Meeting girl from net

LegacyUser

Okay
*Iv followed all etique regarding meeting someone online, informing a friend, etc. But i need some practical advice.

im heading up to meet a girl tomorrow i got talking to on online, she's a nice girl like and from txt and swapping photos and checking each other out on myspace we are both interested in each other. She's in Dublin and im from Cork and we are meeting halfway.

We are both young, she's 20, im 22. I aint done anything like this before, our messages have been very manerly, nothing rude or anything just chatty and stuff, im looking forward to meeting her tomorrow.

We both are interested in each other after chatting and swapping photos and hoping tomorrow will be a success.

My issue is tomorrow when we hang out, if both of us are having fun and there's some flirting going on, should i make a move to kiss her or am i best of just having the craic with her and waiting till we sort out a proper date sometime in the future. Like iv plenty of guts and no problem doing it but from just talking so far on net and text messages i really like the girl and hoping something might come out of meeting her.

Thanks in advance for advice.
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AngryBadger

You can't decide what you're going to do ahead of time. Just go with the flow, it's not different than if you're meeting a girl you know through fiends, or from a night out or whatever.

Ruu_Old

Agreed, no different to going on a date with someone you met at a club or somewhere else. Don't plan on anything and just enjoy yourself. Hope it works out for you.

biko

You don't have to kiss her on the first date. Just don't give out friends vibes.

Bounty Hunter

a girl living in dublin was msging me regularily on myspace recently although i had never met her, we get on great and our conversations are always partially flirty (mostly the jokes), she mentioned that she tends to start her nights out at a place in town i go to a lot with friends of mine and recently when i was there with a mate i saw her. I spotted her imediatley and had an ice-breaker as she was wearing the exact same dress as in her myspace user pic. now i have never met someone from the web like this either but we got on very well, although both of us did feel odd about the whole situation (how we only virtually knew each other before). broach the subject with her and gauge how confortable with the situation she is. to be honest i made jokes to do so as people feeling slighly awkward or nervous often do. i.e said i was relieved she wasnt some old dude ect. the more confortable / happy she seems the better an impression youve probably made. Im my case she laughed at the lame jokes so was prob feeling awkward or nervous too but atleast slightly at ease now.

there is a big distance between you two so establish if possible if she would like to meet again. if yes thats prob a green light to make some sort of move unless that would ruin the mood, which you would prob be able to tell at the time from how confortable she seems around you i.e if shes leaving tthe opportunity for moves to arise.

remember she may be shy in person too, hense the meeting online.

LegacyUser

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Bounty Hunter wrote:

a girl living in dublin was msging me regularily on myspace recently although i had never met her, we get on great and our conversations are always partially flirty (mostly the jokes), she mentioned that she tends to start her nights out at a place in town i go to a lot with friends of mine and recently when i was there with a mate i saw her. I spotted her imediatley and had an ice-breaker as she was wearing the exact same dress as in her myspace user pic. now i have never met someone from the web like this either but we got on very well, although both of us did feel odd about the whole situation (how we only virtually knew each other before). broach the subject with her and gauge how confortable with the situation she is. to be honest i made jokes to do so as people feeling slighly awkward or nervous often do. i.e said i was relieved she wasnt some old dude ect. the more confortable / happy she seems the better an impression youve probably made. Im my case she laughed at the lame jokes so was prob feeling awkward or nervous too but atleast slightly at ease now.

there is a big distance between you two so establish if possible if she would like to meet again. if yes thats prob a green light to make some sort of move unless that would ruin the mood, which you would prob be able to tell at the time from how confortable she seems around you i.e if shes leaving tthe opportunity for moves to arise.

remember she may be shy in person too, hense the meeting online.

Thanks all for the speedily quick replys, now i got a bit of a drive to do in the morning so ill let you all know afterwards.

If its anything like any other date for me it will be my first and last, lol '

muppetkiller

it's funny actually the first girl I met from myspace we had been chatting for about 2 months when we decided to meet up. I said to her that it was going to be strange to meet her and wondered how I should greet her. She said to kiss her
So that made it much easier...she walked off the train I met her there with a rose and we had a big dirty snog lol

Elessar

Personally I wouldn't do it, but don't be suprised if she is 5 stone overweight and the photos she showed you were "old lol".

Owen

Enjoy it. I met a long term girlfriend off the net, and we had a great relationship. Times change, it's just different to meeting someone in a pub/club ... nothing at all wrong with it.

LegacyUser

hey dude..for the past year ive been talking to someone who messaged me on myspace, it all started out as just rambling about music/film/etc but over the time we realised it wasnt all that innocent. it developed from the online messaging/webcam to texting and were at the stage of talking on the phone pretty much every day.
Thankfully it was in her plans to move to ireland (from california) but she's coming over here for a week in july coz we cant wait until october for the move.

it is an odd situation, but its not a big deal. I think the main thing that people need to get over is thinking that people are going to react badly and tell you youre insane.

you cant help the way you feel..and you dont want to let an opportunity at happiness go by because of what people are gonna think!!

good luck with it dude!

Blackpitts

I think when you want to meet a girl from net, you have to be realistic and u won't be disappointed. Are you looking for a "hot babe" or a decent girl?

think, why good looking girls would place a profile on a website? usually they are surrounded of guys trying an approach (and not only to get laid) in pubs/clubs, so I suppose they mustn't have any problem in meeting new people. Different story for shy girls (not so hot), in this case a website can be a nice way to break the ice

muppetkiller

Not true actually Blackpitts.I've met many models from myspace for the soul reason that they find it very difficult to meet people that are sincere.
Alot of them wont have pics up as they don't want people to see them until after a few moths of chatting.
Lets just say that it was a very pleasant surprise when I did meet her
But I agree that it's a very easy method for people who are shy to get chatting with others.

fletch

I've met a few fellas on the net and I think it's a great way to meet someone. Both parties can be honest as to their intentions and there's no drink fuelled one night stands (unless that's what you're meeting for )

tbh

it'll feel a bit weird at first because one part of your brain is telling you you know her really well, and another is telling you you don't know her at all, so it's difficult to work out how to play it. Personally, I'd just make a joke about how I didn't know how to act, and confess that I found it a bit strange. I guarantee you that she'll be feeling the same, and will be relieved that now she knows how you are going to handle it, and she can do the same. If the vibes are good, go for it!

LegacyUser

Yeah well woke up the next morning to find a text message, she felt she wanted to txt, talk and stuff a little more which seems fair enough and did seem genuine about it so we will chat a little more and see if we can organise a second meeting, im sure she will be interested in meeting, maybe she's a bit nervous, probably best to chat a little more, i might ask her if she would like me to call ehr some night to talk on the phone.