Help?

LegacyUser

The boyfriend and I haven't exactly had an easy relationship.
We've had lots of fights and been on/off for a while.
We broke up last night and now time it seems to be for real...it was my fault but I don't want this! I wish we could work things out but we're both quite stubborn.
I still love him and I know he loves me...is there any hope for us?

Kell

notregged wrote:

I still love him and I know he loves me...is there any hope for us?

How long have you been going out? How grown up are you both? What did you break up over? What sort of fights do you have? Why didnt you have an easy relationship?

Answers to the above might uncover if you stand a chance or not.

K-

LegacyUser

We've been on and off for just over a year. We're 20 and it was all my fault, I start fights over silly things

Femelade

why dont you tell him what you have just told us?

~nop~

Yeah I agree, tell him.

And try not to start silly fights in the future. He's bound to start seeing you as a bit of a headwrecker.

LegacyUser

'I did try and tell him but he's sick of breaking up and getting back together.
I know I am a headwrecker but he knows certain things make me insecure and he still does them'

Attol

Be honest with him but if you're bickering and constantly breaking up I don't see it working. How can you rely on someone if you're afraid they'll push you away in a weeks time? If you were able to break up with him then maybe it's not right? Or it's one of those just loving the chase kinds of things?

SarahSassy

Why do you want to be with someone you are constantly fighting with??? Its tiring after a while and this constant on / off relationship is heartbreaking and wearying.....

Maybe you love each other but are just not compatible.... You sound young - how old are you (hope you dont mind me asking). A wise old lady once said to me 'if you are with someone you argue with every second day or 3 days out of 7 then you could effectively spend half your life fighting'..... Maybe its time to find someone you wont want to fight with.

Dord

notregged wrote:

The boyfriend and I haven't exactly had an easy relationship.
We've had lots of fights and been on/off for a while.
We broke up last night and now time it seems to be for real...it was my fault but I don't want this! I wish we could work things out but we're both quite stubborn.
I still love him and I know he loves me...is there any hope for us?

only the two of you know the answer to this question, talk to him.

Mighty_Mouse

I wish we could work things out but we're both quite stubborn.

Dont know any succesful relationship built on stubborness.
If you aint willing to resolve things, communicate etc then whats the point?

We're 20 and it was all my fault, I start fights over silly things

Advice: dont start fights over silly things. No bloke wants to be around that

he knows certain things make me insecure and he still does them'

What things make you insecure?
Depending on what they are. Maybe you should deal with your insecurity. Maybe he's not doing anything wrong?

Kell

Mighty_Mouse wrote:

What things make you insecure?
Depending on what they are. Maybe you should deal with your insecurity. Maybe he's not doing anything wrong?

What he/she said. Until you sort out your insecurity issues, you'll just get caught in the same repeating cycle of disasterous relationships.

K-

BeardyGit

I'm with MM and Kell on this one.

You're making your insecurity his problem.