old he is, its really not an issue I treat him like I would anyone else regardless of age, if you like the person and you get along, go for it!

Talliesin

That's not an age difference.

DD

Lol, do u think this is a diff, think about people that got married and had kids and the diff btw'em is about 10 years or more

Rattlehead_ie

No problem my last partner was 9 years older than me. I'm 23 she was 32, didnt have an issue with it. Its entirely up to the person in the relationship and what you see in the other half

god's toy

8 year difference here and all is well. Go for it!

Dors1976

That's not an age difference.
Go for it and don't mind what anyone thinks.;)

Schism

Go for it. Ive been going out with my girlfriend since we were in school, I'm a year and 9 months older than her and it seemed like a gap back then but its nothing really when I think about it now. My point is if ye like each other and stay together for a stretch this gap you see now will start to seem smaller and smaller. gl and have fun

StephenC_IRL

both above 18 anything up to like 8-10 years is alright, below 18 3 years younger or older is my opinion.