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On having no self esteem

  • 17-04-2007 5:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    <b>Or rather valuing yourself highly in many things, having high self esteem on good days in the company of close friends but not at work, going out et cetera or doing general day to day tasks like shopping and the whole process driving you to be depressed about it which doesn’t help.</b>



    <b>On actually talking to people or trying to build or worse sustain a relationship.</b>
    You may think its just as easy as just deciding to listen properly but that’s an extremely difficult task when there is so much going on in your head, mainly self-critical or negative thoughts which take away from your concentration and you end up not fully understanding what the person was saying or asking; thus giving an unsatisfactory answer.

    At the moment I only know one way of trying to fix this problem and I certainly couldn’t be arsed reading any more self help books to find out more ways. So that’s one truth. A second truth is that no matter how much I try to fool myself I am just as bad if not worse than ever before.(sometimes I tend to drift away from my problems and pretend there not there) A third truth is that I have never tried to tackle this problem properly before. This would require extreme self discipline unlike anything ive ever done before; looking after money for example, I got so into doing that because I wanted a car. Looking after money wasn’t 24/7 though. Now I want a life, probably not as much as I wanted a car though. I wish I wanted it as much as the car This is why the problem I have is a vicious circle. I need to want to have a life but yet my mind in its current state doesn’t really want me to desire to have **** all. Theres no killer instinct “ill do this or else”. Where is that and how do I get it?

    How do I decide that I want to have self esteem and a life and ill do anything to get it?


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  • #2
    Victor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,574 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    Is this meant to be part of another thread?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Its actually isn't.


  • #4
    Kell
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    88888888888 wrote:
    How do I decide that I want to have self esteem and a life and ill do anything to get it?

    I am picturing you rocking backwards and forwards, biting your fingernails and shaking. Sound close?

    What do you do? Turf the self help books. Pick up a golden pages and look for a therapist.

    Its not hard. Thinking that it is hard and that it requires some sort of monumental effort MAKES it hard, but it isnt. People do it everyday, just like sex, without requiring as much effort. You dont need a killer instinct either. You just need to want to make yourself better.

    I dont see you have any other route TBH.


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