How much to give for my Nephew's Communion?

BaZmO*

Back in my day you were lucky to get an apple or an orange.......or was that Christmas?

Anyway what's the deal, how much do you give one of these money grabbing grown-up impersonators on their special day?

8k2q1gfcz9s5d4

give them an apple or an orange. id sat €20 would be fine

BaZmO*

Isabelle Plain Infantryman wrote:

give them an apple or an orange. id sat €20 would be fine

Ah that's taking the p1ss. I was thinking more in the range of €50-€100. Definitely not less than €50 anyway.

c - 13

Depends on how close you are to that part of the family i'd say BaZmO*

If they're not the kind of family that you talk to often i'd go with the €20
If you kind of close to then i'd say €50
If your very close to them, or if you the kids godparent i'd say €50 - 100

Its all a money game.

I'd give good money to see the look on his face if you gave him an orange !

Glowing

Don't get me started on this whole communion - money giving thing. I think its absolutely crazy. Correct me if i'm wrong, but even 20 euro for an 8 year old is not an insubstantial amount of money. The only reason you'd give 100 is so you don't look like a miser - and because everyone else gives that amount.

The whole practice should be banned. Whats wrong with a day out at the zoo like 8 year olds have for their birthdays etc?

Tusky

ahh. The old tradition of bribing impressionable children into signing up to a medieval twisted religion. Classic stuff.

connundrum

Take his birthday i.e. 26/12/98 - multiply those numbers, i.e. 26*12*98 = 30576. Divide that by the amount of days in the present year i.e. 30576/365 = €83.76. I'm sure you could round it up to the closest 5.

Scientific and proven to give joy to all those born toward the end of the year. Unlucky to those born in January.

BaZmO*

c - 13 wrote:

Depends on how close you are to that part of the family

Very close, it's my little sister's kid. I was gonna give him €100 but then started to think would that be too much, but then thought that €50 was too little.

c - 13 wrote:

I'd give good money to see the look on his face if you gave him an orange

Haha, good idea! Although he's such a nice kid that he'd just say thank you.

Actually, at Christmas I told him I'd get him a pair of Rollerblades and when I gave him his present and he opened it to see that there was just a set of safety pads and no Rollerblades he just said thanks very much and that he'd be able to use them when he bought his Rollerblades from money that he had saved. His face was a picture when I gave him the Rollerblades.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

well for me and most of my friends, the only good thing about the communion was talking soon after it, or the next day and discussing how much money we'd all gotten.

i mean, all they do is stand there (or sit, I forget) daydreaming until they hear their name spoken.. then I forget what happens, they are given money and get to go party.

as a young child, which would impress you more? some old fart in a dress talking ****e or fun money? If i hadn't got money for my communion, I prob wouldn't have stuck with catholacism for as long as I did.

Mossy Monk

i would give €50 at the absolute maximum.

Friend of mine who's god daughter got communion and she raked in over a grand. It is madness.

Corruptedmorals

I only made mine in 1997, and I made about £85. The most was something like £170. Now it's €600-800. Ridiculous! Suppose you can't look like the crap uncle. Compromise- €75.

BaZmO*

Glowing wrote:

Don't get me started on this whole communion - money giving thing.

But you could apply that to any religious occasion, Wedding, Christening, Communion, Confirmation, etc.

Glowing wrote:

Correct me if i'm wrong, but even 20 euro for an 8 year old is not an insubstantial amount of money.

Maybe it was when I made my Communion but not anymore.

Glowing wrote:

The only reason you'd give 100 is so you don't look like a miser - and because everyone else gives that amount.

Well I was more concerned about giving him too much rather than not enough tbh.

Glowing wrote:

Whats wrong with a day out at the zoo like 8 year olds have for their birthdays etc?

Nothing, and I do actually bring him to the pictures every now and then but it's not his birthday.

AlmightyCushion

It was my nephews communion last weekend and I only gave him €20. He was delighted with it. I am a student though so maybe I'm allowed to be cheap.

BaZmO*

AlmightyCushion wrote:

It was my nephews communion last weekend and I only gave him €20. He was delighted with it. I am a student though so maybe I'm allowed to be cheap.

It's been a very long time since I was a struggling student!!

Winters

Nothing.

