Different Women different results

LegacyUser

Hey guys,
Right small but very annoying problem.
At the moment I am seeing this girl, shes fantastic, caring lovely, very good looking, ver really click when together. I also have this other buddy, a friend with benifits should we say.
now when I am with the friend with benifits things sexually are amazing, theres nothing we dont do everything and I have no problem performing.
When I am with the other girl, things take a turn for the worst, I just cant keep it up. I dont kno wif its her technique, shes not great in all departments. I would really like things to pick up between us as this is somthing that could split us up, I dont think I could continue seeing a girl that didnt get my fire going in the bedroom.

I am not sure exactly where the problem lies. My previous girlfriends, was very good looking but nothing compared to my current squezze, but I never had a problem in the bedroom things always got going. when I have been with my friend with benifits or my ex, just kissing them would get me hard, or just hugging, basically any kind of contact, with my current doll, nothing, even if she starts rubbing my groin, notyhing seems to spark down there and its getting very frustrating,

So what I am wondering is, has this happened before, that you fancy somebody, everything is grand but your just not sexually attractive to them, if that make sence.

PinkPrincess26

This has happened to a partner of mine before.

He had broken up with his girlfriend to be with me, and even though we would both get really worked up kissing fondeling etc...... when it came down to it he couldnt keep it up, this went on for quite a while....

We both came to the conclusion that he felt guilty bout leaving his x...


Mayby you subconsciously feel guilty for cheating.....

Mr. Incognito

I'd have to agree with that.

The difference is with one girl you don't care so it's all about self gratification.

The other girl you care about and are worrying are you going to perform and keep her happy. I had the same problem with my first girlfriend. I could sleep aroun no problem but with her, I just was like a child and had no confidence. She had this power over me.

It's in your head so don't blame "her technique"

dame

Agree with previous posters.
Maybe subconsciously you think you're not good enough for her since she's such a stunner?

challengemaster

Frustrated wrote:

now when I am with the friend with benifits things sexually are amazing, theres nothing we dont do everything and I have no problem performing.
When I am with the other girl...

From what i read in that, you're seeing one girl - yet having sex with another at the same time. (citation please - thats just how it looks to me)

If that's the case - then break it off with her. this excuse

I dont think I could continue seeing a girl that didnt get my fire going in the bedroom.

seems pretty selfish if you're cheating on her...

Anyway - if that's not the case : what's been said above could be true - maybe subconscious affecting you.

you say

shes not great in all departments

So why don't you tell her what you like, or try new things, or try improve it together instead of just walking out the door.

The_B_Man

IT could be that this new missus is the hottest girl u've ever been with and u feel pressured to impress her all the time, leading to u not being relaxed enough to...eh....ya know.