stupid banging doors problem

mkennedy

hi.
i'm living with 2 flatmates.
my contact with them is mostly formal as I don't see them that much as i'm working mostly.

anyway they have this inability to close doors gently. at this stage it's like some kind of competition between them as to who can knock the door off its hinges first.

I know it's not a major problem to just ask them to stop but I just don't want them to get their backs up about it.

what's the best way of getting them to stop doing this.
is it necessary to actually ask them directly to stop or are there more subtle approaches.

btw any ideas as to why some people slam doors like this.
tbh I'm a bit baffled by it myself.

Gordon

Get rubbery things and put them on the door frame where the door touches the frame. So when it slams it won't sound so loud.

Or speak to them.

easyontheeye

while they are out slightly loosen the screw in the hinge, then eventually the door will fall off and they will realise they are slamming it too hard!

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

every time they do it, walk over to their room and scream in their face about closing the door quietly for 5-10 minutes

they should get the hint eventually.

My mother finally got me to stop slamming the door on her car a few months ago after a couple of years trying, but her problem was she didn't scream at me.. she kept asking politely and I kept politely not listening.

PCros

easyontheeye wrote:

while they are out slightly loosen the screw in the hinge, then eventually the door will fall off and they will realise they are slamming it too hard!

Haha yes! That would sure scare them into not doing it again and also to get a laugh

WindSock

Join in and play 'Stomp with them. Reply by hitting pots and pans everytime they do it.

source

Just say it to them, there really is no other way. most people who bang doors don't even realise that they're doing it. some may just be used to heavier doors or sticky hinges wherever they were working before and are just used to slamming doors.

There is also the possibility (not to be ruled out) that because they don't really know you except for in a formal manner, by which i presume you mean discussing bills and paying rent, that they have chosen not to like you and want to try and disrupt your rest time.

If this is the case then i would suggest trying to get to know them and once you get in with them i'm sure it will calm down.

May not be anything like what is actually going on, just an idea from what you have said in your post.

Faith

My flatmate does that too! The doors to the rooms can't be slammed, but she slams the front door, the cupboards and presses and pulls the bolt back on the bathroom door without applying any pressure to the door, so it sounds like a gunshot, particularly in the middle of the night.

She also has weird waking hours, so I never get a decent nights sleep with her. She would get her back up if I asked her to stop though.

Oh, and she whistles. There is no more annoying habit.

quarryman

had this exact same problem in my old house. Finally decided to take off the handle and 'fix it' so when they asked I would say that someone must have been slamming it as its broken.

In the end I just moved out (not because of this, but it was one reason).

So my reply is no help to you. But i know exactly how you feel. I bet you even get uptight when you hear them getting ready to go out cus the SLAM is on the way....

You must have little to worry about.

Stephen

Faith wrote:

I never get a decent nights sleep with her. She would get her back up if I asked her to stop though.

Oh, and she whistles.

Sounds hot.

stovelid

Move out TBH

Dragan

Find somewhere sneaky to hide, and when they slam the door jump out at them and scream "Do that again and I'll slam yore ****ing MA!!!!!!!!"

You know where this goes if they do it again.

dulpit

Reverse the hinges so that whenever they go to push a door open they'll clonk their head off the door... Or remove them completely, no doors = no slamming...

arseagon

Invest in some of these and no more door banging. I'm putting them on all doors in the house i'm renovating.

johnp

Put some springs on the doors, so when they slam them they'll bounce right back and hit them on the ar$e... or head or seomwhere.

Sad Professor

Maybe I'm childish but if I were you I'd just slam the doors as well till they get the message.

BlitzKrieg

guilt trip em.

I grew up with my father's big old range rover which due to its large size required me to apply abit of strength to close its doors at my young age.

That grew into 1 of my 2 most annoying subconcious habits. I slam doors. (the other is i am very very loud)

How I sort of toned down on the door slamming was from being guilt tripped by housemates over how disruptive it was.

Overplay how much it interferes with your work or something, and they'll feel bad everytime they close the door (but it only apply to that door, they will still slam other doors without thinking.)

emeraldstar

I hear ya OP, my flatmate is the same. Can't relax when I go to bed coz I know I'll be woken up as soon as I've drifted off. Doesn't help that the sitting room door is right beside my bedroom, and HER bedroom is on the other side of my bedroom. So it's in, out, slam, slam....aaaaaahhhhhhh.
So yep, it's reallllly annoying

Dudess

Deleted User wrote:

You must have little to worry about.

It may not spell the end of the world but it's an extremely irritating and inconsiderate habit. The OP's flatmates lack consideration and need to be made aware of this.
I lived with two people who were the exact same, then when friends and boyfriends came over there was yet more of it. I just said it to them - simple as that. It's appalling that a person could let a door not just slam, but smash into its frame and keep doing it. Once is fair enough - they may not realise that it's going to slam - but to keep repeating it is unacceptable.
Emeraldstar, you have the patience of a saint. I'd lose it with her - which isn't advisable either.

spudster101

When there inside race over with a few six inch nails and a hammer and nail that sucker shut:D

homah_7ft

I think you are going to end up pretending it's not happening and becoming more and more frustrated. Eventually you will move out and they will continue slamming doors.

Deliverance

Banging doors, they bang them because they don't give a ****, and they are assholes. I have new neighbours, 3 of them, they spend their days treating the halls like it is their lobby and spend their whole day crossing from one flat to the next, bang, bang, bang.

50 times in one hour, seriouslessly! If someone moved out I suspect they would be extra happy as their next buddy or waster friend would be able to move in, as they seem to have been cute enough to get 3 flats next to each other in the first place.

How did they do this! Really! how did they manage to do this? get 3 flats to themselves and feel that they can own the place eventually.

Used to be a nice place to live, now it is a place to get angry about. Ignorant fcuks.
How the hell did these folks manage to swing a triple flat gain when there is so many people on the waiting list? I would love to know the answer to this.
This is definately a question which needs to be addressed.

On the way up to my flat one day this bint swung her door shut viciously, BANG, like an f,ing statement, and the friend I was with said 'what the hell'! And this was a new neighbour who had just moved in, I dread to see what they will be like when they feel comfortable. The OP's question is right on, what the hell is the problem with these people?

InFront

OP you said you don't have much contact with them, are they like that with one another? If so, maybe they've just lost consideration for their flatmates because they just forget that somebody else lives there sometimes.

I know that I bang keyboards quite loudly when I type (and I type with my index fingers). Sometimes it needs to be pointed out to me, like in the library or in a lecture. I'm pretty sure I bang cupboards shut as well, and I seem to have an embarrassing inability to laugh quietly or giggle, it just comes out loud.

It's not so much being deliberately inconsiderate as much as living in your own little bubble.

Why don't you just put a notice on the door,

"PLEASE DON'T SLAM THE DOOR!!!"

On the largest sheet of paper your printer will take, they might get the hint!

brianthebard

Encourage them to join a club or society. One where they can slam doors as much as they want so they won't feel the need when they get home.

mkennedy

thanks for the input.

I know door-slamming is relatively insignificant in the grand scale of things but I just thought it was worth casually posting here anyway for any interesting responses. it's still bloody fcuking annoying though tbh.

i'll probably just ask them nicely to quit it. don't think the screaming/hinge loosening suggestions would work somehow tbh
cheers.

mkennedy

thanks for the input.

I know door-slamming is relatively insignificant in the grand scale of things but I just thought it was worth casually posting here anyway for any interesting responses. it's still bloody fcuking annoying though tbh.

i'll probably just ask them nicely to quit it. don't think the screaming/hinge loosening suggestions would work somehow tbh :P
cheers.