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  • 29-05-2007 11:58am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I don't know what to do with my life.
    I've been increasingly depressed for the past month; crying everyday, waking up feeling sick and anxious for no reason.
    I cut myself so I was sent by my gp to be assessed and I was told I was fine.
    I went to see another doctor to see if I would need counselling and was also told I was fine.
    I don't feel as though I need it myself as nothing bad has happened to make me feel this way.
    I don't want to be detained or put on medication but I don't know what to do.
    I don't enjoy anything anymore, I'm constantly bored.
    I quit my job and my parents are very angry with me now over that.
    I'm only 18 and shouldn't be wasting my life.
    I tried the college thing and dropped out.
    I've never held down anything for very long.
    I hate working and just the thought of it makes me feel sick.
    I feel as though I don't fit in anywhere.
    I have a good group of supportive friends but even going out (which was the only thing that made me happy) doesn't feel like fun anymore.
    I just don't know where to turn.


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  • #2
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    Give me one positive.

    Have a think, and come back and tell me ONE good thing that's happening in your life.

    we'll take it from there.

    ;)

    Also, you're 18, which to you is probably ancient, but to me is....well, you know how you would regard someone of 12? that's how I'd view 18. I'm not trying to be patronising, I'm saying you are still going through a LOT of changes, so you're by no means stuck in the life you have now.


  • #3
    jellie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,503 ✭✭✭✭jellie


    helpmeee wrote:
    I tried the college thing and dropped out.
    I've never held down anything for very long.
    Have you tried something you actually like? something you enjoy or have an interest in? it makes such a difference
    helpmeee wrote:
    I have a good group of supportive friends but even going out (which was the only thing that made me happy) doesn't feel like fun anymore.
    I just don't know where to turn.
    You say your friends are supportive, have you tried telling them any of this?


  • #4
    sweet-rasmus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,128 ✭✭✭sweet-rasmus


    hey, in your situation, where you aren't studying in college or working, it makes sense that you have become bored. and boredom 24/7 is not going to improve anything. you have to make a change in your life and start something. whether it be to take up some sort of activity, like going to a gym or somethig, and then look at your work options. you can try to get another job, but if you aren't up to pressure, how about volunteering at oxfam or somewhere like that. sounds funny, but it would take most of the weight and responsibility away, and most importantly it would give you something to do until you are ready to earn again. perhaps if you are interested in study, but are nervous of the commitment, how about trying a night school course, a summer course (all sorts of places are holding 1, 2, 3 or 4 week courses for the summer), or a plc course or something not quite as daunting as the prospect of 3 or 4 years in college.
    there is no quick fix to your issue and you will have to work your way out of your unhappy time. just try to take up something to pick yourself out of boredom. you could discuss your options with a councillor and they would be able to help direct you to where you want to go. and don't feel that it's the doctor's or your parents' responsibility to tell you to see a councillor; if you want to talk with someone and you think they could inspire you somewhat; do. i see you said you don't feel that you need a councillor, but the truth is that they can give you the advice you need. there are free services available for young people (some places ask for a donation) and one such is mentioned on http://www.youthquest.ie/health/counselling.htm , but there are plenty of places available and you should book a session if you are interested.
    better yet, if you feel like you can talk to any of your friends about it, and that they might be able to advise you; do. though, they are young like you and may not have the best advice for you.
    do keep talking to your friends and to us here on boards anyhow. good luck! :D


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'Yeah I have told my friends but they don't know how to help.
    They're happy in their lives so they can't understand where I'm coming from.
    I've literally NO interest in anything that I could do work at or study! Seriously
    Even when I have a job and money and friends and a boyfriend it feel as though there's something missing in my life...I might see a counsellor anyway'


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