Straight Guys

LegacyUser

22yo male, and still a bit curious. i've decided to meet up with another man for oral sex. the thing is im totally straight, and so is he, so he claims. I just get turned on by the thought of receiving oral sex from a man and vice-versa. The question is, have any other straight guys been intimate with other man, and if so, why, what circumstances, what did u think?

ferdi

eh, i'm no expert but i dont think you are totally staight. i like to think i am open minded and up for most anything but the thought of being involved in any sexual act with another guy horrifies me.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

the phrases 'i'm straight' and 'i'd like another man to suck my cock, and vice versa' do not mesh.

the nile is more than just a river in egypt

Miss Fluff

Unr2egi343100 wrote:

the thing is im totally straight,

Quit with the label obsession already and don't be so definite in labelling yourself as something as specific and definite as hetro when a sentence before that you said you're curious, you're clearly not sure imo. And just for the record, most of my gay mates suck cock, the straight ones don't....

LegacyUser

Mordeth wrote:

the phrases 'i'm straight' and 'i'd like another man to suck my cock, and vice versa' do not mesh.

Well then does the same go for women?
I'm a heterosexual woman in a stable relationship and seriously don't think I'm lesbian... but I do sometime fantasize about being with other women.

I'm not saying its the same for guys but whats the difference.

LegacyUser

not talking here on whether im gay or not, just wanna know if anyone has done this. i do admit im a bit curious but don't know if ile ever go ahead with it

WindSock

What does it matter, you are getting a blowjob, I thought Men love that. If you are not sure about the person thats doing it, then don't look down. I'm sure the sensation will be just as good.

padser

Unr2egi343100 wrote:

22yo male,

Unr2egi343100 wrote:

totally straight,

Unr2egi343100 wrote:

I just get turned on by the thought of receiving oral sex from a man

Any two of them can be correct....but not all three

So I guess you gotta make a decision about which one just isn't you

microgirl

OP - and the other couple of people wondering on the thread too - you seem to be labouring under the misapprehension that there are two - or perhaps three - categories of preference that one can fall into; Gay, Straight and 50/50 Bi.

There's not. It's a scale with an infinite number of divisions. Various research (not particularly scientific necessarily, but it doesn't really need to be for what matters) have indicated that almost no-one is 100% Straight *or* 100% Gay, and no-one at all is exactly 50/50 Bi. Those labels are erroneous and misleading, and I wouldn't bother trying to fit yourself into them at all.

You who you are, and just because you're curious, or slightly interested in certain actions with members of the same sex, does not mean you're bisexual. Similarly, just because you're not rampantly desiring full intercourse with and fantasising wildly about members of the same sex does not mean you're "totally straight". You might be 99% straight, or 98%, or 49%

Labels don't matter; respect for yourself and others does, and that's all.

Gosh, that's come across awfully evangelising, hasn't it?

Not meant to be, just been something I've thought about *a lot*, being a "totally straight" girl who goes breathless and weak at the knees at the thought of Scarlett Johannson

you sound confusing
maybe your bisexual
talk to the guy about it
maybe he might have more insight on his feeling towards the situation

davyjose

I think the OP is being very brave, exploring his sexuality in spite of the fact that it makes him nervous. I'm surprised at some of the more negative comments on here.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

what negative comments? if he is bi, then he's bi and that's all kinds of sparkling wonderful

but to say i ama totaly straight man, and then say I want to receive/give oral sex to another man...

that just doesn;'t make sense.

free2fly

It sounds to me that you are bi-curious. This doesn't mean that you are bi-sexual, just that you are curious about engaging in act with someone of the same sex even though you prefer women.

fricatus

davyjose wrote:

I think the OP is being very brave, exploring his sexuality in spite of the fact that it makes him nervous. I'm surprised at some of the more negative comments on here.

Nobody's attacking his sexuality or his actions, just the fact that he applies a label to himself ("totally straight") that is at odds entirely with what he's doing, i.e. exploring the not-exactly-totally-straight side of his sexuality.