Then again, I am an Atheist and think communion is a waste of time.

egan007

A helicopter ride around Dublin and SPA treatment in The Four Seasons.
You don't want him to feel left out ?

Dord

I wouldnt give him anything, f**ked if I'm bribing a child to stay in a ridiculious religion!

BaZmO*

joe robot wrote:

I wouldnt give him anything, f**ked if I'm bribing a child to stay in a ridiculious religion!

WHAT? I'm not bribing anybody!

Fajitas!

Slip 50 quid into an orange.

You get to see him feigning appreciation...and then finding 50 quid...

Slow Motion

My Goddaughters was last year I gave her €50, but only because she was my Goddaughter otherwise it would have been €20

Glowing

BaZmO*, I've nothing against doing something nice for your nephew, he seems like a lovely kid and will appreciate what he's given. I just have a problem with greedy little sh1ts who can't see further than lining their pockets and shake out their communion cards to get the money without so much as a thanks!

Why don't you give him the 50 quid and a voucher for you to take him to the cinema some other time? Rather than just cash .....

Mr Magnolia

c - 13 wrote:

Depends on how close you are to that part of the family i'd say BaZmO*

If they're not the kind of family that you talk to often i'd go with the €20
If you kind of close to then i'd say €50
If your very close to them, or if you the kids godparent i'd say €50 - 100

Its all a money game.

I'd give good money to see the look on his face if you gave him an orange !

^^Agree^^

Glowing wrote:

I just have a problem with greedy little sh1ts who can't see further than lining their pockets and shake out their communion cards to get the money without so much as a thanks!

That'd be all kids at that age so.

Frankieboy

I think it's a bad idea giving kids money like that. If you could buy him something that he REALLY likes or do something with him like bring him somewhere. But I suppose it'll come down to the rest of the kids comparing money, and him feeling a bit left out, and im sure you don't want to do that.

Thrill

I recently gave my nephew 30 euro for his communion. I used to give more but the average amount kept going up and up. So i decided to put a stop to it.

Does anybody know why the amount a child gets increases every year?


Are people afraid to be seen as a miser or do they want to be seen as the generous one who gives 50 or 100 euro?

I think 30 euros is plenty and from now on thats what all the others will get.

Mossy Monk

thrill wrote:

Does anybody know why the amount a child gets increases every year?

Inflation?

Binomate

Nothing. Why should you feel obliged pay your nephew to worship an imaginary friend?

BaZmO*

Binomate wrote:

Nothing. Why should you feel obliged pay your nephew to worship an imaginary friend?

I don't feel obliged at all, I actually want to give him something and was just wondering what other people give.
Fairplay to you if you want to take some type of anti-religious moral crusade with an 8 year old but that's certainly not my thing.

cson

Right, i'll just put on my suit of armour before I tell you my story...

Made my communion in 1997, we have a good few relations and the like. Now im not from a well of background or anything, I live in south east galway for feck sake, but I raked in £900 that day, a substantional sum today never mind 10 years ago. Thing is though, my parents gave me £100 and took the £800 left and put it in a deposit account. I dunno whats in it now but it seems a good idea.

skyhighflyer

Think you could give either Eur60 in 3 x 20 notes or do what was already suggested, 50 quid and a voucher to the cinema.

ferdi

give him nothing. save it for birthday or christmas. giving kids money for their communion is just plain tacky.

Binomate

BaZmO* wrote:

I don't feel obliged at all, I actually want to give him something and was just wondering what other people give.
Fairplay to you if you want to take some type of anti-religious moral crusade with an 8 year old but that's certainly not my thing.

I leave the crusades to the christians.

Call Me Jimmy

1 Million Dollars!!!

WindSock

wow, im a right tight arse. I'd have given 20 or something and have thought it too much to give to an eight year old. Luckily all my cousins are grown up. phew

Prenderb

I've just fallen over at the amounts of money you guys are talking about. 50s? 100s? Holy moly! I'd give a tenner, or 20 quid if you were especially close, or else buy a nice pressy for that kind of money. Does nobody buy gifts any more?

That kind of money is unreal, and explains the way I've seen some (some, mind) kids behaving. 50s and 100s indeed. Madness.

