A Woman's Advice

TeenageKicks

Hello Ladies

Please do not think I am a sicko for even braoching this topic but I would just like to hear a womans perspective. Having sex during your period, what is the major diffence for you? Can you fell anything at all or is just pointless for you? I bring this up not because I regularly have sex with women who have their period but it has happened before and I was curious to know

Thanks in advance for all replies

kizzyr

TeenageKicks wrote:

Hello Ladies

Please do not think I am a sicko for even braoching this topic but I would just like to hear a womans perspective. Having sex during your period, what is the major diffence for you? Can you fell anything at all or is just pointless for you? I bring this up not because I regularly have sex with women who have their period but it has happened before and I was curious to know

Thanks in advance for all replies

Myself and my boyfriend have sex whenever the mood takes, period or not and you can feel everything just the same or even a little better. Many women are more sensitive to touch during their period and sometimes you can feel even more. Also it can help to ease the back pain many women get during their period too. Ultimately it depends on the people in question, some women feel damn unattractive during their period and want nothing more than comfy clothes, chocolate and a bottle of wine and the thought of having sex is the furthest thing from their mind!

StormWarrior

I enjoy it at that time of the month. It feels even more sensitive. Messy though!

tSubh Dearg

Personally I don't like to have sex the first couple of days of my period as I find it feels a bit off and umcomfortable plus it seems to make my cramps worse. After that though I'm happy to have sex anytime anywhere.

Showering together afterwards can make the messiness fun.

spinandscribble

not the first few days but definately after day 3. i guess i dont bleed much since its never "messy". plus im extremely horny during my period but i think thats a bit of wanting what you cant have. i think its about the same. no better/worse

dudara

I don't mind at all. It actually helps ease the cramps and relaxes me. Weirdly I feel least like sex for the few days preceding my period. I suppose that it's PMT of some form.

frizzefreckles

I don't like having sex during my period. I get very sensitive and find it quite uncomfortable. Usually around day 4 if my period is light I might, the pain is usually gone and it's not messy.

kizzyr

dudara wrote:

I don't mind at all. It actually helps ease the cramps and relaxes me. Weirdly I feel least like sex for the few days preceding my period. I suppose that it's PMT of some form.

I get like that too, especially the day just before. My poor boyfriend gets jumped as soon as he gets home from work:D

Cancer-chick

its not just me then

whew !

poor bf gets same treatment 1-2days prior but go back a week and i think the poor man would happily move into a tent !

the joys

lady_j

More enjoyable as more sensitive. MESSY though

Cateym

Do I take it for granted that condoms are being used coz otherwise I have to say its just plain unhygenic!!

I am ferociously horny just before and after prob coz I don't indulge while I'm having my period, the fecking bed sheets would be ruined!!

frizzefreckles

Cateym I'm like you, don't leave the poor bloke alone for the few days before hand and then the day I get my period I'm like a nun until afterwards where I just hop him again, I think that has a lot to do with frustration though.
Surprisingly he never complains

TeenageKicks

Thank you all for your comments

Oh and if I am in a long term relationship I do not use a condom

LegacyUser

'I have sex with my girlfriend towards the end of hers, it can be alittle messy, but i don't get the big deal..

Love > Period'

BeardyGit

Cateym wrote:

Do I take it for granted that condoms are being used coz otherwise I have to say its just plain unhygenic!!

How is that then? It might gross one or both parties out a bit, but I fail to see how it's just plain unhygenic.....

Cateym

Gil_Dub wrote:

How is that then? It might gross one or both parties out a bit, but I fail to see how it's just plain unhygenic.....

Period blood is quite different to normal blood. Quite alot of clots going on and I think if I were a bloke I wouldn't want that gunk anywhere near the wee fella. How any bloke could do it without a condom is beyond me?

_blank_

Quite easily

Miss Fluff

Nope, I completely shut shop when I have the painters in. I just think sex when menstruating is vile quite frankly, can't indulge with the same wanton abandon because it's messy and a bit gross really.

Edit - just reread post, makes me sounds like a prostitute! :eek: Shop was meant in the metaphorical sense!!:eek:

Cateym

seansouth wrote:

Quite easily

Does it not gross you out. I mean surely you aren't that desperate for it that you would stick your knob into that gunk???

frizzefreckles

Cateym you're forgetting that blokes don't see as much of the 'gunk' as we do. In fact my bloke never sees any 'gunk'.

Cateym

frizzefreckles wrote:

Cateym you're forgetting that blokes don't see as much of the 'gunk' as we do. In fact my bloke never sees any 'gunk'.

