does it hurt?

LegacyUser

hey, just a quick question (i dont mean quick as in not important), does it really hurt when a woman loses her virginity, or is it urban myth...do you feel the 'skin' tear, i just want to know, its been on my ming the last few days

thanks a mill

Wibbs

Now I'm not a woman so this is just from what I've been told.... It depends. It can go all the way from a little uncomfortable to painful. It depends on so many factors. I would advise that the woman is well turned on by foreplay, though the anxiety of the looming deed may ruin that. A bit of lube is a very good plan, especially with a condom(which you should be using BTW). KY jelly kind of thing. The man must take it slow and respect the woman and her needs. Even if it is uncomfortable the first time it doesn't tend to matter longterm.

Don't worry, wait until you're ready and enjoy it. It can only get better. Every woman out there enjoying sex was once a virgin so....

seahorse

omgunreg wrote:

hey, just a quick question (i dont mean quick as in not important), does it really hurt when a woman loses her virginity, or is it urban myth...do you feel the 'skin' tear, i just want to know, its been on my ming the last few days

thanks a mill

That depends on three important things; how wet you are/how big he is/and how gentle he is.

If he's a decent bloke and knows you're a virgin he's going to be deliberatly gentle. You should use a lube, as advised by the pp. And if he's hung like a donkey, well there's not much you can do about that, lol!

LegacyUser

It depends entirely on the person, we're all different after all.

I didn't hurt in the slightest little bit my first time, nor did I bleed, but the exact opposite of that also applies to some.

you won't know which you are until you're in the situation.
No one can tell you the answer to your question.

Jotter

there was a prog on last nite about virgins, this woman was 43 and having sex for the first time, she was really nervous in case it would hurt so her sister suggested she use a vibrator with lots of lube to get used to the sensation of something being inside her. Its prob the best way to prepare yourself for sex and to help you relax a bit.

spurious

Didn't hurt me, but then my first was not with a guy.
The first with a guy didn't hurt either.

A woman's own lubrication through excitement is much better than artificial lube. Time needs to be taken.

Dudess

I didn't find it painful at all, but it did feel a little bit "alien" and there was very slight discomfort. The key is to relax though and just keep telling yourself that a baby can come out of there, so what's a penis?!
Also, even something like using tampons can make a difference. That breaks the hymen, which is the very thin layer of skin that, when broken, can lead to the little bit of bleeding. But a lot of girls' hymens are broken before they have sex anyway - even if they don't use tampons. Don't worry at all. We tend to forget how natural an activity it is.

seahorse

Dudess wrote:

The key is to relax though and just keep telling yourself that a baby can come out of there, so what's a penis?!

Lol, that is something to keep in mind I suppose!

Yes, everyone is different. Using tampons dosent always guarantee the hymen is properly broken either, it didnt in me anyway. I used tampons before my first time and I still bled, quite noticably actually. But there is no dreadful amount of pain involved OP, so dont worry.

rachums

everyone is different!! there is no way to tell. hurt me the first few times!! Just relax!!

Susannahmia

Didnt hurt me anyway.....;)

G&T

Had no bleeding or pain my first time,
Think if you orgasm just before penatration the first few times you will find it easier.

Marksie

The key is feeling comfortable and relaxed. Not just you but your partner as well. He has take his time and not rush it, and be prepared to stop if you are not ready rather than rush ahead.