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No Sex

  • 13-04-2007 4:53pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm with my boyfriend five years.
    we only have sex once a week or once every two weeks.
    this used to really bother me as I seem more interested than him but now I don't even bother to try either!
    how can we get into a habit of 2/3 times a week which seems more normal?

    Thanks


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  • #2
    _Kaiser_
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,088 ✭✭✭✭_Kaiser_


    Not being smart about it, but have you tried talking to him about why he's apparently gone off sex? What does he say when you suggest it/try? How's your relationship otherwise?


  • #3
    kleefarr
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,744 ✭✭✭kleefarr


    One word!

    Variety! ;)


  • #4
    Ruu_Old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36,634 ✭✭✭✭Ruu_Old


    Have a chat with him if you haven't already. Maybe go away for a weekend to somewhere nice and spice things up or do something different in your own home like dress up, sex games, etc. You'll be wondering (hopefully both of you) why you don't do it more often. I think you just need to mix it up a little. Good luck.


  • #5
    stovelid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    Maybe once a week is normal to him? There is no set rule about how often you are supposed to want sex. Bring it up with him and discuss it to see if this is the case.


  • #6
    Isobel
    Closed Accounts Posts: 42 ✭Isobel


    Talk to him, ask him why, If you like him then talk to him about it, he's probably your first and you're probably his too, you start it, you make sex happen and I swear he'll go along with it. he's probably just nervious honey


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  • #7
    Galadriel
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,292 ✭✭✭Galadriel


    If you like him then talk to him about it

    The OP said she is with her boyfriend 5 years, I reckon she likes him at this stage?

    Things tend to go a bit stale after awhile if you let them (we are all guilty of that), only you can change it, either speak to him about it or just do something about..something spontaneous; whisk him away for the weekend, ask him if theres anything you would like him to do and vice versa, you have nothing to lose.
    probably your first

    How did you figure that one out? abit patronizing, how can you assume because her sex life with her boyfriend has become stale after FIVE years that he is her first?!


  • #8
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I'm assuming in earlier times in the relationship you had sex more frequently

    The sex you’re having now, is it good? Are you feeling satisfied?
    Maybe he believes in quality not quantity?
    Women are always going to want fireworks but you have to be communicative towards your partner about your needs and take his into account also

    Life in general can interfere with a person's sex drive also so take the advice given here and get away for the weekend
    Use variety to heat thing's up
    Try a different approach towards sex in general
    This happens to a lot of couples and it usually happens at a few different stages in a marriage/long term relationship so be prepared


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