True but surely some of it must end up on his equipment unless there is some kind of wipe manoever apres shag

frizzefreckles

Cateym wrote:

True but surely some of it must end up on his equipment unless there is some kind of wipe manoever apres shag

wouldn't surprise me

dudara

I think that the vast majority of men don't mind at all. The menstrual blood actually acts as an extra form of lubricant. It's quite enjoyable.

BeardyGit

Cateym wrote:

Does it not gross you out. I mean surely you aren't that desperate for it that you would stick your knob into that gunk???

Girls, it's not that big a deal, at least not to me and I'm guessing not to a huge number of men. The way I see it, the fact that there might be some blood visible when I withdraw is not a valid reason for me not having sex. If it made my partner physically uncomfortable to have intercourse during her period, I wouldn't have a problem taking a few days out each month, for that reason alone.

But you know, that's the difference between most of us, and the few. For me, a spare towel on the bed is the only extra thing that's introduced into the equation. I'll often shower anyway after sex, so that's not an interruption or inconvenience. And so what if the towel and maybe the bed clothes need changing? It's not a big deal, really.

And just in case you think differently, it's not about being desperate for sex or sex crazed or anything like that. The reason I'll happily have sex with my partner during her period if she's willing is that I want to. I don't see why her period should be an obstacle to us enjoying a healthy sexual relationship at any time of the month we'd like....

Cheers,

Gil

patrickc

no way would i it just seems to messy and yucky!

LegacyUser

'so how does the sex during the period effect the baby making as in is it safe with out condoms if you dont want a baby'

dudara

There is a common myth that you cannot get pregnant if you have sex during menstruation.

This is false. The chances of you getting pregnant during your period are diminished when compared to mid-cycle. However, there is still a probability, and if you want to be sure, use contraception.

Nightwish

Personally I wouldnt be up for it. For starters I am so sick during mine, sex is the last thing on my mind. And also both myself and my bf find the thought of period sex quite disgusting.

Talliesin

Cateym wrote:

Do I take it for granted that condoms are being used coz otherwise I have to say its just plain unhygenic!!

While one of the goals of potty training is to induce a tendency to aversion towards things that are not hygienic, it does not follow that therefore anything you are personally averse to is in anyway unhygienic.

What forms of sexual activity you do or do not enjoy during any given point in your or your partners' cycle is up to you, but you can't just declare something hygienic or unhygienic by decree.

There is a somewhat increased risk of a woman contracting HIV or Hep C from intercourse during her period. In other regards there is nothing any less hygienic about intercourse during that time.

Some old treatises on sexual matters (such as the 16th Century The Perfumed Garden) do talk about various alleged risks, but this was when the epitome of medical science was based on the theory of the four humours.

dudara wrote:

I think that the vast majority of men don't mind at all. The menstrual blood actually acts as an extra form of lubricant. It's quite enjoyable.

I've found (on the one hand with more than one woman, though on the other I haven't been with enough women to count as a statistically valid survey) that there tends to be less lubrication during such times and blood isn't a good lubricant (it's sticky and rather drying) nor so a little more work is needed on other matters before penetration begins.

The taste is also not quite as nice as during other times in a woman's cycle, though with if one doesn't stray too far from the clitoris it's still perfectly pleasant to give a menstruating woman head.

davyjose

Have to be honest - wouldn't be the quickest to go down on her while she's on her period, but I love the sex.

spurious

Menstrual blood would be on the lower levels of sex mess that I can think of. There is far 'worse'.

Sex during periods is a personal choice I suppose. I have met many women who almost consider it taboo - no idea why, as there is no physical reason why a woman couldn't have sex during her period. Before I got the Mirena, I found it lessened cramps, but now I don't have periods and it's full steam ahead anytime. Wahey.

hunnymonster

Talliesin wrote:

.... I've found .... that there tends to be less lubrication during such times and blood isn't a good lubricant (it's sticky and rather drying).....

I agree with this. I'm fine for shorter session when I'm bleeding but marathon, phone off the hook, ignoring the dorrbell sex is other for other times of the month. The friction of long sessions during my period just leaves everything raw and sore in a not good way.

kizzyr

Talliesin wrote:

While one of the goals of potty training is to induce a tendency to aversion towards things that are not hygienic, it does not follow that therefore anything you are personally averse to is in anyway unhygienic.

What forms of sexual activity you do or do not enjoy during any given point in your or your partners' cycle is up to you, but you can't just declare something hygienic or unhygienic by decree.

There is a somewhat increased risk of a woman contracting HIV or Hep C from intercourse during her period. In other regards there is nothing any less hygienic about intercourse during that time.