The word "totally" by definition does not allow for any grey areas, which there certainly are here. If he had said "generally" or "largely", nobody would have uttered a word.

monkeyfudge

A mouth is a mouth.

padser

I don't think anyone attacked what he wants to do, but its wrong to describe oneself as totally straight but wanting sexual encounters with a man.


As a totally straight man, I can say with certainty that a totally straight man doesnt want his any sexual encounter with another man.

Anti

Unr2egi343100 wrote:

22yo male, and still a bit curious. i've decided to meet up with another man for oral sex. the thing is im totally straight, and so is he, so he claims. I just get turned on by the thought of receiving oral sex from a man and vice-versa. The question is, have any other straight guys been intimate with other man, and if so, why, what circumstances, what did u think?

No because a "straight" guy would not let another bloke play the pink oboe on him.

You are gay, get used to it, and accept it.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

monkeyfudge wrote:

A mouth is a mouth.

so... what about dolphins?

Nevyn

Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
Have a nice day.
Thaedydal

LegacyUser

Hey op,
Dont mind the other guys, I know what you mean.
I had the same thoughts throughout my late teens. Eventually crossed the bi-curious line when i was 18 and met with a guy i met in a chatroom.
We met up, had oral sex and 7 years on i havent fantasised about a man since.
I'm in a happy hetreosexual relationship for 3 years now and dont ever plan on changing that.
Can i also point out that i dont regret it one bit.

Ye say denial, i say curiosity explored, experienced and moved on.

Oryx

Unr2egi343100 wrote:

22yo male, and still a bit curious. i've decided to meet up with another man for oral sex. the thing is im totally straight..

I know everyone on here is arguing semantics about how you title yourself. If you edit that sentence to finish ....totally straight, so far... maybe people will understand you better.:)

Youve never had a gay experience, you want to try it. I cant see any harm in it as long as both you and your partner want the same things, and you clearly seem to. If you try it, at least then youll have a better idea of how you feel about your sexuality and can move on from there.

phantom_lord

Unr2egi343100 wrote:

i've decided to meet up with another man for oral sex. the thing is im totally straight, and so is he

o rly?


edit: are u meathman by any chance?

kraggy

Anti wrote:

No because a "straight" guy would not let another bloke play the pink oboe on him.

You are gay, get used to it, and accept it.

that's the most irresponsible post i've seen in a long time and the fact that it comes from a moderator is even more disturbing.

Absolutely nobody knows what this guy's sexuality is except for him. and thus, no one should attempt to put a label on him.

Microgirl was spot on when saying that the concept of 3 sexualities is nonsensical. sexualities cannot be divided into such a neat pile.

I believe there has been too much unhelpful and inconsiderate posting in this thread. The issue here is not whether or not he is gay, bi or whatever labels some people wish to use. he asked for advice from other people who may have gone through the same thought process and actually went through with it.

What he didn't want was to be slotted into some fictional category.

k.

Anti

kraggy wrote:

that's the most irresponsible post i've seen in a long time and the fact that it comes from a moderator is even more disturbing.

Absolutely nobody knows what this guy's sexuality is except for him. and thus, no one should attempt to put a label on him.

Microgirl was spot on when saying that the concept of 3 sexualities is nonsensical. sexualities cannot be divided into such a neat pile.

I believe there has been too much unhelpful and inconsiderate posting in this thread. The issue here is not whether or not he is gay, bi or whatever labels some people wish to use. he asked for advice from other people who may have gone through the same thought process and actually went through with it.

What he didn't want was to be slotted into some fictional category.

k.

Whoa now, chill out a second betsy. If you are going to have another fella give you a good gobbeling, I think you can class that as gay/homesexual. I never said there is anything wrong with that at all. I have no problem with his sexual preference, but I think he has to face facts that if him and another man who are both "straight" are meeting up for oral sex, the possibility of him being gay/homosexual are rather high.

kraggy

Anti wrote:

but I think he has to face facts that if him and another man who are both "straight" are meeting up for oral sex, the possibility of him being gay/homosexual are rather high.

