Forgetting the ex

Esse85

Hi, im 19 and id been seeing my gf for a year, we broke up over a month ago, we both decided things were'nt working out and a parting of ways would be the best, things were great first 6 months, then the spark just faded.

I texted her a few weeks ago just to ask if she'd any news, she text back "who's this?" she obviously deleted my number.

During the week we walked past each other in the street and she just put her head down and pretented to be using her fone.

A friend then told me she' s now got a new bf, and hearing it was like a kick in the teeth. I know we're not ment for each other, and i never wanted to get back with her, but the news has just really got to me, not sure why.

When i got home i deleted her number/email, got rid of every photo i had of us, dumped x mas and birthday cards.

Has anyone felt like this before? Did i do the right thing in wiping out all memories?

biko

Hmm, it seems you still have feelings for her after the breakup.
Why did you text her in the first place? Do you want to be friends?

I agree with wiping her memory since you clearly still have something for her.
Out of sight, out of mind.

Esse85

biko wrote:

Hmm, it seems you still have feelings for her after the breakup.
Why did you text her in the first place? Do you want to be friends?

I agree with wiping her memory since you clearly still have something for her.
Out of sight, out of mind.

I hoped we could be civil at least, and i just text to ask how she was, like id do to any of my close mates, male or female.

liamdubh

facup07 wrote:

I hoped we could be civil at least, and i just text to ask how she was, like id do to any of my close mates, male or female.

I doubt if she forgot your number, for a start, she sounds like a very immature girl (I'd use another term here if I wasn't being nice, 2 words, beginning with s and c respectively). I wouldn't read anything more into it than that. The best thing you can do, whether you feel that way or not, is pretend you don't care and ignore her. If she's as immature as she sounds she'll get back to you. A month is only a few weeks so give it a bit of time too.

Wibbs

facup07 wrote:

Hi, im 19 and id been seeing my gf for a year, we broke up over a month ago, we both decided things were'nt working out and a parting of ways would be the best, things were great first 6 months, then the spark just faded.

That can happen. Nothing for either of you to beat yourselves up about.

I texted her a few weeks ago just to ask if she'd any news, she text back "who's this?" she obviously deleted my number.

Maybe it's me but I remember my last 3 girlfriends numbers off the top of my head and I've depleted my braincell count through endless nights of debauchery. That bit doesn't ring true.

During the week we walked past each other in the street and she just put her head down and pretented to be using her fone.

Very mature I must say. Whatever you do, don't copy that behaviour. Be the bigger man. If you do have to talk to her be pleasant and don't bring up the relationship.

A friend then told me she' s now got a new bf, and hearing it was like a kick in the teeth. I know we're not ment for each other, and i never wanted to get back with her, but the news has just really got to me, not sure why.

Probably just means you haven't hooked up yet. You may feel she's moved on quicker than you. That'll pass. In any case moving on doesn't just mean meeting someone else, it means moving on in yourself. In fact meeting someone else too soon brings it's own issues.

When i got home i deleted her number/email, got rid of every photo i had of us, dumped x mas and birthday cards.

You may have done that in the spur of the moment, but it can be a good thing. Try to let the bad feelings about her go with her stuff.

Has anyone felt like this before?

A couple of squillion before you and there'll be another squillion following you in the future.

Did i do the right thing in wiping out all memories?

For the moment yes. In time when you've fully moved on you'll look back and remember the good bits and be grateful for them. It's doesn't mean you'll want her back, but you'll realise it was a good lesson to learn.