Embarrasing Problem!

LegacyUser

This is a problem thats very embarrassing for me and i don't know how to fix it!!! Basically, when i'm with my bf, if we do anything sexual i orgasm very quickly...i'm 19 yrs old....when i masturbate it takes "normal" time to reach orgasm, but if he gives me oral or we have sex, i cum within a minute or 2..... Its so embarrasing, because he's only getting started and i'm already cumming...

any advice???

BoozyBabe

Erm, count yourself lucky!!!!!!

Why's it embarrassing? It's showing you're really turned on & really enjoying yourself, which will boost your bf's ego no end!!!!

Plus, women don't have to stop when they cum, so just keep rocking away & wait for no 2.
Hopefully it'll be a bit closer to your bf's timing!!

Enjoy it, you're very very lucky!!!

hullaballoo

Believe me, it's not a 'problem'. It's a gift.

My ex had/has a similar gift. We got to 27 times in one...erm...sitting at one stage. I think it was one of the best hours of my life.

AnonoBoy

Count yourself lucky. Many girls find it so hard to achieve orgasm during intercourse.

Trust me, NO man is going to be annoyed that you cum quickly. It'll make them feel like they're a total stud.

I had a girlfriend once who used to have the same 'problem' as you. I never felt like such a sex god as when I'd give her a few screaming orgasms during the night without even breaking a sweat!

Kurumba

So, so, so, SO, jealous.....

John Mason

embarrassedgirl wrote:

This is a problem thats very embarrassing for me and i don't know how to fix it!!! Basically, when i'm with my bf, if we do anything sexual i orgasm very quickly...i'm 19 yrs old....when i masturbate it takes "normal" time to reach orgasm, but if he gives me oral or we have sex, i cum within a minute or 2..... Its so embarrasing, because he's only getting started and i'm already cumming...

any advice???

jaysis, that great enjoy it, your bf must be delighted, that he gets you that turned on if he isnt, can you pm me his phone number please?? and just out of interest when you masturbate it take the normal time - what is the normal time?

muppetkiller

Your a mans Dream woman !!!! In fact I think you should break up with him and meet up with me lol
Seriously your one very lucky woman.

Marksie

If you feel its a problem then learn to focus the energy.

There is no indication of what they are like, but if you learn to focus you can deepen intensity and individual duration for starters.

You may then be able to move them away from the genitals and through the whole body.

Alternatively of course you could work on exercises for your b/friend so that he can orgasm without ejaculation, in that way you can both be multi orgasmic.
To be honest, nothing stopping you doing both

Edit: nothing stopoping you going for the third type of orgasm, the soul orgasm

BaZmO*

embarrassedgirl wrote:

This is a problem thats very embarrassing for me and i don't know how to fix it!!! Basically, when i'm with my bf, if we do anything sexual i orgasm very quickly...i'm 19 yrs old....when i masturbate it takes "normal" time to reach orgasm, but if he gives me oral or we have sex, i cum within a minute or 2..... Its so embarrasing, because he's only getting started and i'm already cumming...

any advice???

LOL. That is not a problem!

LegacyUser

irishbird wrote:

jaysis, that great enjoy it, your bf must be delighted, that he gets you that turned on if he isnt, can you pm me his phone number please?? and just out of interest when you masturbate it take the normal time - what is the normal time?

I suppose in around 10 - 15mins or so...I suppose it is lucky i guess in so far as i always cum....i'd just to be able to go a bit longer before i orgasm!

Miss Fluff

embarrassedgirl wrote:

but if he gives me oral or we have sex, i cum within a minute or 2.....

How long do you normally spent on foreplay?

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote:

How long do you normally spent on foreplay?

A few mins, but we just kinda cuddle and stuff....nothing that would cause me to orgasm any quicker.....like he wouldn't really be masturbating me or anything, its just kind of harmless stroking and stuff!!!!

frizzefreckles

I have to say the same as the other posters. You lucky thing you get to have multiple orgasms! Unless you are finding the orgasm uncomfortable or overpowering enjoy.

Miss Fluff

embarrassedgirl wrote:

A few mins, but we just kinda cuddle and stuff....nothing that would cause me to orgasm any quicker.....like he wouldn't really be masturbating me or anything, its just kind of harmless stroking and stuff!!!!

So you can orgasm without any clitoral stimulation from vaginal penetration
"within a minute or two"? Wow, lucky you....

Kell

frizzefreckles wrote:

You lucky thing you get to have multiple orgasms!

I dont know how you manage to get out of bed. If I were a woman *I would spend all day masturbating.

K-

*So long as I was programmed with my male brain

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote:

So you can orgasm without any clitoral stimulation from vaginal penetration
"within a minute or two"? Wow, lucky you....

