A senaitive question

ablos

Hi,
So here's my question and its more directed at females than males. I've been seeing a girl now for a couple of months and things are going grand except for one thing. When we are having sex her "odour" is very strong and a little off putting, I have never performed oral sex on her its that off putting. Can someone give me some advise please? Is the odour a sympton of something else? How should I approach her about it? Should I even mention it? Your advise would be very welcomed

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PS. If I can elaborate any more please ask

little miss

You have to be careful what you say or the poor girl will be mortified! Maybe she has an infection of some sort, maybe it is bad personal hygiene or maybe that's just her natural smell. Why don't you suggest sharing a bath or shower together before sex as foreplay? See what the smell is like then... If its just a matter of bad personal hygiene, tell her how sexy you think it is when you shower or bathe together, that you love the clean smell of your bodies etc without actually saying, god you smell! Have you discussed your sexual history? I.e, has she ever had an std test? Might be worth asking if both of you should get tested. Appear responsible etc

boffin

Good advice from little miss!!

frizzefreckles

yeah i was going to say what little miss did.

lady_j

Yeah good advice, some infections cause a smell. Dont just say it to her though, she WILL be mortified!

BoozyBabe

I'm assuming you've been with some other women & so it's not just the normal smell that you just don't like?????

Also, how's her diet, as food can play a part in smell & taste also.
i.e. Does she eat a lot of onions, garlic, & other strong flavoured foods?

Oh, & as everyone else suggested above

ablos

Thanks for all your great advise and to answer some of your questions,
Yes I have been with a couple of women before and this is not the same kind of smell.
She is over weight and I'm not slagging her by being so frank about it, she'll say it herself and she would eat garlic etc.
We've talked about people we've been with in the past but she's never mentioned anything about ever having any STD's and just so you know I have never had any.
Oral sex is something i enjoy and have never been bothered by the odour before but this situation is putting a dampner on our sex life...

boffin

Just to clarify ablos your girlfriend can have an infection without it being an std such as thrush and this can have a smell.

But a bad diet and strong flavoured foods can also have an effect as well. I would go with the bath option as a means of conquering the problem for you in the short term. If it is diet etc that it causing it which is long term issue --I have no idea how you would bring that up without mortifying her or upsetting her!

Nevyn

Thrush may be spread via sexual conduct but it is possible to be a virgin and have thrush it is an imblance in the naturally occuring good bacteria in the vagaina.

I suggest that you find one of those usually gods awful glossy zombie i mean women's magaine there is bound to be one with an article about sexual health and taste and foods and leave it lying around.

Cancer-chick

Hear hear Thaedydal Op ..

Really there is no other way you can broach this without totally mortifying the poor girl .. Maybe she is not aware of it and if not this is the only tactful way to broach the subject .. throw in a few other glossies (Or Zombie mags) that you know she reads and away you go ..

Miss Fluff

I am sorry but no female should have a "bad" smell from her lady garden, the only two possiblities are bad personal hygiene or an infection. I think you should say it to her, yes, she may be offended at first but she needs to know. Does she wash every day? As someone pointed out, it could be thrush or some other non-STI, important to get it sorted though.

LegacyUser

'O God, be very gentle. About 10 years ago when I was but a wee teenager, my long term boyfriend at the time told me that I absolutely stank down there - his precise words. Needless to say I was absolutely mortified, and to this day it still haunts me. However, I do know that on that particular day, my period was due the following day and could have had something to do with that. (It doesn't smell anymore btw)
She may have quite good personal hygiene - too good in fact, cleaning herself with soap or shower gel can have adverse affects, and result in a kind of infection which will have a smell.'

jellie

If it was me, although id be mortified id want to know. id be far more embarassed if my bf thought i smelt and didnt tell me and was discussing it with other people.