Internet Dating: yes or no?

pikachucheeks

ok,this isn't a particularly "personal" issue,I guess,since it's becoming more socially acceptable.
but with more and more people getting into it,I was just wondering what peoples' opinions were!

I got to know a guy from the internet before and met up with him after a year,we liked each other,but distance meant it didn't work and I admit I did feel a bit dorky because of the circumstances in which we met,but now it's happened with another guy... doh!

Ruu_Old

I would give it a go and have a bit of fun, it is very common these days for couples to meet online I would think. Best of luck this time around.

Little-Devil

I dont think you would get to many people admitting to it, but i would guess there are more and more people who sign up. I would say be very careful if you decide to meet up with your latest catch

just out of interest what site do you use

pikachucheeks

I don't actually use dating sites!
I just had a myspace profile,and had lots of people chatting to me on that.

I'm sure Bebo or anything like that will get you laid,mate!

hahah!

Little-Devil

Ouch that hurt lol.
I dont use Bebo or Myspace, but thanks for the tip

GLaDOS

I met my current girlfriend on bebo having known her years ago in primary school

pikachucheeks

no problem!
might help you a bit!
haha!



but that's not really meeting her on the internet though,as such!
so you're not THAT nerdy!
I mean more meeting a stranger online and getting to know them.

January

I met my current boyfriend on yahoo/lycos chat. We've been going out for three months now, but know each other for longer. I've met people from online before but never gone out with them, just a couple of dates.

Black Swan

Why not? We meet in all kinds of places... pubs, clubs, voluntary organisations, university, gym, the beach... The internet is just another meeting place.

Little-Devil

pikachucheeks wrote:

no problem!
might help you a bit!
haha!

I need all the help i can get at the moment

I'm NOT against meeting on the internet, just not my thing, but i wouldnt rule it out in the future.

Zaph

I've tried it, nothing really came of it but it was a bit of fun. Met some very nice women, one of whom would have liked to take things further but I just wasn't attracted to her. That's the chance you take, but I'd tell people never to rule it out completely.

pikachucheeks

aw nice!
I think it's quite cool that people can meet on the internet nowadays..
at least you can build up something non-shallow

pikachucheeks

To be honest,I never thought it would be my "thing" either.
I didn't actually plan to go on a website and find someone I'd end up liking in that way.
I just had a myspace to link me with friends and lots of random people found me on it.
but I think meeting people on the internet is nicer than in a pub,or it can be. since when you're in a pub,guys just go by your physical appearence. if you actually spend time building up a relationship with someone online,it's less about that.

~nop~

I think you're going to get a very biased opinion asking that question on boards.. but go for it anyway! Good luck!

DublinWriter

pikachucheeks wrote:

I got to know a guy from the internet before and met up with him after a year,we liked each other,but distance meant it didn't work and I admit I did feel a bit dorky because of the circumstances in which we met,but now it's happened with another guy... doh!

There is still quite a stigma attacted to it.

But look at the alternatives...picking up some randomer in a club after a 15 minute conversation during which you have to roar in each others' ears while both tanked up on what-ever-you're-having-yourself.

As Machiavelli said, the ends justify the means. If it works for you then do it. Feck what anyone else thinks. It's your life.

Jules

I met my b/f through boards, we both posted in the same place and kinda got talking and well now nearly 9 months later we have moved in together and things are great. Just be careful if your meeting someone let people know where your going etc etc there are some strange people out there but i have my fingers crossed you will end up as happy as i am!

red_ice

im sorry pikachucheeks, it will never work, i want children at some point.

Why should you care what people think? Set a trend ;o

PeakOutput

i met my last girlfriend on myspace...lasted a year was really worried about what id tell my mates but i just decided fk it and told them the truth got a slagging every now and then but didnt really care

you do feel a bit self consious of it but it was worth it for me anyway

id defo be carefull about it if i was a girl tho there is defo some wierdos on myspace and bebo etc

philstar

some smug people may say that online dating is for saddo's..but i bet you any money most of them have tried it themselves.:rolleyes:

I joined an online dating site, did it more for the socialising than for the dates.

Its a great way of meeting people it gives gives you another social outlet, and its also ideal for someone who is new to a town/city like i was.

I say ..ya give it a go..and to hell with the sneer squad.

Victor

pikachucheeks wrote:

I got to know a guy from the internet before and met up with him after a year,we liked each other,but distance meant it didn't work and I admit I did feel a bit dorky because of the circumstances in which we met,but now it's happened with another guy... doh!