Well i get clitoral stimulation when he gives me oral obviously, but it happens with vaginal stimulation aswell....I suppose it is lucky but our sex only lasts a few minutes at most, its annoying after a while!!!

PS. Just on the last post by Kell.....i never said i get multiple orgasms....BoozyBabe said that its possible for women in general to get them!!!

angelbaby

my god that is definately not a problem!!!im the same way and my boyfriend loves it!!!!:D

BoozyBabe

embarrassedgirl wrote:

.....i never said i get multiple orgasms....BoozyBabe said that its possible for women in general to get them!!!

Unfortunately I never said I did either!!! :mad:

But, what I sort of meant that when most men orgasm, it's game over for a while due to physical reasons.
& I meant that this isn't the case for women.
Like, after you cum, is it uncomfortable for you to keep going until he cums?

If not, what's to stop you continuing with sex until your bf cums, & perhaps you've worked your way up to a second. That's all I meant.

Are you saying at the minute that as soon as you cum you stop, & that's why sex is so short in duration?

LegacyUser

Well once i cum, my genitals are very sensitive and its a bit uncomfortable to keep goin, the odd time i can but generally, once i cum, thats it for about 20mins or so!

PS, sorry Boozybabe i misunderstood what you said!

BaZmO*

embarrassedgirl wrote:

Well once i cum, my genitals are very sensitive and its a bit uncomfortable to keep goin, the odd time i can but generally, once i cum, thats it for about 20mins or so!

PS, sorry Boozybabe i misunderstood what you said!

LUBE!

Marksie

BaZmO* wrote:

LUBE!

natural lube!... and a feather or hummingbird stroke, very light and quick with the tip of teh finger, you dont get sensitive then so it can go on for a long time.

Or move away from the clitoris altogether but dont stop, u spot, labia or g-spot. Then back

Oryx

embarrassedgirl wrote:

Well once i cum, my genitals are very sensitive and its a bit uncomfortable to keep goin, the odd time i can but generally, once i cum, thats it for about 20mins or so!

I used to get like that sensitivity, it was like.. whoa! dont touch there! As Mark said move the focus away from the sensitive areas. Slow down the sex to the point at which you are comfortable. Change postion or do something different. Relax, and allow your body to recover and begin to build up again. Im sure youll become multiorgasmic, by the sounds of it without too much bother. (and yeah im jealous too.:) )

Wibbs

Marksie wrote:

natural lube!... and a feather or hummingbird stroke, very light and quick with the tip of teh finger, you dont get sensitive then so it can go on for a long time.

It really does depend on the woman. I've found highly orgasmic women like the OP tend to be very sensitive afterwards. Any touching in that area light or not can be too intense for ten minutes or more. Indeed some "less" orgasmic women are far easier to bring to multiples for just that reason. Naturally this differs between women and differs with the same woman depending on level of relaxation, time of month, "type" of orgasm, etc.

Or move away from the clitoris altogether but dont stop, u spot, labia or g-spot. Then back

I would agree partially. I would move away alright, but away entirely from the genital area until the intensity drops off. The u spot in particular would generally be a little intense if continuing.

To the OP, I would say you are in a lucky position. Many women find orgasms difficult, especially through penetration. With more experience and sensitive knowledgeable partners that can often improve with time.

You can also experiment with getting him close so that you achieve orgasm together.

I also suspect the more you do it, the better you will get at delaying your own orgasms. Many men have to do it so... Maybe it stems from a similar background. Men who are too quick are too often aiming and concentrating on the orgasm, hence they go off way too early. This is usually solved by practice and not concentrating on the end, but the journey itself. Next time try not to have one and see where that gets you. Also with penetrative sex, try different positions where you control the depth and pace. try more shallow positions too. This may help.

Marksie

Wibbs wrote:

It really does depend on the woman. I've found highly orgasmic women like the OP tend to be very sensitive afterwards. Any touching in that area light or not can be too intense for ten minutes or more. Indeed some "less" orgasmic women are far easier to bring to multiples for just that reason. Naturally this differs between women and differs with the same woman depending on level of relaxation, time of month, "type" of orgasm, etc.
I would agree partially. I would move away alright, but away entirely from the genital area until the intensity drops off. The u spot in particular would generally be a little intense if continuing.

To the OP, I would say you are in a lucky position. Many women find orgasms difficult, especially through penetration. With more experience and sensitive knowledgeable partners that can often improve with time.

You can also experiment with getting him close so that you achieve orgasm together.

I also suspect the more you do it, the better you will get at delaying your own orgasms. Many men have to do it so... Maybe it stems from a similar background. Men who are too quick are too often aiming and concentrating on the orgasm, hence they go off way too early. This is usually solved by practice and not concentrating on the end, but the journey itself. Next time try not to have one and see where that gets you. Also with penetrative sex, try different positions where you control the depth and pace. try more shallow positions too. This may help.

