Did she send it?

LegacyUser

Ok I am extremly confused at this moment in time so bear with me.

My ex and I broke up months ago but stayed friends, about 2 weeks ago she called me and said she didnt wanna be friends anymore that she couldnt move on if i was still in her life etc.I accepted that and got on with things.

Was in bed about 11 o clock last night when i got a text on my phone from her number. This was the message...

"Hi this is Janets brother. We are just informing people Janet was taken very ill in hospital this morning and died this evening"

I sat there with my mouth hanging open going "what the ****". Got no sleep at all last night just cried and cried.

About 40 minutes ago i got a call from a private number- It was Janet
(i nearly fell off my bed in shock) She said she was out the weekend and her phone was stolen(she thinks by someone who knew her) and that everyone in her phonebook had gotten the same message as me. She was calling everyone telling them the situation.

I had to say i was very relieved. However I regret to say i have a few niggling doubts. She didnt seem too upset on the phone she kind of laughed it off saying that whoever done it was an eegit and needs a life etc.She was almost giggling on the phone.

Ive a mate who has her old number and he arrived a minute ago to pick me up for work(Im not going in as ive had no sleep all night). I informed him of the situation and he mentioned he had gotten the message too- but he thought it was Janet kidding around so he didnt pay any heed to it. He called her up about an hour later and apparantly when the phone was answered all he heard was giggling and the he heard a girl say "Jesus hang up its one of her friends" and the line went dead

Now i may be a bit paranoid but I have a funny feeling her phone was not stolen and that she sent the message. I dont know why but I just have this niggling doubt in the back of my mind.It all seems a bit too far fetched to me.Why would someone steal your phone- go to the bother of topping it up and text all your family members that you had died!

Am i being paranoid?

silvine

gfdrdtyuytujg wrote:

Ive a mate who has her old number and he arrived a minute ago to pick me up for work(Im not going in as ive had no sleep all night). I informed him of the situation and he mentioned he had gotten the message too- but he thought it was Janet kidding around so he didnt pay any heed to it. He called her up about an hour later and apparantly when the phone was answered all he heard was giggling and the he heard a girl say "Jesus hang up its one of her friends" and the line went dead


Am i being paranoid?

From reading the above paragraph it sounds to me like some tasteless prankster actually did send the text.

From her point of view, it would be pretty embarrassing -or awkward- to have to ring around everyone in your phone book, including your ex, and explain that you were still alive and what exactly happened.

Maybe she was nervous about ringing you, hence the 'laughing it off' approach?

LegacyUser

Dont think your paranoid mate. Just sussing out all the angles. Very odd though. What age is your girlfriend as if she did do it she is obviously very childish or has problems in her head.

tbh

a mate of mine lost his phone on the train before, and someone texted all the contacts in his phone saying "I've just found the owner of this phone hanging from a tree - please call back".

So, it happens.

Jesus Wept

sadly some people would do this, cause some people are just complete arseholes.

It's also possible that she sent it when drunk with some friends/let her friends send it when she was drunk and as it seemed 'hilarious' at the time

Who knows.
You probably should know if she is capable, seeing as you went out with her.

Tar.Aldarion

It sounds like somebody she knows, or else the truth.

biko

gfdrdtyuytujg wrote:

He called her up about an hour later and apparantly when the phone was answered all he heard was giggling and the he heard a girl say "Jesus hang up its one of her friends" and the line went dead

It seems someone else had the phone and that she was not in the room. Otherwise wouldn't it have been "Jesus hang up its one of YOUR friends"?

Nevyn

IF she is your ex then delete her number from your phone and don't waste any more time or engery on the matter or her.

whiskeyman

gfdrdtyuytujg wrote:

My ex and I broke up months ago but stayed friends, about 2 weeks ago she called me and said she didnt wanna be friends anymore that she couldnt move on if i was still in her life etc.I accepted that and got on with things.

What does it matter if she sent it or not.
From the above, you're supposed to be moving on and she doesn't want you as friends. Remember?
It was a prank. If she sent it or not, it doesn't matter. Delete her number.

Beetlebum

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

It sounds like somebody she knows, or else the truth.

HOw could it be the truth if he was talking to her?? Do you think she was speaking from beyond the grave?!!

Tar.Aldarion

Deleting somebodies number that you care/d about is a lot harder done that said, unfortunately.


The truth I wa referring to, was the story she said about it being stolen.

AnonoBoy

If, when she called you, she had carried on the conversation and tried to keep you on the line then I would suspect that it was a cheap ploy to get talking to you again. However the fact that she didn't and that the text had been sent to other people (surely you can mention it to a few more people just to double-check) would make me think that she's telling the truth.

Even for a bit of a crazy it sounds a bit out there - is this the sort of behaviour that you would believably think she would engage in. I once had an ex ring me distraught about an attempted mugging. Like a fool I was sucked in by it despite my remonstrations the week before that we were to cut contact. I only realised it was a lie when I accidentally bumped into her sister who, strangely, had heard nothing of the traumatic experience.

