What's going on?

LegacyUser

Right.... so I met this girl last weekend, and we txted a bit over the last few days and were getting on great - she's like me in that she's very upfront and honest and doesn't do games.. which is very refreshing incidentially! - so all good!

Anyway, on Saturday we spent the whole day txting back and forth, then chatted for an hour or so and had such a laugh that we decided we should meet up again (seeing as the weather was fabulous anyway).

So we did and had a great evening. Went for a walk, had a bit to eat and basically just got on really really well. At one point she asked "so would you do this again..?" to which I replied "of course I would" (sincerely too) so that was fine. The evening ended with a snog and we said we'd talk later. I got home and txted her before I went to bed to say "thanks for a really nice evening and I hope we can do it again soon" - her reply was "same here. Enjoyed myself Sweet dreams x"

So still all good...

Anyway, yesterday I was out and about most of the day but txted her in the afternoon just to say hi. (Now before you all say that I was being too keen, bear in mind that we both agreed that things like the whole socially expected "cooling off period" after a date drives us mad.. if you like someone then why leave them guessing? Not saying propose either, but ye get the idea). Anyway, she txted back and i replied and then nothing for a few hours.. but that was grand. I was busy anyway and I know she had stuff to do too so no worries.

Saw her then online last night so messaged her and got a reply saying she was on her way out (also cool) and "talk again" - then offline. Hmm.. bit odd, considering ya couldn't shut us up on Saturday but shee's probably just rushing out I thought.

So I thought no more about it until I logged on before going to bed to check mails (and Boards of couse ) and she was on again. Said hi.. this time no reply at all and about 20 mins later or so she was gone again.

It just seems odd that we could go from txting/talking all day saturday and having a (I thought) lovely evening together and having great craic, to this kinda cold "one line answer"/distant thing.


Soo... what ye reckon? Did she change her mind in the 12 hours between saturday night and sunday afternoon, or did she maybe have another date last night that went better, but - despite all the talk about honesty and hating being messed aout - hasn't the courage/decency to come clean about it?

seamus

I think you're giving it too much thought.

Plenty of times, I've gone off and left my machine on, only to come back hours later and see a message there from someone who's gone offline ages ago.

I've also set myself as "offline" after telling someone I'm heading off - I may not be going right then, but I would have something small to do (check a bus time or something) before going, so an IM would just make me late.

It's also possible that she did go offline, came back, switched her machine on, went downstairs, came back 20 minutes after getting your message, but you were gone to bed.

So stop overanalysing it. Wait for her to text you today. If she has completely switched off, then that's it. Unfortunate, but at least only a small amount of time has been wasted. If she's interested she'll contact you, as the ball is firmly in her court. However much people talk about wanting to avoid playing games, nobody likes the guy/girl who texts you every ten minutes to see where you are or ask what you're doing.

Petey2006

It might have been someone using her computer. MSN and those programs usually boot up automatically every time you turn the computer on, so it may not have been her online at all. That's the danger with MSN and texting and all this malarkay. Things can be taken the complete wrong way. I wouldn't look too much into it if I were you.

Miss Fluff

Petey2006 wrote:

It might have been someone using her computer. MSN and those programs usually boot up automatically every time you turn the computer on, so it may not have been her online at all. That's the danger with MSN and texting and all this malarkay. Things can be taken the complete wrong way. I wouldn't look too much into it if I were you.

Exactly, you got on really well and were upfront with one another so stop over-analysing it or you will ruin it for yourself before it has even had a chance to begin!

aye

i'd leave it for her to text you next, and i think she will.
but as Petey2006 says, MSN, texting, emails, are all a bit dodgy cos things get taken the wrong way. "i texted her but she didnt text back for a while" - she could have been driving, in a mates house, in the gym, anything where the phone is ignored.
next time you want to contact her call her, and talk. text and all that is just causes headaches like this one.

So what happened?

davyjose

Sounds like you were haunting her, mate - give it a bit of space. You'll be grand. And like the others said - relax, don't over-analyze!

LegacyUser

Slow down dude! You're getting too clingy and thinking about her too much for such an early stage.
It's probably freaking her out that you're texting her so much so quickly.
Nobody wants to jump too fast into a relationship. My ex broke up with me recently because of this, it was too much too quickly and it wasn't much fun near the end of the relationship.

Just chill and don't be txting her every single waking moment of every day, give her some space and time to herself. Go out with your friends and let her go out with hers, if you're both out then see what happens.

You could scare her off if you start 'stalking' her so early on.