Absolutely! Moving away from the sex centres is an excellent way of both exploring and to coin a phrase. Keeping the pot simmering til juts before the boil.

So, if i read aright whet you are saying OP, you orgasm once very quickly and do not have multpiles, you therefore feel that that is an issue with your b.friend who of course takes longer?

OK on that basisthere have been some excellent advice for you to begin to explore different things, whihc is fun and bonding in and of itself.

Point: You KNOW you have no difficulty in reaching orgasm, you are both connected and aware enough for that. Which in itself is 9/10ths of the battle.

Lets think of a potential different approach. In teh case of a guy who comes too quickly i always give advice thaht you move away from orgasm as a goal. Quite frankly the same advice applies here.
Move away from your orgasm as a point and move towards each others at some point, change the focus 180 degrees.
Dont let it be something to aim for, but something that will happen eventually... if you want it to. Play, enjoy trying out what has been suggested here. buit reverse it, you take the control to an extent, i dont think there will be a worry about you doing that either.

By all means work on different zones, and multiples, but do not let yourself be brought tom orgasm. Use the "foreplay" to arouse your partner to the state you reach very quickly.

Must of all, both enjoy doing it

Edit: didnt read your full post wibbs... but the end has the same focus :-)

Wibbs

Marksie wrote:

Edit: didnt read your full post wibbs... but the end has the same focus :-)

I dunno. People these days. Sooo impatient. You missed some good stuff in there.:)

Seriously though OP Marksie's advice(and mine, *ahem* if you read it ) is good advice and well worth working on. You have great fun and intimate moments at the moment and ahead of you. As Marksie wrote "Most of all, both enjoy doing it" and both enjoy each other and yourselves.

Dave!

Tell your fella, I'd say it'll boost his ego like mad!

imeatingchips

embarrassedgirl wrote:

This is a problem thats very embarrassing for me and i don't know how to fix it!!! Basically, when i'm with my bf, if we do anything sexual i orgasm very quickly...i'm 19 yrs old....when i masturbate it takes "normal" time to reach orgasm, but if he gives me oral or we have sex, i cum within a minute or 2..... Its so embarrasing, because he's only getting started and i'm already cumming...

any advice???

Martha, is that you??

Marksie

imeating chips: offtopic posting will get you banned.

Please take time to read the charter

m83

My gf is the same way. Awww bliss....

arybvtcw0eolkf

embarrassedgirl wrote:

This is a problem thats very embarrassing for me and i don't know how to fix it!!! Basically, when i'm with my bf, if we do anything sexual i orgasm very quickly...i'm 19 yrs old....when i masturbate it takes "normal" time to reach orgasm, but if he gives me oral or we have sex, i cum within a minute or 2..... Its so embarrasing, because he's only getting started and i'm already cumming...

any advice???

Sex is like a race....... Whoever cum's first, WINS!.

Seriously like the other's said, your luck.

Only problem I could see is if you dry up very soon afterwards and can not continue, otherwise all is well.

Oryx

Mairt wrote:

Only problem I could see is if you dry up very soon afterwards and can not continue, otherwise all is well.

Durex Play. Wonderful stuff.:)

Marksie

KtK wrote:

Durex Play. Wonderful stuff.:)

Be careful to get the plain stuff though. The tingle and warming, whilc nice may exacerbate the sensitivity problem

Oryx

Marksie wrote:

Be careful to get the plain stuff though. The tingle and warming, whilc nice may exacerbate the sensitivity problem

True. I stick with the 'Feel' version, it has no ill effects. Any with a warming sensation bring to mind Deep Heat and bad memories. :eek:
(sorry for going off topic here)

embarrassedgirl

embarrassedgirl wrote:

Well once i cum, my genitals are very sensitive and its a bit uncomfortable to keep goin, the odd time i can but generally, once i cum, thats it for about 20mins or so!

PS, sorry Boozybabe i misunderstood what you said!

Yes this can be a huge pain but usually this a great time to soley give him pleasure and once you get him worked up

work on orgasm no 2,3,4,5 and so on

Cateym

embarrassedgirl wrote:

This is a problem thats very embarrassing for me and i don't know how to fix it!!! Basically, when i'm with my bf, if we do anything sexual i orgasm very quickly...i'm 19 yrs old....when i masturbate it takes "normal" time to reach orgasm, but if he gives me oral or we have sex, i cum within a minute or 2..... Its so embarrasing, because he's only getting started and i'm already cumming...

any advice???

Lucky you thats not really a prob!!! I rarely come through sex alone. Oral no prob! Just lay off the sensitive bits as long as possible to lenghten the experience.