Problem with an ex

rferguson

I have a problem with an ex from about 2 years ago.

we were going out and she treated me like crap and broke up with me. i was still in love with her though. it took me a while to get over her.

the problem now is. she had seen me a few months ago and realised that i was doing very well for myself. new car... new everything. she contacted me the next day for a chat and she invited me up to her place. we ended up sleeping together and had a fling for about a month (maybe not even).

I had made it clear from the start that it was only a casual thing as i didnt want to get back with her. I had to call it a day because i wanted to start dating women and i wouldnt date 2 woman at once.

Since then i now have a girlfriend who i am mad about and she is mad about me. the problem is the ex is ringing me between 5 and 10 times aday. but she goes directly into my voicemail becuase she knows i wont answer and leaves messages allday. she has lied about my friends talkinig to her and has made up ridiculious(sp) story about people that she claims are my friedns, when i never heard of these people and they live in different countys, she claimed she was pregnant and it was mine. I had her do a test and go to doctor and have a letter so it could be proven but excuses excuses.... she wasnt pregnant. she claims that my girlfirend is spreading rumours about me.She doesnt even know the girl......

what can i do besides change my number. its a work phone and everyone has that number to contact me.


she is putting strain on my relationship with my girlfriend. i never reply to any of her messages or voicemails. but i do tell my gf everything she is saying. there is no point hiding it as it is all lies.

what do i do?

thanks

Elphaba

Get her number blocked from calling you. Her mobile and her house/work/any other number you know she uses. Of course she can always use another phone but at least it's something. I had to get it done cos of an ex a couple of weeks ago and Meteor did it no prob, You just have to fax them or send a letter stating your request. And it's free.

Femelade

I am a big fan of ignoring someone until they just go away..which she will eventually do if you just ignore her for long enough.
You could also get in contact with your mobile provider, is there wa way that they can block certain incoming calls?
It is good that you are being honest with your girlfriend about all this though, this ex is obviously trying to break ye up. dont give her the satisfaction.

ARGINITE

A quick trip to the guards and get them to have a word with her may be?

rferguson

the problem is her house number is ex directory so i dont know that one. she tends to call me on that one alot. ther mobile i should have no probelm blocking

NutJob

rferguson wrote:

the problem is her house number is ex directory so i dont know that one. she tends to call me on that one alot. ther mobile i should have no probelm blocking

A report of abuse to a telco wont make any difference if its ex-directory or not it can still be blocked of you provide information on when you recieved the voicemails.

missmatty

Don't answer a blocked/private no. I had a similar but much less serious problem lately and now my reasoning is not to answer those calls. If anyone wants me badly enough they can leave a message.

Btw getting the private number blocked sounds like a great idea, didn't know you could do that

Dragan

It's not possible for telco's to block a number from calling you.

If you want to take any action then you need to report nuisance calls to the gardai and let them handle it.

r3nu4l

Also maybe email all of your friends and family and let them know that this person is causing problems for you and that you are reporting her behaviour to the gardaí.

That way, if she starts calling/talking to them and trying to spread lies about you, people will know that it's psycho stalking behaviour and likely ignore her completely.

rferguson

missmatty wrote:

Don't answer a blocked/private no. I had a similar but much less serious problem lately and now my reasoning is not to answer those calls. If anyone wants me badly enough they can leave a message.

Btw getting the private number blocked sounds like a great idea, didn't know you could do that

the prob is she goes directly to my voicemaio now because she knows i wont answer.

i forgot to add that she arrived t my house with a 3 page letter explaining how she felt for me. luckaly she just put it through the letterbox

Kell

rferguson wrote:

the prob is she goes directly to my voicemaio now because she knows i wont answer.

Clever girl. Inserts a 5 after the prefix. I always like ingenuity.

Anyways- CALL THE COPS. YOU ARE DEALING WITH A PSYCHO BUNNY BOILING NUTTER OF AN EX. SHOW HER NO SYMPATHY WHATSOEVER.

K-

boffin

Could you not send her a text message saying that if she contacts you again then you will contact the gardai. This is presuming that it hasn't been going on to long!! And if she does contact you again then head straight down to your local garda station. A phone call or visit from the gardai might be the shock into reality she needs.

Life's too short to have to deal with that sort of crazyness!!

rferguson

boffin wrote:

Could you not send her a text message saying that if she contacts you again then you will contact the gardai. This is presuming that it hasn't been going on to long!! And if she does contact you again then head straight down to your local garda station. A phone call or visit from the gardai might be the shock into reality she needs.

Life's too short to have to deal with that sort of crazyness!!

this is exactly what i did last night and she sent a message back saying "advice taken"

so hopefully ive made it clear enough to her.

boffin

Well hopefully that will be the end of it - it might have just gotten out of control and she didn't realise how bad her behaviour had gotten...if she does contact you again tho there is something seriously wrong with her and I would go straight to the guards!!! Good luck with your new relationship and hopefully the bunny boiler won't return

HammerHeadGym

You could always put her number up somewhere and have peoplee ring it all the time. Petty and childish to be sure, but that's me. A bully and a coward.

PeakOutput

HammerHeadGym wrote:

You could always put her number up somewhere and have peoplee ring it all the time. Petty and childish to be sure, but that's me. A bully and a coward.

ye something along the lines of "for cheap head call......" see it in the toilets all the time lol

seriously tho op i bet ur glad she dumped you way back when now

rferguson

PeakOutput wrote:

seriously tho op i bet ur glad she dumped you way back when now

You have no idea!!! she is a bunny boiler for sure.