Emotionless?

LegacyUser

Hi,

Are there any other people out there who are emotionless? I just don't seem to care about anything.

I don't really like my family, i haven't seen my dad in a couple of years and it doesn't really bother me like it should. I see my brother about once a year and i don't care, the guy's an ass anyway. I have 3 nieces and nephews, only 2 of which I've actually seen, and i don't really care. I know if i were to move away and never see or hear from my family again that it probably wouldn't bother me.

I was with my last girlfriend for about 5 years, i cared a lot about her, and at the time loved her, but looking back on it now, i don't know if i really did or not.

I am now with another girl, she has told me she loves me, but i haven't yet. I also care about her a lot, she's awesome. But i don't love her, and i don't know if i can, because i don't think i know what love is, and it's nothing to do with her, i just don't think i'm capable.

To be honest, it gets to me, because i want to love her, and i feel bad because i haven't said it. I know that in time, i'll think about how happy i am with her and all the good things, and i'll come to the conclusion that i love her, but i won't know if that's really true.. ya know?

Does anyone else feel like this?

thanks

PeakOutput

obviously you are not emotionless and you do care about something which is shown by the fact you have even asked this question

most of the things you seem to not care about are your family and im assuming from the fact you have not seen your dad in a few years there is a good reason behind it although you should always try and work through things for the sake of the family if you simply dont want to it seems fair enough to me

besides your girlfriend do you have mates or really close friends???

emotionless to me is not having any friends or family that would make you cry if they died and just using women for sex also you could prob add in not flinching if they see a animal torture video or something but thats a bit extreme

dr.bollocko

Someone either needs to read the Catcher in the Rye or else has already read it far too much.
Im not sure which but either way, it sounds like you have trouble in defining your emotional identity. I would think of this as normal for any deep-thinking person to have a small crisis like this within a certain age group. I applaud you for your dedication to self-analysis and improvement.

Strokesfan

Maybe because of things that happened that distanced you from your father etc - you are just emotionally hardened as such.

Sometimes I feel the same but I think it's cos my mom left my dad and a few other things happened that made me colder. I always feel I can walk away from anything - I know this is because it's happened so often in the past whether it was my own choice or not.

I don't think you are emotionless - just a product of your environment maybe.
Are you a little depressed I wonder?

Try to meet your family more and maybe your relationship with them will improve

impr0v

Strokesfan wrote:

Maybe because of things that happened that distanced you from your father etc - you are just emotionally hardened as such.

Sometimes I feel the same but I think it's cos my mom left my dad and a few other things happened that made me colder. I always feel I can walk away from anything - I know this is because it's happened so often in the past whether it was my own choice or not.

I don't think you are emotionless - just a product of your environment maybe.
Are you a little depressed I wonder?

It's a state of emotional disconnectedness, or purposely, though not necessarily consciously, removing oneself from one's emotions. Generally a defence mechanism after being subjected to sustained hurt.

It's not a 100% bad state, but by remaining in it one's quality of life is lessened by not feeling emotional intensity in any way, i.e. one can't just switch off the lows and continue to experience the highs, the switch is either off or on. It's not an easy thing to undo, but counselling is generally a step in the right direction.

Beruthiel

IDON'TKNOW wrote:

To be honest, it gets to me, because i want to love her, and i feel bad because i haven't said it. I know that in time, i'll think about how happy i am with her and all the good things, and i'll come to the conclusion that i love her, but i won't know if that's really true.. ya know?

As others have said, sounds like you've 'switched' yourself off.
We're not professionals though and I'd urge you to talk it through with one, because at some stage in your life, something is going to happen that will trigger you back into the 'on' position and it's all going to come flooding out.
You deserve the best, seek help and work towards that.
good luck.
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