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Is Sex Life Going Dry?

  • 07-04-2007 4:06pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    First time posting here, but I have a question to put forward to you guys about sex lives in general really. I have been with my partner for over two years, and we're in a long distance relationship. Recently I've found things have been going a bit non existent sexually, we used to have phone sex and cybersex things like that. But we don't do either lately. When we see each other things are great though! Well, majority of times.

    I have the higher sex drive and I am rather insecure and I think that if she doesnt want anything sexual with me, that she's loosing interest. However, she of course reassures me that this is not the case!

    But I'm hard to convince, and try to be understanding and not pressurising, but sometimes I just want her to give me a break too. I'm not about to spout about needs and all that, but I feel that if we're not together sexually from time to time whether its over the phone or whatever, that what we have is little more than a friendship?

    My questions are

    1) Does everyone go through a 'dry' patch in their sex lives with a long term partner? Whether they're geographically close or not?

    2) In all relationships, is there one partner who has a higher sex drive?

    3) Is there anyone else in a LDR who has experienced this before?


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  • #2
    chris_oc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 230 ✭✭chris_oc


    DryPatch?0965 wrote:
    1) Does everyone go through a 'dry' patch in their sex lives with a long term partner? Whether they're geographically close or not?

    2) In all relationships, is there one partner who has a higher sex drive?

    3) Is there anyone else in a LDR who has experienced this before?
    1)if everythins fine when yee meet up its grand!just because ur gf doesnt want to have phonesex or cybersex doesnt mean that shes bored or loosing interest...wake up man,its phone/cybersex its not for everyone you know!?;) some people are just not into it
    2)there definaty is..at the start you wouldnt notice it too much,id say,but when the hype and new love phase ends its usually clear who has the higher sexdrive,and also its the guy,i know who it is in my case anyways:p
    3)ya,done it for a while,didnt really work out ta be honest,but thats just me i guess,if ur prepared to put in the time and effort and if you think shes worth it then go for it man;)


  • #3
    Smiley012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 304 ✭✭Smiley012


    Yeah I think there always is one partner who has the higher sex drive, normally the guy I think!

    Or maybe I'm just generalising!

    But you do need to come to some kind of agreement if its getting serious, as to what is an acceptable uhhh 'amount' of sex that you guys should have.

    Maybe encourage her to initiate it, like, take turns in initiating!

    Because I think it's important to have a healthy sex life in order to have a healthy relationship, so she needs to understand that too!

    Then again, maybe try being all sweet and romantic and spontaneous! Always a turn on!


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