Some old treatises on sexual matters (such as the 16th Century The Perfumed Garden) do talk about various alleged risks, but this was when the epitome of medical science was based on the theory of the four humours.
I've found (on the one hand with more than one woman, though on the other I haven't been with enough women to count as a statistically valid survey) that there tends to be less lubrication during such times and blood isn't a good lubricant (it's sticky and rather drying) nor so a little more work is needed on other matters before penetration begins.

The taste is also not quite as nice as during other times in a woman's cycle, though with if one doesn't stray too far from the clitoris it's still perfectly pleasant to give a menstruating woman head.

While I'm all for sex during my period I would never expect my boyfriend to go down on me then, cause thats just plain mean. Also, despite being on the Pill too, I'd always get him to use a condom at that time too, cause again its just that bit messier and can be gunkier etc and at least with a condom thats one extra thing that doesn't need to be cleaned up.

air_war

Just stick a towel down on the bed, unless it's the first day of period its not really too messy.

If a guy is scared of getting blood on him then use a condom, in my last relationship my ex didn't mind, we'd just hop in the shower afterwards.

It is supposed to ease cramps but I would have never expected my boyfriend to go down on me with my period, that's just gross!

Talliesin

kizzyr wrote:

While I'm all for sex during my period I would never expect my boyfriend to go down on me then, cause thats just plain mean.

I've only ever had the opposite problem - I want to go down on a woman, and she's uncomfortable with the idea because she's having a period.

If that issue on their end is overcome then the actual physical matter is pretty much okay. If a woman is lying on her back then she's hardly going to end up with any blood magically appearing on her clitoris! Gravity tends to make things go down, rather than up.

Besides, most of us would lick our finger if we cut it by mistake (to think; it's 37 years since Germaine Greer made the same point with the same analogy in A Female Eunuch).

kizzyr wrote:

its just that bit messier and can be gunkier etc and at least with a condom thats one extra thing that doesn't need to be cleaned up.

I normally have sex somewhere with sinks and running water. However, if these aren't available the couple of millilitres of blood I could potentially get on the skin of my penis doesn't really bother me. I've already got about 5 litres of blood in me, so a couple of ml on me isn't a big deal.

chris_oc

StormWarrior wrote:

I enjoy it at that time of the month. It feels even more sensitive. Messy though!

i really wish i never read that!im not gonna be able to sleep tonite!:p

Cateym

Talliesin wrote:

Besides, most of us would lick our finger if we cut it by mistake

That's YOUR blood though!!!

kizzyr

Talliesin wrote:

I've only ever had the opposite problem - I want to go down on a woman, and she's uncomfortable with the idea because she's having a period.

If that issue on their end is overcome then the actual physical matter is pretty much okay. If a woman is lying on her back then she's hardly going to end up with any blood magically appearing on her clitoris! Gravity tends to make things go down, rather than up.

Besides, most of us would lick our finger if we cut it by mistake (to think; it's 37 years since Germaine Greer made the same point with the same analogy in A Female Eunuch).


I normally have sex somewhere with sinks and running water. However, if these aren't available the couple of millilitres of blood I could potentially get on the skin of my penis doesn't really bother me. I've already got about 5 litres of blood in me, so a couple of ml on me isn't a big deal.

Putting your finger with a little blood from a papercut into your mouth is one thing but if some period blood got onto my finger I'd never in a million years stick that into my mouth a get rid of it and its my own blood.
Oddly enough I have sinks, showers, baths and running water in my house too:) but still use a condom if having sex during my period. Its just what I do and the sex certainly doesn't suffer because of it either.;)
Ultimately what each couple do or don't do while having sex is up to them and if it works well it works:D After all the threads on this section of Boards maybe we should all be glad we're gettin' any!

LolaLuv

Talliesin wrote: »

I've only ever had the opposite problem - I want to go down on a woman, and she's uncomfortable with the idea because she's having a period.

If that issue on their end is overcome then the actual physical matter is pretty much okay. If a woman is lying on her back then she's hardly going to end up with any blood magically appearing on her clitoris! Gravity tends to make things go down, rather than up.

Besides, most of us would lick our finger if we cut it by mistake (to think; it's 37 years since Germaine Greer made the same point with the same analogy in A Female Eunuch).


I normally have sex somewhere with sinks and running water. However, if these aren't available the couple of millilitres of blood I could potentially get on the skin of my penis doesn't really bother me. I've already got about 5 litres of blood in me, so a couple of ml on me isn't a big deal.

I hope you're basing this all on the context of a monogamous relationship in which both partners have been tested. That being said, this post was sort of hot! (In a really nasty way.)