Dating - Next move

LegacyUser

After a second date (drinks and dinner) that went considerably well, I sent this girl a text two days later to say I really enjoyed the evening with some small talk. No reply.

We had talked a bit on the phone and texted previous to our meeting. I'm just curious to know how others would play the next move. We also had arranged to meet again - arranging the day but nothing set in stone.

Shall I just leave the ball in her court? Thoughts please.

Beruthiel

PHONE her up and arrange a second date.

AthAnRi

Beruthiel wrote:

PHONE her up and arrange a second date.

Agreed. Call call call. Txts are a waste of time. If you want an answer then call and ask the question.

JungleBunny

gettinghopesup wrote:

I sent this girl a text two days later to say I really enjoyed the evening with some small talk. No reply.

WHY did you wait 2 days to tell her you had a good evening???
If you did that to me I'd ignore you too!
Honestly, this whole "wait a few days before you contact a girl" is completely wrong. If you guys got on well, tell her so the next day. Don't wait. She probably thought that you were not interested if you left it that long.

Agree with the others... call her!

melekalikimaka

yeah usually, i would send a text once i get home saying i had a good time/hope you got home safe blabla, and throw in 'loveto do it again' or something to that effect. generally its up to the lad to arrange the first few dates imo.

geuro

curses to text messages, use the phone OP!!

BaZmO*

JungleBunny wrote:

Honestly, this whole "wait a few days before you contact a girl" is completely wrong.

That's only applied to when you've just met a girl in a bar and got her number. It's quite normal to wait a couple of days to either text or ring her. But the OP waiting 2 days to text a girl that he'd been out on a second date (including dinner!!) is just strange. She obviously thinks that you're not interested.

As melekalikimaka has said I'd always send a girl a text when I got home regardless of how the date went just to see if she got home ok. And more often than not I'd semd one the next day asking, "How's the hangover?" or something like that.

Your best bet is to salvage the situation by calling her as soon as you can and stop playing childish and unnecessary mind games.

Anti

Beruthiel wrote:

PHONE her up and arrange a second date.

Dont break man, you have done your bit. Let her come to you now.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the responses - I agree with everyone, a call is due.

But I can't see how being frank with a message regarding Saturday night on Monday morning is playing mind games... In my opinion, not responding to a text, is either playing games or not interested.

Beruthiel

gettinghopesup wrote:

In my opinion, not responding to a text, is either playing games or not interested.

If you're 14.

aye

Anti wrote:

Dont break man, you have done your bit. Let her come to you now.

I'm afraid you havent done your bit. you didnt make contact after a second date with dinner. women would expect some contact to be made within about 24 hours, from my experiences anyway.

you can salvage this by calling and saying you were busy or some crap. but i wouldnt wait around for her to text you at this stage. use the ringing function on your mobile, it what they were originally intended for anyway.

BaZmO*

gettinghopesup wrote:

But I can't see how being frank with a message regarding Saturday night on Monday morning is playing mind games...

No need to be someone else just be yourself. Maybe she doesn't like Frank....

Anyway, you've a lot to learn about women my friend if you think it's ok to go out on a second date and then to wait a couple of days to tel her that you had a good time. It doesn't work that way. As has been said already, the proper etiquette for someone in your postion was to either send her a message that night when you got home or at the very least phone or text her the next day.

It's not the end of the world though, just tell her you had no credit on the Sunday or something.