What the hell?

wellyshoeswoes

This is not that big a deal just curious to see what outside opinions are...

met this lovely bloke on a night out, had a chat an a bit of a kiss at the end of the night, he walked me to a taxi n took my number. All was grand then he text the next day, I replied, he text back again so I replied again. Then I got a text from operator saying the message failed, so I resent it, a few hrs later got another reply sayin it failed again. So I changed my message settings to allow messages be valid for longer then resent it and it delivered about 4 days later. He then replied and the same thing happened, so I figured hes been turning his phone off... why would you text someone and then knock your phone off for days on end??? Its so confusing..

jon1981

maybe hes hiding something or someone.... read between the lines :rolleyes:

GBX

or working with mobile restrictions

karen3212

maybe he is in a country where his phone doesn't work.

or maybe like me he forgets it and the battery runs down and it goes off.

brianthebard

Or maybe you should have called him instead of texting.

jhegarty

Could be living somewhere without coverage , and only gets the message when he "goes to town"...


Or maybe he only turns on his "girls i met on a night out" phone a few times a week when his wife isn't around....

wellyshoeswoes

jon1981 wrote:

maybe hes hiding something or someone.... read between the lines :rolleyes:

thats what I thought lol, betcha hes married... all the good ones are taken lol

jon1981

wellyshoeswoes wrote:

thats what I thought lol, betcha hes married... all the good ones are taken lol

is he a good one if he is married?!

wellyshoeswoes

jon1981 wrote:

is he a good one if he is married?!

good point... no, I suppose hes not

metrovelvet

Youve lost your charger.

You can't find your phone to turn it on.

Youve locked yourself out of your phone from pressing the wrong pin.

Someone doesnt answer their phone for four days = married? What is wrong with you people?

seahorse

metrovelvet wrote:

Someone doesnt answer their phone for four days = married? What is wrong with you people?

Of course there could be other possibilities, but for the same thing to happen over and over? How likely is that? This'd get my BS antenna movin - that's for sure!

If he lived in an area with poor phone signal coverage surely he'd have told her that in a text precisely so that she wouldnt go jumping to any suspicous conclusions. And if he had any other genuine reason I'm sure he'd have told her what it was, for exactly the same reason.

Smells very dubious to me...

Carrigart Exile

seahorse wrote:

Of course there could be other possibilities, but for the same thing to happen over and over? How likely is that? This'd get my BS antenna movin - that's for sure!

If he lived in an area with poor phone signal coverage surely he'd have told her that in a text precisely so that she wouldnt go jumping to any suspicous conclusions. And if he had any other genuine reason I'm sure he'd have told her what it was, for exactly the same reason.

Smells very dubious to me...

He has only met her why would he think about discussing mobile phone coverage in his area

Spitfire666

Carrigart Exile wrote:

He has only met her why would he think about discussing mobile phone coverage in his area

thats what i was going to say. but as you said it i'll sujest this :
Maybe he's a spy and is out of the country alot?

metrovelvet

seahorse wrote:

Of course there could be other possibilities, but for the same thing to happen over and over? How likely is that? This'd get my BS antenna movin - that's for sure!

If he lived in an area with poor phone signal coverage surely he'd have told her that in a text precisely so that she wouldnt go jumping to any suspicous conclusions. And if he had any other genuine reason I'm sure he'd have told her what it was, for exactly the same reason.

Smells very dubious to me...

I have done all of the above! I wouldnt think Id owe anyone an explanation. If they are suspicious then let them believe what they want, says more about how they think and are than innocently screwing up your phone.

The Hill Billy

None of the above.

One of 2 things is happening here & neither of them relate to you being messed about...

When you send an SMS, the message leaves your handset & gets queued on your network. It then gets transferred to the receiver's network & delivered to the receiver's handset. (This is usually happens more or less instantaneously.)

Scenario 1
Occasionally there may be difficulties in your network communicating with the receiver's network. This may result in a delay such as the one you have experienced. Not a lot you can do about this apart from complain to your operator.

Scenario 2
If the receiver's handset memory is near or at capacity (i.e. they have 2000 messages saved and 10 gigs of music & pics) the phone does not have sufficient space to receive any further SMS's. Suggest that he clears out his phone.