CathyMoran

Shane and I gave €70 to my cousin's child, but only because we are very close to them, as you are very close to them that amount seems reasonable.

dame

In our family and area it's E20 for Communions and E50 for Confirmations. Any more than that is just ridiculous. They're just little kids and E20 from a lot of people is way more money than they'll need to buy themselves their new bike or whatever it is they have their heart set on.

Sawa

When I made my communion, in 1996 I 'made' £100 and for my confirmation I 'made' £200, my family even had a party for me so there was a lot of people giving me envelopes, just shows the amount they each gave. My godmother gave me a necklace, which I think is a lot nicer than money which is spent in an instant and fogotten about. I bought myself a pair of rollerblades with my communion money

I think you should give your nephew maybe 20euro and buy him something which he will appreciate when he's older like a chain or something like that and then a cheap toy or game (like a computer game, or whatever he's into) or maybe pay for guitar lessons or karate classes or something or even a paintballing game with you? so that he'll remember it rather than 50 euro he'll just add to the rest of his money and buy something stupid with!

thelordofcheese

Just give him the orange, and flat out deny he's getting any more than that. Then at the end of the day, call him over and give him €20/€30.
he'll be happy with the leap from an orange to cash that he won't care that it's probably less than other people have given him.

Or whatever,i think i got £150-ish back in the day, and i know i got about a tenner of it, the rest was put into a savings A/C so i wouldn't waste it.
Good idea, really. Except when i got my hands on it, i spent it all in the pub.... ooops.

2 stroke

Don't give more than parents, godparents or grandparents might give.

Mr. Presentable

2% off the top.

Seriously, what sort of stupid question is this? Give him a medal and a prayer book. Remind him of the spiritual aspect of the affair.

Ruu_Old

Ah memories of the next few days in school comparing how much money you got (which was of course inflated by an extra few pounds than what you really got). I would agree with what most people have said, €20 is plenty.

ballroom blitz

Don't get me started on the stupid communion=money issue. Three kids I know each made €600+ for theirs and at 8 years of age this is a ridiculous amount of money what are they actually going to spend it on, seriously?? Don't give him money get him something he will enjoy whie he's a kid like a decent toy of sorts.

Thrill

ballroom blitz wrote:

Don't get me started on the stupid communion=money issue. Three kids I know each made €600+ for theirs .

Thats pittance. When my nephew left my house i found out he already had over 1600 euro.

Now thats insane money to be getting. I want my 30 euro back.

ballroom blitz

thats sooooo much money for a kid its disgraceful-when did the day become all about the money? I know when I made mine we all wanted lots of money but nothing like this craziness. Its supposed to be about god right? (i'm not hugely religious)

Takeshi_Kovacs

Yeah its pretty damn pathetic how people are trying to outdo each other and see who has the most expensive communion dress, who gave Johnny the most money etc. Why not donate some of the money to the poor box eh?, surely some poor child in the third world could make a fiver go farther than lil Johnny back home.
Only last weekend i heard of family that spent a couple of hundred euro alone on the dress, then took the daughter to be manicured and dolled up which cost another few euro, and to cap it all off, they booked a hotel for eighty people to celebrate the big day.... Madness... and what else is annoying is the fact that the children expect to be given money!!
O' the vanity and mindless excess of these events these days is so repulsive.

I remember on my communion day, i scraped together the bones of 43 pound, and i couldn't believe how rich i was..

Femelade

My daughters friends got their communion yesterday. they are twins i gave them €20 each.
I got £171 for my communion. back then it was a few pounds in the card..maybe the odd £20 from a rich uncle/aunt

WindSock

#Elites wrote:

900£?!?!?!

why the **** didnt i do my Communion!?!

You still can, can't you? I may renew my vows...

Crucifix

Give him a copy of "The God Delusion"...just for the look on people's faces.

Seriously, €20-€50 sounds right to me.
Or buy him something. I don't remember how much money I got for my communion, but I still rememeber my godmother bought me a casio digital watch which I was over the moon with.

AlmightyCushion

BaZmO* wrote:

It's been a very long time since I was a struggling student!!

Yeah I fear the day I have to leave college and join the real world

Burning Eclipse

Slow Motion wrote:

My Goddaughters was last year I gave her €50, but only because she was my Goddaughter otherwise it would have been €20

QFT,

My Goddaughter made her communion at the weekend. €50 in the card, did the job. My sister gave her €20.