a bit stakerish

LegacyUser

This post comes across as a bit stakerish.

About 3 weeks ago I was out on a college night and I notice this girl looking over in my direction and smiling but being the shy guy I am I didnt act on these signs. Now after this I was off for a week and then I didnt head out the week after and I had forgotten about her.
Until this week when I went up to the gym to talk one of the lads from the soccer team and I saw her up there and she was looking over in my direction. Now this might be wishful thinking and she was just looking at some beside me.

Then that night I saw her again out in a fast-food restaurant but this time I saw her chatting with this guy which seem to be her boyfriend. They werent kissing or anything but it just looked like they where together, I cant really remember I was bit drunk at the time.

After this I came to the assumption that she was taken and to forget about her. Yesterday I was lying outside the su on the grass when I saw her and who I assume is her boyfriend walk into su then I saw her walk out and walk behind me. Then about 15mins later I went get a ball out of one of my mates bags and when I turn around I saw that she was sitting right behind me. She was looking at me when I turned around and then when I left.

I found that we know someone in common but we dont really know each other.

Now I that I am reading WAY too much into this and the best thing is just to start up a conversation with her and find out if she does have a boyfriend or not.

Sorry I just had to post this to get this off my chest and to get people views on how childish I am being.

Ruu_Old

Maybe you should just try and talk to her. You don't need to find out anything if you don't want like you noticed her around, introduce yourself and what classes you are taking or whatever. All the times seeing her and you never said anything at all?

bigkev49-2

Go for it mate. Nothing too full on, just say "Hi" and take it from there.

I learned the hard way last year that missed oppurtunites and hesitation in matters like this are truly terrible things.

de5p0i1er

Say hello and introduce yourself, explane that you always bump into her and just wanted to break the ice, take it from there.

Wibbs

Kildish wrote:

Now I that I am reading WAY too much into this

Only slightly.......

the best thing is just to start up a conversation with her and find out if she does have a boyfriend or not.

And you need whose advice?

rebel.ranter

It could be just a series of complete coincidences but hey does it matter? By the sounds of it you want it to be a bit more than coincidence. Go on and talk to her, even if you have to use your mutual friend to get things started. What's the worst thing that can happen? She might end up being someone you just say "hi" to or maybe she could become something more.
Good luck.

rebel.ranter

It could be just a seriesof complete coincidences but hey does it matter? By the sounds of it you want it to be a bit more than coincidence. Go on and talk to her, even if you have to use your mutual friend to get things started. What's the worst thing that can happen? She might end up being someone you just say "hi" to or maybe she could become something more.
Good luck.

NeMiSiS

Just say... "Hello" .. no big deal..
TK

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies.

But even tho I think I will be ok talking to her I just get scared just starting up the conversation. Like it has happened to me so many times that im just too scared to start up a conversation and when girls start up a conversation with me I will talk to them like we have been best mates for year unless im completely uninterested in her. I think im scared that if I did start up a conversation that she would just look at me and then walk way and make me feel like a tool. I just need to take the plunge.

Oh I left out the stakerish bit, I found her on bebo and iv been looking at all of her photos and reading her comments. When I think about I feel like a stalker nearly because I dont even know this girl and yet I what to know what she is at.

LegacyUser

'She is stunning looking girl well in my eyes anyway and I think I am a good looking guy. I also have high standards should I drop them and get experience with other girls to try and get my confidence up? Or am I just being stupid?

Sorry if I came across as insensitive.'

timmy69

Next time you see her, go up to her and say "are you stalking me, cause if ya are i change my mind about being friends with ya", in a playful manner with an evil grin, you can add something situational after "are u stalking me" if that makes more sense and if she has a good sense of humor she'll laugh and theres your conversation. If she doesnt, do u really wanna be with her?

Always be confident, and humor will make her comfortable. Control your obsession for her and dont lose that composure or she'll run for the hills, dont become a wuss bag and lower your status.

Chucky the tree

Whatever you do, do not follow any of timmy's advice.


Its terrible.

timmy69

Chucky the tree wrote:

Whatever you do, do not follow any of timmy's advice.


Its terrible.

Used sucessfully for a number of years my friend, looks like you could use some of this advice, shes a stunning girl, who can be with pretty much any guy she wants, hes gotta be different and display personality. First impressions are meant for sparking attraction not your usual, hi, how u doin? im boring and like every other guy, I need you to fullfill my sorry life!!

If it seems too much, you could use that in a bit more subtle way. Playful manner and the smile is the key and dont let your body language give u away.

Chucky the tree

Used successfully in conjunction with Ryhpnol i'd say.


Going up to a girl you have never met and calling her a stalker is not a smart idea.

Shiva

Chucky the tree wrote:

Used successfully in conjunction with Ryhpnol i'd say.


Going up to a girl you have never met and calling her a stalker is not a smart idea.

I think you missed the part about the humour and the glint in the eye.

Timmy is right. An unusual and humorous approach will be far more effective than the usual "Umm, Hi you look nice, Whats your name ?" crap she's probably heard a million times.

Granted it won't work every single time ( lets face it - what does ? ), but its original, and if done properly, the user comes off as being funny and confident.
And that, my friend, usually creates attraction.

timmy69

Shiva wrote:

I think you missed the part about the humour and the glint in the eye.

Timmy is right. An unusual and humorous approach will be far more effective than the usual "Umm, Hi you look nice, Whats your name ?" crap she's probably heard a million times.

Granted it won't work every single time ( lets face it - what does ? ), but its original, and if done properly, the user comes off as being funny and confident.
And that, my friend, usually creates attraction.

Thank you Shiva! you obviously know your stuff well if it doesnt work, the hi, whats your name? would work u nicely into the friend zone (girls asses the man on the first meeting on if he'll be bf material), ofcourse ull get to the usual chit chat, but notice, she'll ask first

And about that line working every time, its not a general pick-up line, its a situational line, he's said they have seen each other many times, so shes already familiar with him in her environment, so its definitely not gonna bomb! I can go as far as saying ull be in there sooner dude!

Being done properly is major key! dont act like a jerk or an A*hole, body language and smile is important! (this stuff is hard to explain) its kinda like teasing someone in a loving way!

Heres a lil more friendly version Kildish: "are u stalking me or do u come here a lot?" obviously change that according to the location (DUH), but note i would have still used the earlier one, cause its funnier!

I wanted to add a quote here for Kildish "Believing is seeing and not the other way around"

PeakOutput

Kildish wrote:

'She is stunning looking girl well in my eyes anyway and I think I am a good looking guy. I also have high standards should I drop them and get experience with other girls to try and get my confidence up? Or am I just being stupid?

Sorry if I came across as insensitive.'

you are just being stupid i think......just if you see a girl smiling at you automatic reaction should be "hi" wit ha similar smile...easier said then done but how much effort is it really going to take for you to say hi to her next time she is in your vicinity......and guess what she wont think "god this guy is so cumin onto me" shell just think ur friendly