1. So if a person has one homosexual encounter, that makes them gay?

2. Which is it Anti, the chances are high that he's gay, or did you mean it when you said to him "You are gay, get used to it, and accept it".

dudara

Stick to the original topic and stop bickering amongst yourselves. Last warning, or we will enforce some quiet time.

dudara

yellowdoor

I have to say I agree. Anti I thought that was quite an irresponsible answer to a question, and your reply to try and justify yourself was eually loathsome.

@original poster; I would not worry too much about labels. If you want to explore, explore!

SarahSassy

None of this bickering the helping the OP and some of the childish and crass (FAO ANTI) responses are insulting his intelligence.

OP, talk it through with a friend if you can but to be honest there is not a lot of the 'advice' on this post which could be of any use to you. Good luck.

LegacyUser

I (think) I know exactly what you mean.

I would probably see myself as somewhat bi myself, but could never see myself falling romantically for a man the way I could/have for a woman. Sex, sure, but it's "just sex." I have a distinct preference for women but don't deny an appreciation of men too on a purely physical level. This has been the case pretty much since my teens and I've never had a particular issue with it one way or the other.

anti- your comments of "you're gay, accept it" are just bollocks, the fallacy is in supposing that there has to be only 2 (or 3) varieties. microgirl has it exactly right, it's a spectrum and the idea everyone has to fall into strict categories is completely nonsensical (this is not to deny your own sexuality, about which i am sure you know best, but others may be different.)

LegacyUser

'I'm roughly the same age as you (the first poster), and I've tried that with another guy before. A year or two ago myself and a friend drifted into that conversation so we decided to try it out. It was a lot more enjoyable in my head than it was in real life... it didn't do much for me. Our friendship didn't change at all though. It's worth trying out if you're that curious.'

MikeHoncho

Just do it. If you like it then you will have to face up to the fact that you are bisexual (not a bad thing). If you dont like it then you are straight and can continue on as before. If its something you both want to do and consent to then there is no harm you are not hurting anybody.

To answer your question though. I am a straight man and I have not nore ever would I let another man anywhere near my meat and veg.

Icequeen

Are homosexual fantasies not a normal part of emotional and sexual development? OP everybody has one at one point or another, it doesn't make you gay/straight/bi to fantasize. Acting on these fantasies is a different story because only then will you find what you truly like and at least have an idea where your true orientation lies. No-one here can say whether you will like it or not but I can't see any harm in indulging yourself in what is essentially going to be a private act between you and this other guy and if you don't like it then no harm done, you can just move on to a straight relationship and put it all behind you. Just make sure you use protection.

stipey

Originally Posted by Unr2egi343100
22yo male,

Originally Posted by Unr2egi343100
totally straight,

Originally Posted by Unr2egi343100
I just get turned on by the thought of receiving oral sex from a man

Any two of them can be correct....but not all three

So I guess you gotta make a decision about which one just isn't you

He might not be 22!

For what its worth I don't think anybody can make assumptions about the OPs sexual orientation. I don't see why the fact that this instance relates to oral sex should make it any different to similar issues.

For example, I have never eaten sushi. I don't particularly like the smell of raw fish at the best of times but I would quite like to try some sushi at some point - and I'm sure I will in the near future.

If and when I try sushi I might like it or I might not. I might be violently sick. The point is that, just because I want to try it does not mean I already like it.

Just my 2 (possibly poorly explained) c

Aura

My boyfriend was with a few guys sexually in the past.
I’ve snogged some girls too. Nothing wrong with being curious and if it then feels like more than just curiosity, go with it.

Sexuality is not about falling neatly into predefined categories.

humanji

OP, just one point I was wondering about is, how do you know the other guy? There's nothing wrong with explore sexuality etc, but is this a friend or just some guy you got chatting to on the net etc? Just trying to say that you should be careful if it's a stranger and follow the old rules about meeting anyone new (meet in public place, try to get to know a little bit more about them face to face etc). My humanji sense tingles when strangers meet up for casual sexual relations even though mostly nothing bad happens.

edit: oh and then there's the flip of the coin, that if it is a friend of yours then it is possible that if it doesn't turn out well, then it could damage your friendship.