My flat mates friend

LegacyUser

Un-reg for this, just incase.

Basically my house mates friend has been coming around here a bit (as friends do) and i really like the girl, she's got a great charater always have a laugh with her when she's here. There's been a few nites where we sat up late chatting about college, where we come from etc or watching a movie till the small hrs.

I've started to quite like her and i think she's single as well at the moment

I'm not really sure where im getting at now...

I'd like to be more than friends with her only now might not be a great time, im quite a committed person with regards to college. My course takes up a lot of my time and exams are coming up shortly.

I'm not really a star at chatting up or "scoring" girls so im in a bit of a grey area as to what i should do.

I hope someone can see where im trying to get at cause i cant just manage to type it out clearly

syberspud

Think about it logically. First thing you must do is find out if she's single - you could just ask her straight up (what I'd do), otherwise ask one of her friends (not my advice). If she is, make your move!!! Invite her out with you. Lunch, a walk, for a pint or just chilling in yer gaf, whatever. Make it informal, very informal so you'll be relaxed. You really just wanna upgrade the buzz you had with her those times she was around in your place. Play it cool my friend. Good luck.

judas101

go for it man!

dr.bollocko

ShouldI wrote:

I'd like to be more than friends with her only now might not be a great time, im quite a committed person with regards to college. My course takes up a lot of my time and exams are coming up shortly.

My good man, if university is not the time to try it on with lots of women then when the hell IS the right time?
Get your priorities straight! Course work? You can do that during the summer.
Now women, you cant put that off...

little lady

You like her, you seem to get on with each other, so, if she’s single ask her out.

You are in college so there has to be loads of social events that you can ask her to or just simple ask her to go for a drink or for dinner.

Cancer-chick

Id have to agree with Bollocko on this one mate !

Kell

ShouldI wrote:

I'm not really a star at chatting up or "scoring" girls so im in a bit of a grey area as to what i should do.

You dont have to be. She sounds v relaxed in your company so why not just ask her out for <insert date of choice here> and see how it goes? You dont have to find out if she is attached. She'll tell you once you have asked.

To extend Bollocko's thinking on this one- pretty soon you'll have to pay girls that age to do things that she'll give up freely.

K-

TinCool

If she's sitting in chatting about stuff and watching DVD's with you till the small hours and hasn't brought up the "me and my boyfriend..." in conversation then I think you'll find she's single. From my own observations women seem to have a knack of throwing in references to their boy friends in to conversations to put off any other suspecting guys.

Good luck with it anyways.

TC.

Kell

TinCool wrote:

From my own observations women seem to have a knack of throwing in references to their boy friends in to conversations to put off any other suspecting guys.

Unless they are they are the evil cóck teasing types who get some strange kick out of stringing men along. There are quite a few of those out there too.

K-

Stabshauptmann

ShouldI wrote:

I'm not really a star at chatting up or "scoring" girls so im in a bit of a grey area as to what i should do.

Easiest one is the DVD scenario since you're already doing that. Fix it so its just the two of you, throw in some wine (any alcohol) to give you the old dutch courage and then do exactly as you've seen on TV

Sit very close, preferably with hugs/tickling etc.
Be funny, an odd innuendo but nothing vulgar (so far you havent crossed over the friend line) then hold eye contact for a prolonged pause, she'll give you a subtle signal one way or the other

[edit]Obviously Im talking about over the course of the night, dont try and accomplish all that in 30 seconds

MojoMaker

Congratulations, you are now her friend.

LegacyUser

'Well my flat mate and her friend are both gone away for a few days, im at home in the country for a bit. So far i haven't plucked up the courage yet, only seen her once since i posted, and i had not read replies at that stage.
I like some of the idea's, thanks.

I think it's imposible to get just the 2 of us watching a dvd, to many floating about the house on any given night. Was reading another thread, first date.....help one, comedy club sounds like fun. Always laughing when she's around so seems like a good plan. That or cinema but i dont fancy that as what could be a 1st date.

Thanks for the advice

Mojomaker: lets hope not '

LegacyUser

'Quick update/

Walked her home friday nite, was all set to ask her out, she asked me in for a drink. Few awkward moments, asked if she was doing anything sat,she asked me did i want to go out with her...

Kissed a bit before i went home, met her out sat nite and spent all day with her today as well. Everything went pretty well in the end now see what comes of it.'