Floppybits

Turning a mobile phone off wont stop text messages from being sent. If the mobile is turned off when you send a message the message will still send. I think there is either a problem with the network or as another poster has said that the memory is full on the phone.

kizzyr

A few times I've had similar problems sending and receiving texts, particularly to my sister in England so I wouldn't automatically assume that you are texting his "girls I met while not out with the wife" phone. However, what on earth is wrong with a simple phone call, the texting is proving awkward and messy so just call him say hi and see if he wants to meet up and you could go to the cinema and out for a drink afterward.

Kell

wellyshoeswoes wrote:

why would you text someone and then knock your phone off for days on end??? Its so confusing..

What the hell are you getting your knickers in a twist for over some randomer that you know for all of five minutes. In fact, scratch that, you dont know him at all.

You have two choices-

A) Decide you dont like the on/off text delivery whatever and apparant hot/cold response from blokey or

Decide you will persist to try and get into his knickers and forget the fact that the phone thing is annoying you.

Advice- if you text once and dont get a reply, leave it for two days and try again. You dont get a response, give another two days and try again. No response to the third, you forget them because no response to three texts is just fúcking rude and you dont need rude people in your life.

It really is THAT simple.

K-

seamus

Floppybits wrote:

Turning a mobile phone off wont stop text messages from being sent. If the mobile is turned off when you send a message the message will still send. I think there is either a problem with the network or as another poster has said that the memory is full on the phone.

Most handsets allow you to specify a message validity. It probably seemed like a good idea at the time.
Basically the validity tells the network "If it hasn't been delivered within X hours, delete it". You get a message telling you that the sending failed, and you don't get charged.
If you've set this period to something stupidly low, like an hour, then every message you send will expire and fail if it hasn't been delivered within that hour.

As someone else said, he's probably not in coverage, or otherwise doesn't have his phone. Perhaps he has a work mobile and a personal mobile, and he only turns on the personal one every so often (or works in a different county and leaves the personal one at home) - everyone knows to contact him on the work mobile during the week.

Bottom line is, ring him.

abi2007

I agree think the best thing to do is ring him. Least that way you'll know.

Goodluck2me

hes proablyt meteor this happens all the time when i text them

Rb

He could have been murdered and when you finally got talking to him again, it was not him after all, it was his murderer.

Spook_ie

wellyshoeswoes wrote:

thats what I thought lol, betcha hes married... all the good ones are taken lol

Or maybe he dropped it in the bath like me last week and its screwed up messaging all week so far!!

biko

Or you could just ask him instead?

Oh, I see now this is over a week old. So what's the story OP?

faceman

maybe hes not the issue OP. Are you afraid to speak with him directly? Does he matter to you that much after such a short space of time?

Wibbs

faceman wrote:

maybe hes not the issue OP. Are you afraid to speak with him directly? Does he matter to you that much after such a short space of time?

Yes, but in fairness good manners would have him call or contact her in some way. I could never understand that kind of thing. I've seen mates of mine do it. Makes no sense. I will say that generally even those same mates, if they like the woman are pretty speedy in contacting them again. My take on it? If he wanted to contact you he would have. If he still hasn't over a week later? Chalk it up to experience.

wellyshoeswoes

he text again bout a week later sayin some lame excuse about work, I decided not to wb. Water under the bridge at this stage, plenty more fish in the sea etc, etc

monosharp

wellyshoeswoes wrote:

This is not that big a deal just curious to see what outside opinions are...

met this lovely bloke on a night out, had a chat an a bit of a kiss at the end of the night, he walked me to a taxi n took my number. All was grand then he text the next day, I replied, he text back again so I replied again. Then I got a text from operator saying the message failed, so I resent it, a few hrs later got another reply sayin it failed again. So I changed my message settings to allow messages be valid for longer then resent it and it delivered about 4 days later. He then replied and the same thing happened, so I figured hes been turning his phone off... why would you text someone and then knock your phone off for days on end??? Its so confusing..

I'd say i'm 99% probably right in saying this cause i used to do it. I know, for shame etc.

He has two sim cards, one for the girlfriend/wife and the other for ... well "others". He only puts in the sim (number) you know when the girlfriend/wife isn't around to catch him or hear the phone beeping etc. It also gets rid of any chance of the girlfriend/wife accidently reading naughty texts.

sweet-rasmus

awwwwww i'd blame him and and mobile services. i hope your next 'fish' has more luck with mobiles!

SarahSassy

wellyshoeswoes wrote:

all the good ones are taken lol

Used to think so and now when I see so many people having affairs and being thoroughly miserable I no longer agree

I guess he has a partner and keeps his phone off....