If it wasn't a dating website and it wasn't on the basis of "Wanna s3x0r?" then it isn't internet dating.

Attol

I can think of two babies born because of Boards and can think of at least 10 Boards couples off the top of my head that I know. They all met through the site and appear to be pretty damn happy. Who cares how you meet? The only awkward part is explaining to people how you met but that can be easily fixed by saying through friends if needs be. If it makes you happy what is the problem?

irishpartyboy

I've met a few people in person after meeting online. Most experiences actually good, some indifferent. In my opinion, your more likely to meet someone of the same interests rather than meeting some randomer in a pub or club.

The bottom line is we all want to meet someone who we can connect with and enjoy each others company.. so the end justifies the means I reckon.

The dating sites are pretty rubbish, many profiles are old there's also lots of players working from site to site, that I know. So beware

Personally, I've found myspace to be most interesting community. Enjoy:D

pikachucheeks wrote:

ok,this isn't a particularly "personal" issue,I guess,since it's becoming more socially acceptable.
but with more and more people getting into it,I was just wondering what peoples' opinions were!

I got to know a guy from the internet before and met up with him after a year,we liked each other,but distance meant it didn't work and I admit I did feel a bit dorky because of the circumstances in which we met,but now it's happened with another guy... doh!

Rattlehead_ie

I cant see a problem with it and I don't think anyone should be embarrassed of it, its pretty normal, ok not as normal as picking someone up at a bar or maybe through friends, but I would have no problem with saying I found someone on a dating site.

LegacyUser

which is the better one in your opinion?

blondie999

I was at a wedding about 4 years ago of a couple who met on an on-line dating website. They're still married and very happy as far as I know..........:D

NZdubstar

I'd say it's good for women, because if you're half decent looking you can pick and choose from all the guys on the website and they'll want to meet you. However I have tried it recently, and any of the attractive girls who have responded responded with stuff like "omg i dont usually use these sites there are some real weirdos on it" etc. etc.
Then when you chat to them for a bit and maybe suggest meeting up? That's the end of it, no more replies. That's my experience with the good looking girls on the sites.
However, 2 girls did agree to meet, and guess what? Yes, at least 5 stone overweight each, really really fat, still i had an ok time with both of them, but god where they big.
I'd say I'm a decent looking fella, I just lack the ability to pick up girls in bars, happens once in a blue moon. I tend to just talk to women in bars as I would to anyone esle, whereas my friends who can pick up girls in bars, usually talk nonsense to them, slag them (which they love), and get them in the sack first night. It's a funny old game.

metaoblivia

I tried online dating. I went on three dates. The guys were nice, but it felt really weird to me. There was no second date with any of them. I also got a lot of mail from much older men who weren't quite what I was looking for. Some of them were kind of pushy, which I really didn't like. Overall it wasn't a good experience for me.
But my mother met her current partner online, and they've been together for about three years now. They're planning on moving in together in the next year.
I think it works for some people and not for others. I don't think there's anything wrong with it if you feel it works for you.

AngryBadger

I think most people's success with it will reflect their success in the real world.

If you're someone who has trouble talking to people when you're out or at a party or whatever, you're only going to meet similar people on dating sites.

certainly there is a slight tendency for communication that might not otherwise occur, but ultimately it's what you bring to the table with you that determines how good you'll find internet dating sites.

Obviously there are weirdos on them, but there are weirdos everywhere, there's a crazy urban myth that only weirdos meet people over the internet. it's simply not true. yes there are weirdos on the 'net, but shocking reports indicate that said weirdos can be found haning around in nightclubs, at bus stops, and yes, in the bushes behind your house

hussey

I think in ireland people are very reserved about this.
I live in Oz and it's VERY common for people to at least try it
people openly admit to using dating sites.

and I've been told by american friends, it's now turning into the 'norm' over there

NZdubstar

yeah Hussey I'm down under too and they openly say "I met him/her online". Americans have no hang ups about it at all. So as we're so open minded down here Hussey do you want to go on a date? woohoo

nervous_twitch

I met one of my best mates online about 4 years ago, on the forum of a band we both liked. We just got chattin, met up and have been tight ever since; we spent last Summer travellin thorugh Europe together.

