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unruly teens ( not mine)

  • 29-05-2007 6:17pm
    #1
    curehead
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    unruly teenagers (not mine)

    been seeing this woman for a few months now, she's seperated from her husband , just waiting on the finalization of the divorce , he was an abuser and adulterer so she got custody of the kids, this was six years ago , she has brought them up on her own , working two jobs just to keep paying mortgage, bills, etc etc . anyway the "kids" are now 14 and 16 they are bright and articulate and do good in school and are into sports but the problem is the way they treat and speak to their mother . the 14 year old in particular wont do anything to help her mother around the house and some mornings refuses to go to school point blank what can you do in this situation in particular you can't force them into school she just tells her mother f off she's not going calls her a bitch .......... is this the way kids are these days ? im 35 and wouldn't dream of saying that even now.... anway i was just wondering did anyone go through this and what did they do or not do in these situations all reply;s appreciated ................ ps forgive the grammar


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  • #2
    DublinWriter
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    I think that you'd be on a hiding-to-nothing if you went in there and tried to talk to them yourself. They'll only use the stock phrase "you're not my dad" and tell you where to go with yourself.

    There are obviously emotional issues going on with the kids that remain unresolved regarding their father. They may be taking these out on the mother as the nearest available soft-target, but not actually be meaning it. Either way, I'm sure it's a grim thing to witness.

    I think the mother would need some sort of intervention from a professional child-specialist, either counsellor or psychiatrist.

    Don't even dream about trying to sort it out yourself.


  • #3
    wexford12
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    curehead wrote:
    unruly teenagers (not mine)

    been seeing this woman for a few months now, she's seperated from her husband , just waiting on the finalization of the divorce , he was an abuser and adulterer so she got custody of the kids, this was six years ago , she has brought them up on her own , working two jobs just to keep paying mortgage, bills, etc etc . anyway the "kids" are now 14 and 16 they are bright and articulate and do good in school and are into sports but the problem is the way they treat and speak to their mother . the 14 year old in particular wont do anything to help her mother around the house and some mornings refuses to go to school point blank what can you do in this situation in particular you can't force them into school she just tells her mother f off she's not going calls her a bitch .......... is this the way kids are these days ? im 35 and wouldn't dream of saying that even now.... anway i was just wondering did anyone go through this and what did they do or not do in these situations all reply;s appreciated ................ ps forgive the grammar


    Sounds very much like a relationship i was in in fact it could be my story to be honest i gave up "sorry" blood is always thicker than water and it killed me the way her kids treated her but they had a good teacher "daddy".Some times you have to leave well alone there mother is a grown woman and if she wants to take that **** more fool her.Sorry if that sounds harsh but iv been there worn the t shirt.


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