Lasting longer issue

LegacyUser

Been with my girlfriend 6 months and everythings great we love each other and can get enough of one another,But Latly i just cant seem to last any considerable amout of time when we are having sex.Its really worrying me an i think its going to keep happening i dont no what to do!

LegacyUser

My bf's the same as you.

In fact, sometimes me just sitting down onto him can make him cum.

Our answer:- Durex Performa (its called something like that!)
These condoms have a little bit of gel in their tips (sorry, can't remem the name of the substance), but it slightly numbs the penis so you last longer.

It defo works for us & many an enjoyable night we've had as a result.

He hasn't been able to describe to me exactly what it feels like, but he assures me he can still feel everything, he's just not as likely to cum so quickly.

best of luck, give them a try.

Miss Fluff

How long are you lasting exactly?

LegacyUser

'Thanks but im using them aswell and always have been but its just the past week im only able last about 3 mins at best i dont no whats wrong with me i cant stop worrying about losing her because of this.'

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About an hour before you 'go to bed' send him off for a quick hand shandy - better still give him one yourself.

I have to say, those Durex Performa, I don't like them. I lost an erection because of them, numbed penis you say? I didn't even know the thing was there, couldn't feel a damn thing, and ended up on a flop.:mad:

Try a decent long bout of foreplay, it means you can get 'up to speed' with him, sex is more than about the penetration. Keep tissues handy, if he orgasms during foreplay have a quick clean up, then go on. You'd be surprised how quickly he gets another erection, and that one will last significantly longer.

edit / sorry, I actually directed that at the second poster instead of the OP.

Same thing OP, take your time with the foreplay.

PeakOutput

practice practice practice

the more "shandys" he has a day the more likely he is going to be able to last longer and get ready for action again sooner (ie straight away)

maybe if you yourself help him out during foreplay get the first quick orgasm for him out of the way then work him back up and he will last alot longer the second time


*should prob go unreg for these type of things i never know who knows me but fk it*

edit; sorry kinda responded to the second poster but the same applies op practice and get your girl to sort you out threw more than penetration

Beruthiel

Slightproblem wrote:

i cant stop worrying about losing her because of this.'

Worrying will only make things worse.
I can't see how you would loose your g/f over this if you start practicing the art of oral sex, get those skills down and she will be one happy woman.

matt-dublin

shandy in the morning should set him up for a longer session in the evening.

Its quite possible he's masturbating less now as his sex life has expanded.

LegacyUser

Normally we are great together, but i sorta have slight ocd as well as anxiety issues so if something worries me it could take weeks for me to stop worrying about it,so what i dont get is how can i be ok one week and a disastor the next.

AnonoBoy

Could be any number of things, stress, tiredness etc. causing it.

The main thing to remember is that it's only temporary. You've lasted longer before and you will do again!

I go with what everyone has been saying - get her to help you orgasm during foreplay and then work up to another one - you'll last longer for sure second time around.

Also look into different positions - are you using Missionary mostly? That's the hardest position to last in. Try her on top instead - much less stress on you and you'll be able to just lie back and enjoy while she is in control.

NutJob

Exercise as well as the hand shandys and oral sex.

I found the physically fitter i was the longer the events lasted.
Plus it helps with stresses/anxieties and general energy levels.

ntlbell

seansouth wrote:

I have to say, those Durex Performa, I don't like them. I lost an erection because of them, numbed penis you say? I didn't even know the thing was there, couldn't feel a damn thing, and ended up on a flop.:mad:
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Comical stuff.

I've found over the years maggy thatcher to be one of the best cures.

Seriously.

Anti

Slightproblem wrote:

'Thanks but im using them aswell and always have been but its just the past week im only able last about 3 mins at best i dont no whats wrong with me i cant stop worrying about losing her because of this.'

She's a lucky girl, im lucky if i last 20 seconds...

aye

you can build up how long you can last by exercising your kegel muscle. essentially this is the muscle that you use to stop going for a piss half way through and is the same muscle you use to hold back from ejaculating.

read this:
http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html

j0e

A trick I have is to play music in the background, when you feel the point of no return approaching start concentrating on the music and sing along in ure head, just dont leave it too late to the point of no return