I know a guy whose phone was 'borrowed' by an acuaintance who proceeded to text every female name on it telling them how he wanted to ride them senseless - this included ex-fiancees and sisters! So, yes, people are ****ing idiots and this sort of thing does happen.

biko

Indeed a friend took my phone in to another room at a party and rang three girls I know and hung up on them, at 4 am...

Marksie

Thaedydal wrote:

IF she is your ex then delete her number from your phone and don't waste any more time or engery on the matter or her.

I think its the other way around thaed, it would be from the ex's phone.

But point taken. OP: she is your ex and wants no more to do with you.

It was politeness to just say it was stolen. Which it most probably was

Just let it slide, its no longer your problem anyways

eyeball kid

The whole phone been stolen story sounds pretty believable to me. Nothing there seems to suggest it was a ploy on the ex's part.

LegacyUser

'How did they know it was Janets phone?

no one ever texts me by mt name. And it is not stored anywhere....'

Aura

They could easily have read some old text messages. My friends would often include my name in body of text.

Chinafoot

where the name wrote:

'How did they know it was Janets phone?

no one ever texts me by mt name. And it is not stored anywhere....'

Do you mean that nobody ever sends you a message saying "hi <insert name>...." so you don't think her name would be in any messages? Or do you mean that you don't believe your name would be stored in her phone anymore?

If it's the former, well I find it hard to believe, and even if that is the case for you that doesn't mean it's the same for her. So like Aura said, they could easily have gotten her name from any texts on her phone. Then again, it could easily be someone who knows and doesn't like. Not exactly beyond the realms of possibilty.

If you meant the latter, well like a previous poster already said, it can be very hard to try and cut someone you cared about out of your life and that would include deleting numbers. Chances are the number was still there.

I wouldn't worry too much about it, particularly given that your mate called the phone and heard "Jesus hang up its one of her friends".

The_Conductor

Sounds entirely plausible. Her little brother would recognise her phone- and probably think it was hilarious to do something like that...... Delete her number and move on- unless you feel that you still love her and want to get back with her- in which case it may be a good opportunity to tell her how much you care about her- and how you felt when you thought that she had passed away.
Your call.......

Daithio

How did they know she had a brother? And also one that you would find it plausible would contact you in such a situation?

Marksie

Daithio wrote:

How did they know she had a brother? And also one that you would find it plausible would contact you in such a situation?

Daithio i am not getting at your post per se
ifs, buts, maybes, possibilities and the like....
at the end of it all


this:

"2 weeks ago she called me and said she didnt wanna be friends anymore that she couldnt move on if i was still in her life "

is what is important.

OK she said it was a stolen phone and it was polite to stop you worrying

Block her number and forget about it

GhostInTheRuins

Daithio wrote:

How did they know she had a brother? And also one that you would find it plausible would contact you in such a situation?

Was just thinking the exact same thing.

Chinafoot

D.T. Jesus wrote:

Was just thinking the exact same thing.

It could very easily have been taken by someone who knows her.

It could also have been people who don't know her but just took a chance and said "brother" instead of sister/mother/father.

At the end of the day, I reckon the OP is being paranoid (or perhaps its a little bit of wishful thinking) about this and the ex was being a decent girl about it all and setting it straight.

Forget about it OP.

The_Hustler

The OP even said that yer wan thinks it was someone she knew.

I think the fact that they said it's one of her friends is a huge indicator that it wasn't her.

seamus

Daithio wrote:

How did they know she had a brother? And also one that you would find it plausible would contact you in such a situation?

Maybe they didn't? They guessed probably.

Let's look at a few obvious things here:

1. In the event of the death of a family member, I cannot see *anyone* from the family sending a group message from the person's mobile phone saying, "I'm sorry to say your friend is dead".

2. If they were going to sign it, surely they would say, "This is John, Janet's brother". Not just, "This is Janet's brother".

3. People who would be considered "close", such as recent exes, etc, would get a phone call. Or at the very least a more personal text.

The OP is being completely paranoid about it. He's seen too many soaps where people pretend to be dead to escape former partners. Surely if she was going to pretend to be dead, she wouldn't ring you up to explain afterwards?
If you are actually serious about this, why didn't you ring someone close to confirm it? I know if I received a similar text, the first thing I would do is ring someone else to confirm, not immediately assume that it's true.

There's no reason why she'd be "upset" when she rang you. If she got upset at all, she had probably already had a good rant about it with someone else, and was now just chatting to you about it.

castie

i had a mate send the message "i want your babies" to my entire phonebook! what a bill that was! sadly the ex gf rang the next day for an apparent "reconciliation", had broken up with her 2 months previous stating i didnt feel attaches enough to her to continue, didnt have a a notion why she was ringing until my brother rang later that day to as he put it "refuse my generous offer".

Its all fun and games until someone really gets hurt. Horrible Horrible thing to do with anyones phone, but he did make a valid point. how many names in the average phone book? how much would it cost to text an entire phone book?