my bf hasn't contacted me in 5 days...

LegacyUser

last week, I contacted my boyfriend first etc, twice. I saw him last, on Sunday, around lunchtime. He has exams, so I decided to see how long it would be before he contacted me. I'm getting a bit worried, as it's now Friday. Part of me wants to see, how long before I'll get a text and another part of me wants to send him a text...
Have I got any right to be a bit pissed off?. It's over 5 days later and I haven't heard anything.
I know he has exams, but even one simple 'goodnight' text during the week would have kept me happy.

St Bill

Text him and ask him how study is going. He might have gotten caught up in the exams. If he doesn't get back to you, don't bother with him. Find someone else! Life's too short to be worrying about whether someone's thinking of you or not

free2fly

Leave him alone if he's studying. And no, you don't have a right to be pissed off. He'll contact you when he has the time.

Pyr0

There is that chance he just *might* be thinking the same thing you are ? "Oh why won't she text me, it's been ages. Ah I'll leave her to text me, god a goodnight message would be great before my exams"

Just text the guy !

Oryx

Seconding what Pyro said, except phone him. Txts are a bit emotionless and can be misunderstood etc. Phone him and sort yerselves out.

luckat

a) If he has exams, he's right to keep his head down.

b) But one 10-minute call a day wouldn't take that much energy from his work.

cee_jay

He has exams - he has other things on his mind right now.
Why can't you just pick up the phone and give him a quick ring to see how they are going?
Why did you want to see how long it would be until he texts you? I don't understand that??

Boston

So what you're saying here is that you haven't contacted your bf in 5 days, whats up with that? He might have his reasons for not contacting you but me know you have none.

Blush_01

Are you going out, or are you playing a game of snap? Call him or text him, let him know you're thinking of him and hope his exams are going well. YOU haven't contacted HIM for 5 days too remember.

vorbis

ahh the lets mess up my relationship by playing games routine!

OP, I'm afraid you're one of those girls that needs a bit of drama in your life.
You saw him on Sundaya nd everything was fine. So for some unknown reason, you decide to test him. He probably hasn't contacted you due to his exams. Also since you haven't contacted him, he's now probably wondering if something is up.

So you've taken a normal situation and turned it into one where both peolple are wondering whats up with the others. Voila, lots of drama!

Macca206

When you say boyfriend how long have you been going out? Not unless you've prioperly been going out for a year or so would you be expected to keep in contact that regularly

Femelade

Your boyfriend is doing exams and you havent even contacted him to ask him how he is getting on?
Just get in contact with him, and quit playing games...
I've done that in the past and it gets you nowhere in the longrun..

WellyJ

Femmy wrote:

Your boyfriend is doing exams and you havent even contacted him to ask him how he is getting on?
Just get in contact with him, and quit playing games...
I've done that in the past and it gets you nowhere in the longrun..

Eh, it seems to me that he isn't that into you OP.

Wait it out and see what happens,

Why should you be the one to text him?

And also, WTF is with the whole texting thing these days,

What happened to actually talking to people?

LegacyUser

phew!. He texted. I was worrying over nothing. Apologies for posting. We're going to a gig tonight. I wasn't texting him, as last week, I initiated all the contact (twice)+ before, it used to be 3/4 days, one person would text, then 3/4 days, the other person would. That's the only reason I was worrying.
Also, we're going out 6 months. Thanks+ case closed

SarahSassy

WellyJ wrote:

What happened to actually talking to people?

talk isn't always necessary, a quick text to say hi can get the job done....

OP, why did you start playing this game, is there a precedent? Why do you feel you need to test him now?

In fairness, I dont think a 1 minute phone call would kill him.

seastar

I can see why you did this but you should be the one making the effort if he is trying to concentrate on his exams. Text and call to show you are thinking of him. Exams are tough enough without relationship drama to cope with.

Zambia

News flash your not going out ... 5 days...too long

Marksie

whatwouldudo wrote:

He has exams, so I decided to see how long it would be before he contacted me.

Why on earth, pray, would you want to do that when someone is under real pressure with exams?
Why would you want to do that at any time to be honest? What on earth where you trying to achieve?

whatwouldudo wrote:

I'm getting a bit worried, as it's now Friday. Part of me wants to see, how long before I'll get a text and another part of me wants to send him a text...

then text or call, and dont make an issue of it.

whatwouldudo wrote:

Have I got any right to be a bit pissed off?. It's over 5 days later and I haven't heard anything.

No you havent a right to be pissed of, yet. But why dont you just call and ask?

whatwouldudo wrote:

I know he has exams, but even one simple 'goodnight' text during the week would have kept me happy.

Did you ask him to text you, did you say "will you let me know how you are getting on?" if you did then maybe you have a point but dont sit and wait it out!

edit didnt see your response til after posting
Lesson: for peace of mind dont do things like that :-)

edanto

[posted b4 seeing your response]

happy days

Diamondmaker

whatwouldudo wrote:

phew!. He texted. I was worrying over nothing. Apologies for posting. We're going to a gig tonight. I wasn't texting him, as last week, I initiated all the contact (twice)+ before, it used to be 3/4 days, one person would text, then 3/4 days, the other person would. That's the only reason I was worrying.
Also, we're going out 6 months. Thanks+ case closed

So you are going out 6 months = 25.8 weeks. You went from a 3-4:1 text ratio per week down to 0:1 ratio recently. You initiated 100% of the recent 0:1 until he eventually responded today on week 26.

Ehh I think you are just over analysing the whole thing...its him thats doing the study!
Its all good anyway it seems, less of the stats and you should be fine!:)

Dont tell him this stuff or youll scare him!;)

LegacyUser

Macca206 wrote:

When you say boyfriend how long have you been going out? Not unless you've prioperly been going out for a year or so would you be expected to keep in contact that regularly

Most couples I know talk every day regardless of how long they've been going out and i am the same. i'd be going mad if someone didnt contact me for 5 days. Exams or no exams, he should be thinking of her. How long does it take to send a text???

SarahSassy

whatwouldudo wrote:

Thanks+ case closed

Glad to hear it so now quit your games playing with him

In saying that, if you would like to hear from him more often then tell him!!!!! He is not a mind reader and probably thinks you are happy out.

I'd agree.
These text games are silly unless its the junior cert exams he's sitting of course and ye both are like 14 or something..
Oh and nokia or whoever it was have a lot to answer for in inventing text in the first place.
There should be some sort of detector device on phones that won't allow you to excessively text when voice to voice would be nicer.
Theres too much room for misunderstandings.
Lifes too short for 0's and 1's.