Getting more miserable everyday

LegacyUser

Hey,

I'm really down today and everyday I come into this job I get worse. Everyday its the same old thing. Im the only one working for the business as its a sideline thing for my boss. Im in a room with a few other businesses no one really talks to each other as everyone is into their own thing and they are all a lot older than me.
So everyday I sit here in my little cubical, in a windowless room, freezing on scorching days cos this guy has the aircon on constantly, doing a job that I hate, Im meant to be doing Marketing but Sales has completely taken over my role and I hate doing sales, I have no interest in making the calls I am meant to be. Not only that but the business is dead, I would give anything for it to be busy but its not, its only in operation a year and I really think the boss will close it down in a few months as no money is being made. I feel terrible as I am letting my position down but my motivation has just gone. In the beginning i did everything was highly motivated but with lack of financing and support from my employer on the new business along with discrepencies over employee allowances (eg petrol costs for business trips, time owed to me etc) my motivation is zilch.

I want to hand in my notice today I'm really fed up of it, but I dont know what to do after that. I would love a job with an ever changing fast paced environment but i have no idea where to look and at the moment this job is sucking the life out of me. I'd love to head off for the summer both me and my boyfriend but we'll loose nearly a grand of a deposit on our apartment for breaking the lease and im on such terrible wages no matter how well i manage my money im always over drawn at the end of the month so we cant afford to go away even if we wanted to

Im just so fed up, I didnt expect at 23 I'd be so stressed and bummed out, sitting in a windowless office on my own everyday and completely stone broke (i was on more money in college as a waitress) it's really getting me down and I can see a change in myself , i just want to be that lively bubbly girl everyone use to know.

Changing jobs probably is the answer but i have no idea what job to get whether to get any ol job or try stay on my careers path. Also though i have this terrible guilt over leaving my boss in the lurch, im her only employee and it will put a terrible strain on her to replace me. I was good at my job when i had the interest and motivation but its been sucked out of me with the circumstances that surround it I know we've had our differences but i am so conflicting about the business, I wish it to succeed for her but I cannot make it so Ive tried for the last 10 months.

I have no idea what my next step is?


SOrry for babbling on and if the post is confusing I just needed somewhere to vent!

Kell

downinthedumps wrote:

Im just so fed up, I didnt expect at 23 I'd be so stressed and bummed out, sitting in a windowless office on my own everyday and completely stone broke (i was on more money in college as a waitress) it's really getting me down and I can see a change in myself , i just want to be that lively bubbly girl everyone use to know.

Changing jobs probably is the answer but i have no idea what job to get whether to get any ol job or try stay on my careers path.

A) Change your job
Change your job
C) Feel no guilt for your boss. They'd sack your áss as soon as something goes wrong

First thing you do is ring a shít load of agencies and tell them what you want. Spell it out to them and make it clear that they are wasting their time offering you anything else.

Second, get another job either part or full time that pays more than you are on now. It doesnt matter what it is, so long as it gets you out of where you are now. You are only using it as a stop gap anyway.

Thing with your career is, you have to be DEFINITE about what you want. No point in saying "um,... eh.... errr.... I think I'd like to....." Decide EXACTLY what it is you want, relay it to the agency and then go do it.

There are few good agencies out there. Usually they dont give a monkeys where they place you so long as they get paid. The good ones put in the time and effort and dont send you shít to waste your time.

K-

Moss

Changing job is probably the best advice you're going to get. You could also think of travelling for a while or working abroad. If you really want to stay with your job for your bosses sake then tell her you need a good holiday and come back to it.

McSandwich

Explain to your boss that you can't work under those conditions. If she valued you then you wouldn't be stuck working in a broom cupboard. You said that you got paid more as a (part time) waitress before you were qualified (?). Are you being paid more than the minimum wage?

You really need to get out of there (and give the minumum notice you can! You owe your boss nothing). Someone like you, fresh out of college and looking to build a career, should ideally be working in an environment where you can interact with others and gain proper experience.

Work to live..

Mr. Incognito

I was in the same situation.

Quit. Quit today. The relief will be enormous. In 6 months you'll laugh about it. Agencies are okay but I found the direct approach worked a lot better for me.

www.gradireland.ie was a very good one, Monster, less so. Do up CV's a fire them into the firms Human resources on Harcourt Street. I work in a big 4 accountancy firm and there are people with all sorts of degrees and backgrounds. Try Marketing. Ring the marketing firms, ask to speak to HR and get a name and an e-mail to fire a CV to. Two weeks tops. There are a lot of jobs at the moment out there.

In fact pm me a cv and I'll recommend you to our HR for our marketing department.

Best of luck with it.

Miss Fluff

Quit your job. You'll walk into something else. Better to leave now than when your boss can no longer afford to pay you and your owed a months salary and have worked for nothing. Writing is evidently on the wall for the company so get out now before it folds. Try www.irishjobs.ie

Peter Collins

I totally agree about leaving, but perhaps you should take some kind of break before making a decision as to what to do next.

It's not always a good time to think clearly when, as you say, you feel down.

A couple of days thinking it over and getting a good friend's point of view, I think, would be helpful.

You'll be a better person for this you know - some people never work a bad job and consequently don't always know when things are good!

Best of luck - let us know how you get on !

boffin

My reply really depends on whether or not your see a future for the company. I am in a very similiar position as you -- I work for a start up company, on my own and in shared offices with people I don't really know. In fact I know that feeling of being in the dumps. But I have come out the otherside now and its back to being on a high - business is going well and feel a ton more motivated. I know I have begun rambling so my point is...

OPTION ONE: If you feel that there is no future for the business then start looking for a new job. Get out now. Firstly I know you feel loyalty to your boss but honestly if don't feel like there is a future for the business then you are not doing any favours to yourself or your boss by staying. What I mean by that is that if you don't believe in the business then there is very little chance of you being able to sell it to someone else. I believe that you have to truely believe in a product or service if you are going to be able to sell it.

Second of all your priority should be to yourself and if you are miserable then you have to change this , especially if it is affecting other areas in your life. Life is too short to be miserable and if your boss has abandoned you -- not giving you the support you need well then they are not putting in the effort to maintain their own company so I would not feel bad about it at all. You can't do it on your own without any support (well I'm sure you can but its really difficult).

OPTION TWO; If you feel that the business does actually have a future and this lack of motivation is a consequence of lack of support and due to a bad sales month/months -- Every start up business has its bad months where sales are rocky and you go through good and bad times and the first year is meant to be the toughest -- then there are different startegies that you can do to keep yourself motivated -- a little mantra, setting daily, weekly and monthly goals for yourself, join networking events etc. If you do decide this might be just a bad month(s) then I would speak to your boss about sceduling a meeting for every fothnight for two hours. This can be a strategy meeting where you can decide who next to target etc and brain storm essentially.

If you do decide you want to stay pm me if I can be any help because I know how hard it can be in the first year of setting up a new business.