Best friend issues (too old of this)

LegacyUser

Am incensed as to how rude some people are. I can’t even call these people just “people” as I am supposed to know them better than that. They are supposed to be my so called friends.

I do my best to keep in contact with everyone. People have things going on in their lives, I know that. I myself had issues going and as a result couldn’t go out as often the past month and a half say. If friends text up to meet but I cant, I always text or phone back saying why and thanks for the invite and all that, and try to make other plans. I guess what I’m saying in a nut shell is that I make an effort.

Seems now one of my best friends is ignoring me. The others that I call friends, I would be a little annoyed about them not replying/ringing/texting, but her not replying is a total different kettle of fish altogether.

Maybe we are just growing apart (we are both 30 – friends for over 10 years-see it can happen at anytime, any age). I’ve got a boyfriend – she doesn’t have one (as far as I know-she could have-hence weird behaviour). I want to point out that I never ever “dropped” her as you could put it, when I started going out with him. I always was always asking her to come out etc. At the beginning she would come out – but these days she rarely will. Her attitude towards me has changed and I just don’t know what is going on. We used to have such a laugh. I feel I have no choice now, after another ignored message, but to stop being friends with her. She seems happy otherwise – she is a real friendly person and has loads of friends herself-people warm to her very quickly.

I, on the other hand, find it hard to make friends. I have say 3 friends (including herself) that I would count as my best friends (not including my partner-ahhhhhh). I don’t speak to them or see them on a daily or even weekly basis (one lives abroad), but I know they are always there for me. After that I don’t really “know” anyone else. I know people, if you know what I mean.

When it comes to going out, I would be stretched to find actual mates to go out with. Don’t know at this stage of my life how easy it would be to make new friends.

Any one any advice?

Beruthiel

My advice would be, if she's your friend for 10 years, would you not just talk to her and ask what's up?

Mighty_Mouse

1. talk with her
2. relax a bit. friendships arent meant to be hard work. Some of my best mates I dont hear from for a couple of months.