Perhaps not romance, but maybe something even better

muppetkiller

I met my last girlfriend on myspace and cant enough good things about it.
My friends thought I was a muppet for doing so but when I started dating a few rather nice looking ladies they quickly signed up
Seriously it is so much better than meeting a person initially in a pub/club as now days women can be very rude when you approach them (not all, but it's becoming more common i think) You can see what their interests are and if they've traveled so it's very easy to strike up conversations.
Go for it...

AnonoBoy

Some people think it's a weirdo thing to try internet dating but for many people it can be handy - especially if you're busy at work and have less time to socialise than usual.

Like another poster I have tried it and found some of the girls are chatty but then stop responding if there is any mention of meeting for a coffee or that. It's as if you've offended them, wait - what's the point of being on a dating site if you don't want to date? Most adults can take a polite 'no thank you' - ignoring mails is a bit immature.

However, having said that I have also met up with some personable, pretty girls off a dating site. Hit it off with some, not others. Same as 'real life'. Haven't found Missus AnonoBoy on one yet but have had some good nights out too so I wouldn't knock it.

Cheese Princess

I would say why not go for it.....just be aware that people are not always what they seem online....

I once met a guy through a chat room and we started e-mailing for a while. He seemed really nice. Turned out he was from a village not too far away from my home town so I called up one of my friends who lived near there to see if she knew him. He had suggested meeting for drinks and I was hoping to find out more about him first.

Turned out he was a dwarf.

I felt really guilty and shallow but I just couldn't meet him....tried to phase out the e-mails after that and we eventually lost contact.

Fizman

Go for it, why not?

I log on to a site every now and then and at the very least its entertaining and you can have a bit of a laugh. When I first logged on it was more of a social experiment as i then had a GF, now i'm recently single so maybe sooner or later will meet up with someone.

Obvious tip: Post your most flattering pics. If you wanna chat to the better looking girls this is very NB.....at least have one pic.

I've been asked to meet up locally by one or two girls (easy on the eye too might I add), and the american girls can be crazy. This gorgeous girl only yesterday said she wanted to eat crushed M&M's out of my belly button, and then asked me to send on a topless pic and asked if i had ever cybersexed b4! :eek: Mite log on soon again

the-ging

Fizman wrote:

Go for it, why not?

I log on to a site every now and then and at the very least its entertaining and you can have a bit of a laugh. When I first logged on it was more of a social experiment as i then had a GF, now i'm recently single so maybe sooner or later will meet up with someone.

Obvious tip: Post your most flattering pics. If you wanna chat to the better looking girls this is very NB.....at least have one pic.

I've been asked to meet up locally by one or two girls (easy on the eye too might I add), and the american girls can be crazy. This gorgeous girl only yesterday said she wanted to eat crushed M&M's out of my belly button, and then asked me to send on a topless pic and asked if i had ever cybersexed b4! :eek: Mite log on soon again

Wow Fizman what site are you using??

Thats mad!

scoot on

I started talking to my boyfriend online about 8 years ago. I was very young though so was only thinking about it as a social outlet. Ended up talking to him online for a year. Met up, went to the cinema and that was it. Went back to chatting online, a few phone calls here and there, the odd meet up at the cinema over a few months. Basically just friends. About two years after we first started talking he ended up in hospital and rang me cuz he was bored one night. He was off work for a few weeks over it and so we decided to go for a drink in my local (i was still underage :-)). Best decision I have ever made. I was older and was ready for a relationship and he was always the one person I had completely clicked with. We had led completely seperate lives for two years, scoring with other people and just basically being really really good friends. But it just took off. It helped that we lived within twenty minutes of each other. But 6 years later i'm still smitten. We own a house together and have never really had a huge bust up. I can't imagine myself with anyone else. He makes me laugh like no-one else and that's what attracted me to him in the first place! I knew before I saw him that i'd like him, and i think that's the biggest benefit of meeting someone on the net. At least you know you'll click!

DublinWriter

Fizman wrote:

This gorgeous girl only yesterday said she wanted to eat crushed M&M's out of my belly button, and then asked me to send on a topless pic and asked if i had ever cybersexed b4! :eek: Mite log on soon again

dating.ie...now ye're stalkin'

dudara

Stay on topic people.

dudara

faceman

in many ways its probably a better way to meet people than in pubs clubs. most (genuine) people are out to meet someone so it kills some of the bull****

rannerap

I met my bf online and its been two and a half years now,im from Dublin and he lives in limerick but long distance can work,we spend four or five days a week with each other so distance isn't a problem