What's going on?

LegacyUser

OK,

I'm doing the Lc this year, and we've all just come back from the Easter hols.

Anyway, something big has happened between the rest of my mates regarding our debs next months and I'm not being told the full schilling. I know bits of the story and it's about one of my mates who had planned to go with one of our female classmates months ago. Over the Easter he got a new gf.

Now this is where it's hazy. Apparantly, my female friend rang him the moment she found out giving out stink to him. They are now going to the debs together, but what's strange is that my male friend has now broken up with his gf, my classmates are being very distant but as I'm the only one who dosen't know whats happened I feel kinda like a loser.

This brings me to another topic, which is that I found it a near impossibility to socialise with any of my friends over the hols. They all met up at different times, but I was never invited anywhere by the others but always had to ask to go out with them instead. But, with this recent news, it seems that me being left out as made me become an outsider to the majority of the year.

Also, Im gay and only two of my classmates know this. I'm going to the debs on my own, mainly because I'd have to bring a girl and I really wouldn't want to do this as i would be lying to her about my sexuality. But this is very upsetting and I feel I'll be an outcast at the debs when it comes to the house party.

What should I do? Should I confront someone over my own personal problems or should I just leave it alone and let bygones be bygones.

muppetkiller

If you think those friends of yours are important to you then yes find out what the issue is..If not forget them ..you'll meet the best friends you'll ever meet in College anyway ..

AnonoBoy

Teenagers do this sort of thing all the time. It's rotten and it's horrible. It happened to me when I was about 15 - one of my friends decided I wasn't 'cool' and convinced the others to cast me aside. People are so easily swayed by the popular kids it's sickening. And I'm sorry to say this but if one or two of your classmates know you're gay then there's a good chance that others might know too. Well, hetero teenage males aren't too comfortable with their own sexuality so they very well may use yours as a reason to exclude you.

I don't know what the answer is for you this year but as muppetkiller stated college is where you'll meet your real friends. It's where you'll be accepted for who you are and hopefully not have to deal with the petty teenage politics of secondary school.

My advice for you is to hold your head up and go the debs by yourself if that's what you want to do. Be the bigger person and be true to yourself - they're the ones who are behaving like children and in time will hopefully come to realise that.

But remember, just because you take a girl to the debs it doesn't mean you're lying about your sexuality - I know plenty of straight guys who took female friends to the debs with absolutely no intention of trying it on with them.

I know what it's like to be an outsider and all I can say to you is that you should be strong and you will get through it - the year is almost over and then the rest of your life awaits you. Soon you'll look back at school as a distant memory and you'll hardly remember caring about the debs.

Good luck.

loismustdie

not been harsh but they don't seem to like you so don't run after them anymore and don't worry bout their problems. ask a girl who's a friend to go as friends, this is more normal than you think

aye

you dont have to be with the girl you brought to your debs. a guy in my year is gay and he brought a girl. and i know straight guys who broughts girls who were friends and didnt do anything with them.

i dunno why your "friends" are making you an outsider. even in teenage circles there is usually a reason, but i wouldnt be to worried about it. you'll make more friends over the summer and in college.

Red Alert

i brought a friend of mine to mine, who i had asked out ages ago and she said no. it was a great night. i think you should bring someone with you, girls are very happy in general to go to debs's, especially if their friends are going.

i don't know/think that your sexuality has anything to do with whatever has gone on with your mates. It may be time to expand who your mates are, or to examine are some of them not worth your time.

Try enjoy the debs if you head along