Love

Carsinian Thau

Is it really true that "you can't love someone until you love yourself"?
Because, for me at least, that defies logic. If the emotion in itself is directed in different directions then it shouldn't matter what happens at one end and speaking from personal experience, it doesn't seem very likely (I don't really like me but I love my girlfriend).

Zillah

I thought that it was that you couldn't be loved unless you love yourself?

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

you're at nothing asking is something is really true in a philosophy forum... best head on over to the science forum, and if they've got nothing to say there.. wiat 50-60 years until neuroscience has a firm grip on what's going on with the brain.. then ask someone.

Kell

Carsinian Thau wrote:

Is it really true that "you can't love someone until you love yourself"?

Yes. Remove emotion and think logically for a moment. If you cant accept your own foibles and really love yourself for what you are, how can you expect not to project any insecurities or foibles onto your partner?

This is what it means. Its a fact that love difficulties arise when you project an insecurity onto your partner or are too stupid to communicate a problem. Sometimes, you can be that stupid that you dont actually know you have a problem. If you love yourself, and I mean unconditionally, then you can start giving unconditional love to someone else and not before.

K-

humbert

Em, it's a Dr. Phil worthy oversimplification. Don't look for life lessons in trite aphorisms!

Bottle_of_Smoke

Zillah wrote:

I thought that it was that you couldn't be loved unless you love yourself?

was thinking this myself